How do I break out of my self hatred and stop being an incel - Or am I damned to be a virgin forever? I have so many strikes against me, I'm short, extremely skinny, ugly, etc.
A bonus question would be: To my fellow incels who are reading this, how do you cope with being an incel? As you get older, do you kind of just "get over it," like I've heard some incels say? Or do you find ways to distract yourself?
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become gay. girls are overrated, just learn to fuck a guys asshole, its the same. anyone disagreeing is a fucking simp
If this pic is really you, you are not ugly. Get a haircut, trim you beard and eyebrows, standup straight, and read Dale Carnegie.
Not my thing. Sorry, just can't get into it.
What user said.
Shave the beard.
Smile.
Talk to girls at every opportunity without expecting Anything, just to get practice.
Be pleasant. Be yourself. Try to make them laugh.
The rest will follow.
I was a NEET incel for years. As the time ticked away I thought I was destined to live like this forever. I was fat, nasty, into anime. Hit my 20s and nothing changed. Was pretty much ready to just give into it fully. When I hit 21 all of a sudden everything flipped turned upside down. Got into one little fight and my mom got scared. Now I'm living with my aunt and uncle in Bel Air.
I agree w/ these anons
also, just wear normal clothes(no cringe shirts) and if you comm w/ facebook/ig/etc, remove the edgy crap.
shave. the. beard.
I was an incel. Eventually though some stuff happened and I was able to find a girlfriend. She helped give me confidence to become a normie. Not normie enough though to not visit you faggots.
Care about your appearance. Proper grooming. Women are super into grooming even down to using proper skin care on your face. It goes a long way with them. If you don’t exercise, start. When you look good, you feel good and when you don’t have to fake feeling good, people naturally gravitate towards you.
shut up simp
Stop caring what other people think about you.
You don't. It's over.
You say this while having a bieber cut and a beard like you live on a deserted island
1. cut your hair and beard
2. use a moisturizer on your face
3. lift weights if you dont already (go over to Yas Forums and read the sticky
4. dress in clothing that fits you (go to /fa/ and read the sticky)
cant give specific advice without knowing more about your lifestyle. godspeed user
I really appreciate the advice. But how will simply "cutting my hair", "being pleasant", and "standing up straight" get me laid? First of all, I don't even interact with women, ever. With the line of work that I do, I have ZERO interaction with women. And when I'm not working, I'm just playing League of Legends or World of Warcraft for the rest of my time. I guess what I'm asking is, how do I meet women? Where should I go to meet them, like a bar or a club? Thing is too, I fucking hate alcohol. So I don't know how that will work out.
I'm lazy and depressed af lately so I haven't bothered shaving it.
I've looked into working out in the past but I find it extremely difficult. (I know, I'm stupid as fuck.) I wouldn't even know where to begin with the whole working out thing. Also, how long would it take to get serious results?
It all seems so fucking pointless - spending hundreds of hours in the gym just to attract some cunt lmao.
just buy a prostitute if you want to get laid. if you want to be more desirable to the opposite sex, follow the lifestyle advice above
Bro, get on Tinder and treat women like they're men. That's basically it. The only difference between talking to your homie and talking to a woman is that you want to tone down the edginess.
Don't shave the beard. It's manly.
Travel and have fun. Woman sees you having fun, they want to steal your happiness.
Don't ever call a girl pretty. Tell her she's cool.
Pretty much stop giving a fuck about people's feelings, and people will wonder what is going on in your head.
Well since you don’t have much experience with women you are trying to run before you’ve crawled. If you go with the idea of just getting laid your view of women is gonna be skewed and you’re just gonna treat them like meat.
What you want them for is irrelevant. But your approach is gonna be clunky and awful.
Clean up your appearance, learn something that’s useful for conversation.
What I’ve found with a lot of incels is they lack ambition and direction. Despite it being 2020 men are still very much providers and leaders in relationships and women gravitate towards that.
Be well read, learn about current events and have an educated opinion on them, delve into music.
Try tinder for women honestly. Lots of them want relationships on there and it’s women from all walks of life.
