Just learned my ex got raped and it is indirectly my fault, i feel like shit, AMA I guess

Her mistakes are not your fault. It is not your job to ensure that everyone is getting the proper life education from their experiences with you. Otherwise you have directly killed or hurt dozens of people by not ensuring that they received the proper lessons from interacting with you.

Begone glowie

Why blame yourself for a rapists direct action?

>she got raped and pinned it on you, while you were seeing someone else.
how is that even indirectly your fault and why do you even care if she got raped? she raped you emotionally by whatever happened

whores can't get raped

she never was very good with seeing intentions behind people, i had warned her i didn't trust the guy and she thought i was only trying to isolate her from meeting new people, which was half true.

but since I had stopped talking to her, and had cut her off everytime she tried to get back with me, in combination with me introducing her to drinking when we were together, I don't know, i feel i have some blame in it.

Tell her to call the cops then break up. She is too irresponsible and is a ticking time bomb. Way too many red flags.

It wasn't your job to be her protector. She went out and got hurt. Would it be your fault if they were in a car accident instead?

Sounds like a case of fun-at-the-time-regretted-it-later-on.
>"You wanted to have sex!"
>"I had a drink and couldn't consent!"
>"But it was your idea!"
>"Raaaaaape!"

yeah i get where you are coming from, but i made her feel like she could trust people you know, she would be fine if she had kept being like she was before meeting me.

And being her only friend i wasn't there everytime she felt doubts, i wasn't there to talk to her about things that were bothering her, i've made a promise to her to being there and i wasn't there.

>and it is indirectly my fault
What you 'accidentally' raped her ?
Who were you trying to rape?

The way i treated her and the acusations i threw without proof led her to get closer to him, instead of doubting he was such a nice guy as he presented himself.

Also sounds like she's trying to guilt trip you.
>rides BBC for hours
>"Look what you made me do!"

It doesn't matter. Just because you tell her something that doesn't mean that the consequences are your fault. She still made the decision to listen to your advice.

She never pinned it on me, we started talking again at the beginning of the year, she just told me what happened because i made a comment that made her remember it, she told me because i am again her only friend.
The situation is over now, she dealt with it alone, it was at the start of the year. I just got to know it now, that is why i made the post.

It wasn't my job to protect her, but when we first met i've made a promise to her i wouldn't let her feel alone, we were teenagers then, she had a troubled past and no friends, she tried to contact me several times for my opinions on certain actions he was taking to see if they were redflags, since she was a NEET and wasn't good reading people.
She wouldn't gain nothing to calling it a rape afterwards, by what she told me she could barely walk, we used to drink heavily when we were together, i introduced her to that.

She isn't guilt tripping me, we are friends, this happened months ago, she never implied i had any guilt over this, she told me because i am again her only friend and it was hard for her to carry this alone.
i guess you are right, doesn't mean i feel ok with everything tho.

>her only friend
how fucking old is she?
thats the kind of shit emo spergs say to make people feel bad for them

She is 23, lives in a small town and grew up with a conservative family, she didn't go outside, she only studies and work. When i say i am her only friend i mean IRL friend, she has friends on the internet, which is where we've first met.

why do you care so much about her desu? the spark between you two died in the breakup, any rekindling would just hurt the two of you

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>but when we first met i've made a promise to her
"user, promise me you'll always protect me!" Sorry dude but anime is not real life.

She was a good friend in the time i needed the most, just because i don't want to date her doesn't mean i have to stop caring for her, i still want to see her happy.

My endgoal isn't to get back with her, it is just to see her well, and she has been since she has opened her shop and has been studying. I just feel bad because i feel like i've made her go through probably the biggest trauma of her life.

nigga i was 15 kissless virgin at the time, for all i knew anime was real life.

blaming yourself for something you had no control over is just ignorant. you need to have priorities straight. she isnt your gf and if her being around you causes you discomfort, then you need to remove her