So my 5/10 girlfriend of 8 years has a stupidly low libido. We have sex like once a month (if that).
She never initiates sex, so I gotta do all the work (which is fine) but I’m sick of trying to get her in the mood only to be shot down or told “you have a high sex drive, user, and I just don’t”
What do?
Dump the bitch. She’s getting so much side dick it’s wearing her out.
Oral sex
Do house chores and take her to dinner or watch a romcom with her or whatever she wants. Then blowjob.
let her know that if you don't get it AT LEAST once a week, you're fucking gone. grow some balls OP.
don't listen to this fairy.
no man ever got laid by acting like a fucking woman.
start doing chores and housework take her somewhere fancy once a month. if she isn't fucking you. It means she isn't into you.
In the same boat. She's had a hysterectomy in her 30s for medical reasons and now I manage to bully her into letting me fuck her every 6 weeks.
Asked if I could fuck other people, big fight follows, she lies and says she'll change. Doesn't.
I'm currently laying the groundwork to fuck her best friend that comes over to stay twice a week. Having pheremones in the house is driving me insane, I'm jerking it 10+ times a day.
If after 8 years you are having problems with sex it's likely a bad relationship mang.
Sex isn't the only thing in a relationship but it IS a major one. If you're talking to the internet about it, then it's not good.
People grow out of each other.
Talk to her honestly about it.
I would guess she is not into you any more and too lazy to say it. I would guess you are the same way.
Break up.
This is coming from a 40 year old man with decades of experience dating different women and being married.
There is no "fixing" this situation there is nothing on earth you can do. The sex isn't there, the passion isn't there and it will never return.
So move on or live a life where each day is worse than the last. Breaking up is like jumping into cold water, don't overthink it just do it and move forward.
That’s rough man. Look, if she’s not worth it, you gotta bounce. Especially if you’re young and relationship isn’t too old
I can confirm she isn’t getting anything on the side. We hang out pretty well every day, and again, she’s like 5/10.
Been there. Cut your losses. Mine was my highschool sweetheart, solid 9. It was the most unproductive infuriating experience of my life. It made me wonder what was wrong with me that she wanted to get married but not have sex. A real mindfuck.
She’s either cheating on you or you guys are only still together because of convenience and familiarity. I’ve dealt with the latter. It will only lead to resentment and bitterness. Leave in good terms while it’s still possible.
dont be a pussy, i used to fuck 3 times a day when i slid thru. I didnt even live with her,,, point is if you aint fuckin her someone is. girls want dick like guys want pussy, they dont claim to cause then they lose the power of the pussy. anyways have a good one
We had a big chat about it a few months ago. It was pretty serious and she was crying. I deadass asked her if she was gay.
I don’t know if I can pull the plug on the relationship now, anyway. Pretty much my entire family (immediate and extended) love her to bits. If I suddenly dumped her because I wasn’t getting any tail, I’d probably be cut from the fam. Not a joke. I saw it happen to an uncle that cheated on his wife. We all still hang out with the wife and we are the uncle like once a year.
OP you already know what you need to do
If you don't have kids, consider yourself lucky.
I dont know what to say about happy post-relationship stuff.
This is exactly it. We y’all about marriage and getting a house all the time.
She talks about kids and I have to bite my tongue before saying “don’t you need to have sex in order to have kids...?”
Who gives a fuck good lord buddy be a man. If they give you shit tell them it’s none of their goddamn business. You gotta look out for you. Are any of them gonna suck your dick since she isn’t? No. So end it, tell them all to fuck off, and go find some strange.
why isnt she giving you handjobs or oral? are you giving her what she wants?
Lol, Asking her if she was gay was probably not awesome.
Ending relationships is hard and sucks. If your whole family knows her you two have been around together for a while.
I dunno. It sounds like your relationship is toxic. I would say just cut it off. I would be surprised if either of you have been happy in the last few months or even years.
I crossed paths with in an old couple at a restaurant a while back, probably in their late 70s. Not creeping on them but was just kind of people watching and seeing their cute little mannerisms and shit, he cut up her steak for her, she giggled at a little steak sauce on his face and then dabbed it off him with a napkin, she had big old hearing aids so he'd lean in close to talk to her, gay but heartwarming.
Anyways, we ended up leaving and paying our bill at the same time, as we're all walking out he holds the door for us all and then opens the car door for his wife and kisses her hand as he kinda guides her in.
I was just in awe of the whole thing, I'd recently broken up with my gf and seeing such true love was really heart warming. I felt stupid as fuck but as he's walking around to the drivers seat I kinda stopped him and straight up was like "Man, you have some true love right there, that's awesome." He smiled and nodded and said "Yup, goin on 45 years, never a dull moment." Feels kinda washed over me with that statement, true love, fuck, amazing.
So I had to ask a super lame question. "What's your secret? How can I end up like you one day?". He smiled again, looked back at his wife in the car as she smiled at him, then he leaned in real close and said "Cheat". He winked at me and got in the car.
He was right. If your wife or long term gf is an ice queen, ya gotta do what ya gotta do.
What kind of adult wants handjobs are you 15?
Contrary to popular belief the cuttlefish strategy is viable
have sex with someone else. Stop pestering her
fuck off, ops gf is being a lazy bitch
Based Dane Cook joke but in all reality this is the truth.
Shitty Boomer joke
This pasta needs some salt, king
Maybe after 8 years u still suck at bed, or maybe u are still together BC she doesn't have the courage to dump ur ass
This is the best answer
Damnit is that where I lifted that punchline from? I couldn't remember but yeah you're right shit. Still holds true tho.
well, sleep with another that can help compensate the libido
Serious answer from someone who has actually been there and lived it for years until it finally improved.
Either end it or go to couple's therapy. She or you might need individual therapy too. I mean real sex therapy that's really about changing and improving your relationship. not just trying to make you learn to live with this toxic relationship.
Ending it is OK. But if you are willing to try, tell her that this relationship IS NOT SUSTAINABLE and needs to either change or end. Once this whole social distancing / isolation thing is over, find real therapy.
I'm not some hippy foo-too touchy-feely guy, but therapy really saved my relationship and changed by life for the better. Turns out my partner wasn't just "naturally" low libido or unsexual or unattracted to me. She had real mental hangups, but ones that could be overcome.
Pretty sure I am.
When we had that huge chat, I laid it all out on the table. I asked her about if she wasn’t into me anymore or if I wasn’t attractive anymore or if she wasn’t really into dudes anymore etc etc.
She was super sad and just said to me that she has issues with her sex drive and that it’s frustrating, but she’s just not in the mood to smash all the time.
She told me that her lack of self confidence was probably the biggest factor in her low sex drive. Because she didn’t see herself as sexy, so why should she feel sexy. Y’know?
Welcome to married life
Rape her. I'm dead serious. Rape is an extremely common fetish for women, though very few admit it. It could very well be that the reason she's never horny is because the thought of being raped is the only thing that gets her off, and she just won't tell because she's a woman. The worst thing she can do is leave you over it, and what do you have to lose at this point?
Talk to her about it.
You have to be 18 or older to post on this board.
Too bad there's no rule against moralfags.
If the reasons to stay with her are so weak you're asking advice on b then yeah get tf did of her and live a happy life
Easiest solution in the world.
Eat her box. Dead serious. It won't make you guys talk a lot but it makes her feel great.
Imagine what it takes for a lady to hold her breathe and suck on a dick.
This answer fucking rocks, man. Thank you. You’ve given me hope.
