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What are are reasons that would be red flags and ones that would get a pass?

That's a lot to put on someone who I assume you weren't dating.
Going to need a short backstory.

Yes. After 4 years of friendship. But there's no way she will look at me the same way unfortunately. It's been 6 months and I'm still crushing on her, HARD.

(me)
The reason I think I'm like this is because when I meet someone early on, I have the thought "hey, it might be possible to get in a relationship with this person". With most people, after I've met them a few times I convince myself that they wouldn't see me in any sort of romantic way.

The people I have developed a crush on are the girls who are way more friendly, laugh at my jokes, don't seem immediately judgemental and aren't aloof (or in a relationship already), so I don't immediately dismiss the idea of a relationship. I've never acted on a crush though, so they usually just stay as friends and eventually find their own relationships.

About 28 or so. If he works constantly or something its less weird because obviously he doesnt have much time to meet girls. If he had offers but rejected them it makes him look less desperate and volcel. But then some women might wonder if he is gay or something.

Women deserve death and should be dismembered and raped.

we're just friends, we met last year (in person) but we've been talking almost everyday since september 19, anyways when i say that "i love you" it was more in a sense of "i like you that you are in my life and i'm greateful because of it" (a "te quiero" kind of thing) he left me on read, and even though we're fairly communicate on social media, he hardly knowledge me today.

not her but I think of it like this

red flag: celibate despite seeking sex from any woman who gives them the time of day, never been in a relationship because they wanted to play the field

pass: volcel (for whatever reason), never been in a relationship because they didn't meet the right person, haven't bothered with relationships or sex because they've been busy with work

basically if they're putting lots of effort into getting casual sex and no effort into getting to know people, I consider it a red flag

Females:
How much of a turn-off is it if guys have weird hobbies and interests? Not weird as in watching anime or something, I mean weird as in collecting 1970s desktop calculators.

what weird about that? nothing