>be me >be married >be madly in love with someone who isn't my wife >marriage is almost loveless >not even really having sex anymore (mid-20's, wtf?) >starting to think about suicide more and more >always dreaming of the other person I'm in love with >constantly wishing to wake up with a second chance to start life over from the end ld highschool
Am I a shitty person? Or just in a shitty situation? My wife isn't a bitch or anything. We get along fine. We sleep in the same bed. But we don't really have sex anymore and I'm just not happy. We've only been married a few years. Have any of you guys experienced the same? Am I just being an asshole for thinking/feeling this way?
Just be normal. Get a hobby or something to relieve stress and stop thinking about suicide.
Ryder Cook
Fuck your wife multiple times. Get fuckin into it. Like, bust 12 nuts in that bitch into it. See if your eternal longing for someone else is anywhere near as strong; if nah, then stay, if yea, gtfo
Parker Reed
Wife is the one primarily deciding not to have sex.
Robert Rogers
Tell your wife you love her but you need a “hall pass”. Explain that not having sex is taking a toll on her and that you cant be expected to beg any more than you expect her to make herself available if shes not in the mood. Either the relationship ends or it opens. Then take your hallpass and fuck away. Marriage is probably doomed anyway but at least you wont be cheating because you were honest.
Adrian Lee
how's communication between you two? seems to me like you rushed wifing her, bro. the woman you choose to be your wife should be the woman you could go ahead and talk to when shit like this happens. this is a big thing for you and the marriage would never fuckin work if something changes. she should know this, you should discuss this with her. and after having a good mature conversation you should get an idea whether you should continue spending your life with her or nah
Anthony Phillips
Communication has been difficult. She refuses to put her feelings into words to have a discussion with me and if I say anything negative at all she gets extremely hurt.
The idea of telling her about these feelings doesn't sit super well with me.
Chase Lewis
I did something like this with my wife up front. Before we were even married I had a talk with her where I made it clear that I would never beg for or demand sex but that if it wasnt happening I would want the hall pass and if it came to it, if I had to ask, it was already too late and asking would just be a formality. It wasn’t an easy conversation but I used the fact that she, at the time, believed it would never happen to us to convince her that it was only fair to agree. 2 kids later she just tossed me the hall pass on night after a month long dry spell. We are still together and we still even fuck sometimes. I fuck random tinder bitches more often though.
Hunter Wood
>Wife is the one primarily deciding not to have sex. oh she's having sex, just not with you.
Jacob Barnes
I'm divorced, you're probably on the same path. You need to get that spark going again. I tell me buddy you're always dating your wife, you're always putting in the effort, it's not for everyone. Basically, see a marriage counselor. Also, talk to her. Tell her you love her and want to know why your sex life is horrible. Maybe you got fat or she did and doesn't feel beautiful, who the fuck knows. She'll be cheating on you soon anyway so better do something soon. Telling her about the other woman will either make her get her shit together or blow things up, I'd probably avoid it but your marriage is on the rocks and there's issues there you are in denial about, again, see a specialist.
Kevin Powell
I'd considered that. And honestly, if I could catch her doing that or prove it, I'd just be glad for a way out that doesn't immediately alienate my entire family/friend group and land me with alimony payments.
Cameron Hall
You know, she's already seeing someone, right? It goes both ways in her mind, hence why she gave it to you, she feels bad. You're gonna be divorced by end of the year.
Ian Taylor
sorry to say this user but shes not the woman you should've married. if you can not sit down and have a talk about literally anything it will never fully work, especially on a subject as important as sex, cause sex really is 50% of a relationship. my advice is to try and talk to her, give it a chance. if it doesnt get you anywhere.. move on. find a better woman. you wont ever be happy like this, no matter how many passes you get or how many hookers you fuck
James Kelly
Oh, you're probably still going to pay alimony, leave now so it's cheap. Most states are a no-fault state which means it doesn't matter whojis at fault for the relationship failing, if you make more, you're still responsible, best to leave sooner than later so it's not for life, typically after ten years of marriage it's until she gets married again, which she never will for your money. Talk to a lawyer.
Jackson Morales
Stop being a bitch and just leave her. This shit only gets worse. She expects you to emotionally support her, financially support her, all her needs etc but your needs? Fuck your needs. This selfishness will expand to all aspects of your life together. Just like now where you have to be careful talking about how you feel, thats just a very lazy tactic shes using to avoid arguments and taking responsibility. That behavior will bleed over into her whole life, soon she wont keep a job and worse.
Just leave. You arent trapped no matter what shes made you think. You arent responsible for her.
Luke Howard
thank you for not asking this on r9k. that board is not for normalfags
Jordan Roberts
Tbh paying alimony just sounds like putting a bullet in my head with extra steps.
Logan Garcia
I could care less if shes fucking someone else. What am I a hypocrite?
That said I really dont think she is, but again dont care. We’re like 5 years past where I got the hall pass and still having date nights, coparenting, cuddling and watching movies, all the emotional stuff. Shows what you know
Julian Thompson
Avoid alimony by taking whatever illegal things she is doing “drugs, piracy, drinking and driving” by arranging for her to get caught. If you somehow dont have dirt on your own wife you can hire a private eye. No matter what you can find a way to make the court believe shes awful and grant her nothing. Everyone is dirty.
Ian Rodriguez
The person you are in love with, do they know? Are you in contact with them? If so how do they feel?
Asher Diaz
To simplify the situation, it's best described as a one-way affection. She knows. We're kind of in contact. She was my highschool sweetheart. There was something there once, but not really anymore. Part of the suicidal thoughts is that even if I wasn't in this marriage, the one I want is still not going to be with me.
Nicholas Edwards
how do you know she isn't getting dicked down?
Alexander Watson
I dont care if shes getting dicked down
Mason Richardson
This entire thread is filled with morons who made bad decisions and are either stuck in fruitless relationships or have been in one and are now emotionally fucked. You fuckers are making the new generation into cucks, you know that right?
This is some sad pathetic shit
Christopher Bennett
That sucks, I know how you feel, I could not get over my childhood sweetheart, we lost touch for 30 years, 3 marriages later we are back in touch and it is like nothing has happened, after all this lockdown is over we are leaving our partners and we are going to see where it goes. Don’t give up, if you are meant to be together you will find a way
Juan Bell
That's what happens when you marry so fucking young, dumbass.
Grayson Bailey
Follow up on my “I dont care” response to your question. What are you a child?
“Oh no, she touched another penis! It was inside her! Shes forever dirty now!”
Ryan Gray
Just get a divorce wtf
Ian Jones
Reminds me of my favorite joke
Q: why is divorce so expensive? A: because its WORTH IT
Brandon Perry
This joke is getting taxed.
Michael Evans
>he fell for the marriage meme
Wow, its as if a sexless marriage is a completely new thing and you could never have seen this coming
Jonathan Wood
"I thought we would be different." Try not to laugh too hard.
Lincoln Rodriguez
Q: why are black people so good at basketball? A: practice, you racist
Ayden Wilson
Do you have kids? If yes, try to get her to a marriage therapist. At least that will flush out the real problem
If no, divorce. No point wasting your life.
Dylan Edwards
All your girlfriends or wives fucked a bunch of dudes before you, and if you break up or get divorced will fuck a bunch of dudes after you. Maybe even while you are together. Ask your girl how many dudes shes been with. I guarantee you its not a small number.
