Can people change? I’m 22 and this past winter I let my ego get out of control due to my past of feeling insecure...

>I compromised my morals and my ethics
How?

No worries bro, the fact that you've identified that there's something wrong with your actions means that you're not a bad person and it also means that you're already further along the path to who you want to be than you probably thought. Nobody is infallible, don't be too hard on yourself.

Ooof....nothing like wasting a bunch of money being brainwashed into being "normal"

Everything and everyone is in a constant state of change. It’s impossible to stop. Denying or trying to prevent these changes causes pain.

So yeah, everything can change.

Be more specific about what you've done, coward.

I see your point. So do you think the verbal/physical adaptation was me trying to be a bad boy during my college years (I’m a senior rn) it do you think the adaptation is me currently trying to become good again? Like for example I feel so much better not having that pressure I did to be somebody else because I realized that the things I valued weren’t money or prestige but my family. So is that me going through a phase or me returning to my true self?
Thanks again user, it really means a lot to me what you wrote. I’m trying to focus on that mindset when keeping my motivation in terms of improving. I’m gonna improve regardless but all the cynicism around changing was getting to me. I still feel bad about my family though, that’s why I’m especially focused on this
I’m never gonna be normal, just better

Listen. She won't get back with you user. Stop trying to change yourself to impress her. Just accept whatever it was for whatever it was and move on. You don't need an ego death or to be roided up and obsessed with change to not be a desperate clinger. Changing that will make you a million times better. There are no cheap shortcuts though. Just avoid and focus on new shit

Thanks for the advice user, I know what you mean. And I don’t mean I want to be rounded up, I’ve long since grown out of the I wanna be bigger than Arnold phase of listing. I hear you, I’m trying to be realistic about things and I know my life won’t just magically be sunshine and rainbows. But the bond she and I have is beyond comprehension, we’re soulmates. Idc if that sounds like a simp, it’s true and we’ve always felt that way about eachother. As for my family, they know I’m young and they’re supporting my change, I still wanna make them proud though. You should wanna improve for yourself but improving for those you love is also a good motivator imo

What did you do?

>Can people change?
absolutely

it usually takes a big shock for them to look inwardly but when they do, people can and often do change their whole way of thinking and acting and become a more positive influence in others lives

i'm not talking about fake bullshit like going to a confessional and bam all your sins are gone and you're reborn so innocent. i'm talking about dwelling on and thinking about and understanding that you have done bad things and that you are a shit head. accepting the guilt. once you've understood, accepted the guilt and come to terms with your failings you find it very easy, natural even, to be and do the opposite of every one of those things.

everyone is a cunt for a period, some people can and do change and some pretend to. if you can be one of those who does then that's great. the shitty part is that nobody you've ever hurt in the past will truly believe you have only good intentions towards them for the future, some things will always be stained or at least for a long time until they see you're genuinely different.