Go get a proper haircut and beard trim and report back user. We will take it from there.
go to Yas Forums and read the sticky nigger. and theres a lot more to lifting than increasing your sex appeal. it gives you confidence. you will take better care of yourself. everyone should have one physical activity. you may even meet a girl at the gym.
*trim
Not shave.
He looks homeless. Quit lying to him.
>To my fellow incels who are reading this, how do you cope with being an incel?
You don't
>As you get older, do you kind of just "get over it," like I've heard some incels say?
No but at least around 35 your sexual urge is gone
>Or do you find ways to distract yourself?
You keep working and putting on a facade of normalcy.
Reading mathematics, physics, computer science, programming helps a lot.
There has to be someone else (friend/sibling) in your life that has more interaction than you currently have. Just see if they want to go somewhere to eat (maybe some new place) or go to a concert. Start out small so YOU don't get overloaded. Cutting you hair, being pleasant, standing up straight, all say that YOU care about YOU. NO decent chick wnats to have sex with someone who doesn't even like their self. AND, there is no reason you have to drink when you go out; in fact being the DD is a great position to be in.
Just pay for sex, you dumb fucking bastard!
Precisely the type of answer I was looking for. Thank you.
And one more thing, man. You're okay. You look good, just need a shave and a haircut. :^) The reason for going on Tinder is it takes the pressure off you to get the girl in bed because by meeting her on that platform, there is an unspoken sexual implication. Which means when you meet up you can ask her what she wants to do. You have a little date or maybe you just hit it. Easy-peasy, and you look good! You have this.
This solidifies my suspicions of your attitude.
It sucks.
“Hundreds of hours to attract some cunt”
That has loser written all over it. You gotta change your attitude. You can’t have an air of superiority when you can’t even get laid. Looking at women as just “cunt” is a weak dick energy view.
You name all these physical things wrong with you...realize that women dont go out with you because you're not outgoing or interesting. Go on tinder or something and start matching. Shave that beard. Women aren't just going to go up to you and suck your dick and sitting on the computer all day wont fix shit.
It's so hard and you cant do this or that ... the definition if insanity is doing the same shit over and over again expecting a different result. Yes I have been playing farcry 3 and yes you can do it.
I guarantee you that if you leave your parents basement and you get a job your chances of having sex increase by 300%.
So do this first and leave the basement you faggot.
It's born of frustration
not really pointless, better sex life when you do get laid, overall well being, i can go on with the benefits of being in shape but i don't really care
>women dont go out with you because you're not outgoing or interesting
This.
Also you never do a move so they leave you after a while you pussy.
>AND, there is no reason you have to drink when
>you go out; in fact being the DD is a great position
>to be in.
can confirm. have had sex several times just for being the nice guy. one warning, just make sure she's not drunk,drunk. that could spell disaster
Oh please. Don't hit me with the "hurr durr misogynistic" crap. I really don't give a fuck anymore dude. You really need to understand the true nature of women if you want to take a proper look inside my head. I would recommend channels like "Turd Flinging Monkey" and "Face & LMS" on YouTube to get a picture of how I view females. This video changed my life: youtube.com
Lemme break it down a little further.
Being frustrated with women because they aren’t attracted to you is backwards. It implies that because you are a man they should gravitate towards you simply because you’re a man and it’s also an underlying view that women are subservient.
This is not the case. Do they behave as subs? Yes. But when it’s on their terms.
Treat women like people and not cattle and it goes further.
the most important step is to is stop fapping TODAY and go lift SOMETHING.
the most urgent purchase is to get some beard oil/cream and soften that bitch up.
the most urgent step is to go outside and walk around in nature fast enough to break a sweat.
good luck user, remember that hope springs eternal
Lmfao I’m literally fucking 3 different women right now. I don’t think I’m the one having a problem with my sex life.
Blow it out your ass ya fuckin incel.
