How can I tell if my mom was trying to groom me as a kid...

We need a pic of your mum for science

Do you think you’d be able to track down nudes? I’m kinda sketch giving out her face and info but god damn it would be so amazing

get drunk with her, give her the same eyes she been giving u, bring up sex, flirt. push the envelope

So, like, say for example were alone in the house together, in the living room watching tv, like put my arm around her? Stuff like getting physically close, but in a relatively ambiguous manner so I can deny any ill intentions?

She's probably traumatized by her upbringing, if you grew up normal with a few puzzling moments props to her, she broke the circle of abuse. Was she also a single mom?

Of she broke the circle of abuse this thread wouldn't exist.

After her and my dad split yeah. She bounced from relationship to relationship up until about 3 or 4 years ago when she reconnected with an old friend from high school. He’s a genuinely nice guy who’s done a lot to help me personally. So i really want to make sure she’d be down for it without potentially shooting myself in the foot. I have a lot to lose if I’m misreading this situation

And also even if she broke the cycle of sexual abuse she definitely created a whole new cycle of hypochondria and munchausens and munchausen’s by proxy. Like even if she didn’t try to diddle me she has gaslighted me my whole life and faked being deathly ill on a pretty regular basis over the years. Like everything from emphysema to MS.

From what I can tell from emdr is I want to have sex with my mom because I've seen her have sex with her brother. It's all really vague because I must've been really young. When I tell her I want to have sex with her or tell her I have neverending sexual thoughts about her or sexual dreams about her she calls me an "ishy creep"

Wait, you saw your mom fuck your uncle? Damn that’s intense. Kinda reminds of my best friend. He/“she” thinks that he’s/“she’s” a product of incest between his/“her” bio mom/legal sister and bio uncle/legal brother. He was adopted and raised by his grandma, hence why I have the biological and legal modifiers