When I get high as fuck on LSD I really empathize with you BPD fuckaroos, it's just like your manic phases. Very interesting.
Can I hear a non-hateful take on BPD? Surely there are those that have it but aren't as bad as many?
Andrew Flores
Robert Evans
I have DID. Open to questions you might have
Levi Allen
What's considered abusive or not these days is pretty wild; I tend to be very skeptical when people say things like "My ex was abusive"
Liam Phillips
I've been labeled as abusive for spiting and being verbally mean over text for 5 minutes. I think when you have BPD and other's know, they tend to use it as a verbal weapon against you. Like having BPD isn't hard enough.
Aiden Anderson
Well, the one I dated would sometimes make up lies in order to make me get concerned, like talking about how there was another guy really into her, and slightly imply she was into him too, but then after a bit she would suddenly cut the conversation short, as if she just realized what she was doing, but couldn't admit to it. Then she started trying to manipulate me into thinking I was a bad person, and that I had caused her harm, just to make me feel bad. She went to the point of implying she was going to tell others about it. When I broke up with her, she screamed at me, and threatened me, and tried to blackmail me, saying she would leak my nudes and spread lies about me if I did it. Thankfully she never did it.
Her behavior kept getting worse over time, and I'm glad I got out.
I found out she had bpd after I broke up with her by spending months researching about her behavior and talking to other people who had it. Eventually I had it confirmed to me by a mutual acquaintance.
People call you abusive because you fucking are, and the fact that you even have the audacity to deny it just makes you even worse.
David Barnes
That's what my bf says! I tell him that I love him and he says that I don't. Then I bite his arm!
I don't know if he is right. I think deep down in my conscious I do now. In beginning I was more phony.
John Mitchell
Hun, I'm not your girlfriend. I'm not even a girl. She gaslit you, threatened you, and hurt you over and over. Of course that was wrong. Just because me and your girlfriend share a disorder, does not mean we act remotely the same.
Dylan Lopez
I don't think people with bpd lie when they say they love someone (at least not entirely). I think they feel love differently, but I don't know exactly how. It just seems baseless when seen by someone who doesn't have it.
The abuse is part of the disorder. I have yet to meet any person with bpd who wasn't abusive. What I have met were some that claimed to not be abusive, but then multiple guys they'd dated all reported abusive behavior from them.
James Rogers
In that sense, yes. Though I would clarify abusive is a behavior not a trait. I was emotionally abusive before I knew what was going on. When I was diagnosed and reflected on my life I voluntarily distanced myself from society. I haven't had a romantic relationship in over five years. I don't let friends get close anymore, and I monitor how I act the best I can when I feel threatened or vulnerable. It's a shitty life but I'd like to think I've done the best I can with the cards I was dealt. I didn't chose to have BPD, but I did chose to not hurt people I care about with it.
James Diaz
People with BPD need to work on two things that pretty much everyone needs to work on (but people with BPD especially): patience and kindness/forgiveness.