I moved out of my place I had with my gf of 4 years...

I moved out of my place I had with my gf of 4 years. She doesn’t know what she wants yet but there’s a chance we will get back together. But I’m scared that the other roomate we had, whos a dude hating pot head chick, will influence her. She also has my gf smoking pot again, and because she has addiction issues it’s not a good thing. I’m still paying for my third of the rent. Do you guys think I should try to get the other roomate in trouble for pot to then get my gf back on the straight and narrow? What do I do? This girl and I were going to have kids and be married

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Bad situation your in dude.

Never live with a woman before marriage.

3rd roommate always will fuck things up.

Give her a few days and move on, user.

But is there anyway to reduce the influence of the third roomate?

Buy a motorcycle, have some fun, forget her. A girl who knows what she wants will show up.

>motorcyclebro
bump

I know I know, logically I should move on and be patient. But tbh boys, if I lose her permanently, I’m offing myself. All I wanted was kids and a wife I loved. She was it, and because of my actions I hurt her so much. There may be a chance, but if there’s not I’m killing myself. She and my mom are gonna be devestated but in the long run, they’ll have peace without me. she doesn’t know what she wants yet but who knows

Let it go. Don't get deeper involved by reporting her friend/roommate, besides th gf could get wrapped up in the legal bs.

>Never live with a woman before marriage.

That's terrible advice, truly.
If you don't know how it is to live with her you might set yourself up for some very bad surprises

It's Straightened Arrow. Come on dude.

>This girl and I were going to have kids and be married.
Enjoy your doom faggot.

Do not snitch on her - if your girlfriend is smoking right now and she’s friend with the pit head girl, snitching would just make your situation a hundred times worse. If your girlfriend is smoking right now and you find a way to make her stop, she’s still going to have the urge to smoke since it wasn’t her choice to stop, it would be yours. Let her stop on her own, trust her to do that, let her have some space for a bit before engaging with her again, just let the situation breathe and let yourself and your girlfriend have some time to think about it. Space gives clarity, and with clarity, spats like this usually get ironed out. I’ve had lots of relationship troubles with multiple long term partners, and it usually gets worked ott it, user. Hang in there, good luck

Yeah that’s what I was worried about. As much as I dislike the roomate, I don’t want my gf getting into trouble. I’d have to like find a way to only get the roomate in trouble and even then that’s hard and also unethical
She and I were amazing living together honestly, it was me who fucked it up
I read this about 5 times till I got it lmao, thanks for the laugh dude
Very good point user, thank you. They’re not really friends, but my gf needs her for rides to and from work. But still, the roomate is just so man hating and even though she has a boyfriend, she’s also bi so she basically does everything possible to not seem like a basic white girl. But you’re right, if it’s her choice to stop then she may actually stick to it. I also get scared with the whole corona thing though because apparently smoking can open you up to it. But anyway thank you and I’m sorry about your relationship troubles in the past. This is our first time ever having distance. I heard that no contact can be helpful and I told her that if she’d like to not have to feel like she has to let me know she’s safe after getting rides, it’s okay. But she doesn’t acknowledge it and has still texted me letting me know where she is. I wanna give her space and distance but it’s hard. I have some hope, and I’m seeing a therapist today, but fuck, the suspense is killing me not knowing about the future. I’ve always been hyper confident and for the first time I actually hate myself for hurting her so much and destroying what we had. So that’s also why I wanna kill myself

> I moved out of my place I had with my gf of 4 years. She doesn’t know what she wants yet but there’s a chance we will get back together.

no there isn't

>the other roomate
Step 1
Fuck him in the ass.
Step 2
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Step 3
Eat the girl.

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If this is true, then I’m gonna kill myself. No point in living and having kids with anyone else but her.
They’re both girls but I’ll think about it

> If this is true, then I’m gonna kill myself. No point in living and having kids with anyone else but her

so you two are drifting apart because you're a drama queen, got it

Share some pic of that " roomate "

No it’s because I hurt her, and I’m thinking that I might be better off dead to save them anymore chaos.

just man the fuck up, she's not the only girl in the world no matter how much you think she is, there are plenty of bitches out there, no reason to off yourself over only one of them, king

The more you're attached to her, the more she'll drift away, so save yourself the trouble and move on

handgun

Anyone stupid enough to kill themself over a woman or man is better off being removed from the gene pool. so, go for it, it's the dumbest of reasons to do something like that, which means you're dumb, which means we really don't need you around

From literally three messages I have seen on an anonymous messageboard from you, I am apt to agree. May your aim be straight and true.

I understand, but when I eventually find another girl, I’m gonna compare her to this one, and even though it may sound lame, they won’t measure up
I know, I’m gonna give her space and time. I’m not thinking about killing myself soon, but it’s something that may happen
You guys are right I guess. I’m gonna give it a year probably and then I’ll make sure to aim correctly

4/23/2021 then, it's a date

> You guys are right I guess. I’m gonna give it a year probably and then I’ll make sure to aim correctly

see this is why no one believes you and thinks you're a drama queen. don't give me this "next year" bullshit. Do it now or shut up about it and be a better man, faggot

Well I mean I’m gonna live for the chance to patch things up with her. I’m not trying to be a drama queen. I just was wondering if anyone else had been through something like this. I just don’t see the point in living if you will forever be haunted by something you did. Why should I kill myself now when I haven’t even given her a month yet to clear her head.

How old are you, user!?
I know it feels super-dramatic and tragic, but you Seriously have to work on opening your mind and heart to, not only other women (work on that confident mindset you had before this bitch - remember you had confidence before any woman, and it comes from you, not co-dependence), but to the future - which has possibilities with thousands of other women (who, though you might not believe it now, but I Promise, hold just as much or more potential than this one, single girl)...
But you have to move past this situation And this girl - let her go, because she has to make up her mind without you, and you obviously have some work to do Without her. If you still like each other later on, fine, but just work from the assumption that it's over - you fucked up. Change, move on - that's life

> Well I mean I’m gonna live for the chance to patch things up with her.

not happening

> I’m not trying to be a drama queen.
then you have BPD or some other cluster B disorder

> I just was wondering if anyone else had been through something like this.
A breakup? Yeah. They have. They move on. They don't get all sappy emo on an Uzbek frog hieroglyph appreciation forum and act like Romeo lovestruck over Rosaline

> I just don’t see the point in living if you will forever be haunted by something you did.

Most people aren't forever haunted. But it looks like you will be, so, no point in living. Move along now, we need your oxygen.

> Why should I kill myself now when I haven’t even given her a month yet to clear her head.

it's over between you two. You can accept it and move on with life and that's fine. You can fail to accept it and remove yourself from the world and that's fine too. What is not fine is bellyaching about it on some Cambodian daguerrotype forum and hold out false hope like Lennie talking about the rabbits

Drop her. On to the next.
It's really that simple.

I’m 22 and she’s 21. She’s not a bitch, and even though I’m hurt that she wants very little to do with me right now, I deserve it. She’s the sweetest person on this planet. But you are right, inside I know that the world is a big place and maybe there’s a girl that’ll come close. I guess I’m only on day 5 so as
said, I am being dramatic. Looking inward again, I guess I do just want attention and sympathy, which is weak. I should be content with my punishment and just focus on maybe making things work between us. But I more so meant dealing with the suicidal thoughts and making them go away. I’m not hungry, I’m still working out but I don’t really feel it, and I feel like I have trouble breathing most of the time. I know what you mean, but I can’t just yet. It’s only been 5 days, I’m gonna give it longer. I’ll try to work on the suicidal thoughts.

kek