You could stand to do some personal grooming for starters bro. Beards are cool bro, but manage that fuckin shit so it doesn’t look like a rats nest. Honestly, you look like a homeless person. That’s pretty much it though. It’s easy to fix the outside, if you’re an adult virgin it’s probably deeper than simply the way you look. I’ve never had much of a high opinion of the way I look but I’ve been assured many times over the years that I am attractive to women. It’s helpful if you’re not an entitled douche, whether you’re wealthy, attractive, or you just have a big cock, women don’t like entitled douchebags. And if you’re a self-proclaimed incel, your core problem is the fact that on some level you believe women exist to be your gf and have sex with you, cook your meals and clean your socks while you play COD. And that’s just not the way the world works, my dude. Keep your expectations low, and don’t be a douche. If you can’t manage that then you’re probably better off alone.
If you "value" women (like you previously implied) in any other way except for sex, then you're a beta faggot. But no matter, you'll be their beta provider in one way or another. Be it the State stealing money out of your pocket to fund some little crotch goblin that you no longer get to see, or via a "traditional" marriage where your wife sits on her ass and you pay all the bills.
Lmfao. What a maroon.
I'm not getting on Tinder. I've already tried it, and the only people who respond to me are bots, morbidly obese women, and fat niggers. I can literally sit there and swipe right on thousands of women and I never get a match.
>I’m literally fucking 3 women right now
Apologizing because you aren’t a faggot is the gayest shit ever.
>I really don't give a fuck anymore dude
contradicts the whole premise on which the thread exists.
Anger and frustration show that you care a lot.
Also, the attitude part wasn't so much directed at misogyny, but rather at stoicism (or lack thereof) if I understand correctly.
Liar, it's 1 woman/beard ring, you're only fucking 2!
Learn to be honest with your intentions. Women have the magic ability to smell someone's bullshit from a mile away.
u look pretty!
Don’t be mad user. Just do it.
Who's growing beards during the LOCKDOWN?
>Looking at women as just “cunt” is a weak dick energy view.
Wrong He said that^^^. Which implies that I'm a misogynist, or that I have an irrational hatred of women. It's just a dismissive tactic. Trust me, as an incel I hear it from the Jewish media 24 fucking hours a day about how horrible I am, and how much of a misogynist I am, etc. Which is why I'm posting this on Yas Forums. I have no where else to go, and no one IRL would still associate with me if they figured out that I'm a virgin at 26 and figured out my actual opinions of women.
Lol your opinions are misogynistic. So..yeah. Get over it and be less shitty.
Nah dude, I'm sure there's a lot of people out there who are more than happy to help a virgin out. You just have to find the right folks to hang around.
My opinions about women are based in reality. You just don't understand female nature.
Why is prostitution not an option?
You’re doing so well with understanding you can’t get laid.
Congratulations you’re a moron.
the thing is, neither me nor you know what exactly he meant to imply by stating this.
You interpreted it as implying you're a misogynist.
I interpreted it as implying a lack of backbone towards unpleasant shit that can happen.
None of us can know what he really wanted to imply. I just stated a different view on it. The advantage of that viewpoint is, that the one who holds it has no reason to get pissed. Since there is no evidence favoring any of these, I prefer to choose the one that is less of a hassle to hold.
I've considered it. I don't want an STD and I don't want to get arrested. But like I said before, I live with my parents and have been working since I was 14 so I have a shit load of money saved up. I've been thinking about going to Thailand or some shit to fuck some prostitutes. But that wouldn't cure my incel problem. I ultimately want a relationship with a woman. Specifically a white woman.
I know why I can't get women. Because I'm a short, ugly cunt. I get that. But that wasn't even the question I was asking. I was asking OTHER incels if it gets easier to cope with being an incel as time goes on, or not.
by the very definition of it, once you cope with it, you're no longer an incel. So the question makes no sense.
Truth is you can get an STD from anyone, even people who are tested frequently. It would be funny for you to go to Thailand to get laid but those slits are probably going to get warts on your dick faster than anyone here.
You have a fuckload of money, just go to the legal prostitution brothels in nevada. If not then you should be able to find a high class escort...there are websites with reviews...$1k later your balls are drained and you somehow feel so much better. That's what I would do.
1 thousand dollars to fuck some femoid for an hour? Fuck that lmao. I'd rather smash some 18 year old Thai cum rag for 100 bucks and get to play with her all night.
You are the invention of a jew. That's why you'll never get laid. Anyway, you don't need it. .|.
Nope, my parents aren't Jewish.