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>Wife is the one primarily deciding not to have sex.
oh she's having sex, just not with you.

I'm divorced, you're probably on the same path. You need to get that spark going again. I tell me buddy you're always dating your wife, you're always putting in the effort, it's not for everyone. Basically, see a marriage counselor. Also, talk to her. Tell her you love her and want to know why your sex life is horrible. Maybe you got fat or she did and doesn't feel beautiful, who the fuck knows. She'll be cheating on you soon anyway so better do something soon. Telling her about the other woman will either make her get her shit together or blow things up, I'd probably avoid it but your marriage is on the rocks and there's issues there you are in denial about, again, see a specialist.

I'd considered that. And honestly, if I could catch her doing that or prove it, I'd just be glad for a way out that doesn't immediately alienate my entire family/friend group and land me with alimony payments.

You know, she's already seeing someone, right? It goes both ways in her mind, hence why she gave it to you, she feels bad. You're gonna be divorced by end of the year.

sorry to say this user but shes not the woman you should've married. if you can not sit down and have a talk about literally anything it will never fully work, especially on a subject as important as sex, cause sex really is 50% of a relationship. my advice is to try and talk to her, give it a chance. if it doesnt get you anywhere.. move on. find a better woman. you wont ever be happy like this, no matter how many passes you get or how many hookers you fuck

Oh, you're probably still going to pay alimony, leave now so it's cheap. Most states are a no-fault state which means it doesn't matter whojis at fault for the relationship failing, if you make more, you're still responsible, best to leave sooner than later so it's not for life, typically after ten years of marriage it's until she gets married again, which she never will for your money. Talk to a lawyer.

Stop being a bitch and just leave her. This shit only gets worse. She expects you to emotionally support her, financially support her, all her needs etc but your needs? Fuck your needs. This selfishness will expand to all aspects of your life together. Just like now where you have to be careful talking about how you feel, thats just a very lazy tactic shes using to avoid arguments and taking responsibility. That behavior will bleed over into her whole life, soon she wont keep a job and worse.

Just leave. You arent trapped no matter what shes made you think. You arent responsible for her.

thank you for not asking this on r9k. that board is not for normalfags

Tbh paying alimony just sounds like putting a bullet in my head with extra steps.

I could care less if shes fucking someone else. What am I a hypocrite?

That said I really dont think she is, but again dont care. We’re like 5 years past where I got the hall pass and still having date nights, coparenting, cuddling and watching movies, all the emotional stuff. Shows what you know