How do I break out of my self hatred and stop being an incel - Or am I damned to be a virgin forever...

Bro, get on Tinder and treat women like they're men. That's basically it. The only difference between talking to your homie and talking to a woman is that you want to tone down the edginess.

Don't shave the beard. It's manly.

Travel and have fun. Woman sees you having fun, they want to steal your happiness.

Don't ever call a girl pretty. Tell her she's cool.

Pretty much stop giving a fuck about people's feelings, and people will wonder what is going on in your head.

Well since you don’t have much experience with women you are trying to run before you’ve crawled. If you go with the idea of just getting laid your view of women is gonna be skewed and you’re just gonna treat them like meat.

What you want them for is irrelevant. But your approach is gonna be clunky and awful.

Clean up your appearance, learn something that’s useful for conversation.

What I’ve found with a lot of incels is they lack ambition and direction. Despite it being 2020 men are still very much providers and leaders in relationships and women gravitate towards that.

Be well read, learn about current events and have an educated opinion on them, delve into music.

Try tinder for women honestly. Lots of them want relationships on there and it’s women from all walks of life.

Go get a proper haircut and beard trim and report back user. We will take it from there.

go to Yas Forums and read the sticky nigger. and theres a lot more to lifting than increasing your sex appeal. it gives you confidence. you will take better care of yourself. everyone should have one physical activity. you may even meet a girl at the gym.

*trim

Not shave.

He looks homeless. Quit lying to him.

>To my fellow incels who are reading this, how do you cope with being an incel?
You don't
>As you get older, do you kind of just "get over it," like I've heard some incels say?
No but at least around 35 your sexual urge is gone
>Or do you find ways to distract yourself?
You keep working and putting on a facade of normalcy.
Reading mathematics, physics, computer science, programming helps a lot.

There has to be someone else (friend/sibling) in your life that has more interaction than you currently have. Just see if they want to go somewhere to eat (maybe some new place) or go to a concert. Start out small so YOU don't get overloaded. Cutting you hair, being pleasant, standing up straight, all say that YOU care about YOU. NO decent chick wnats to have sex with someone who doesn't even like their self. AND, there is no reason you have to drink when you go out; in fact being the DD is a great position to be in.

Just pay for sex, you dumb fucking bastard!

Precisely the type of answer I was looking for. Thank you.

And one more thing, man. You're okay. You look good, just need a shave and a haircut. :^) The reason for going on Tinder is it takes the pressure off you to get the girl in bed because by meeting her on that platform, there is an unspoken sexual implication. Which means when you meet up you can ask her what she wants to do. You have a little date or maybe you just hit it. Easy-peasy, and you look good! You have this.