Tfw no femdom gf who wants to degrade and control me

You misunderstand, holesomeness in femdom itself. That means mostly not relying on porn for visual inspiration.
I suppose she making you do cute things you don't necessarily want and you're lighthearted enough about it to enjoy yourself anyway counts

Oh, i misunderstood then, i think.
Were you more just talking about gentle femdom then? I suppose i wouldn't mind that, though i don't have much experience with that kind of relationship..

How can you be a good sub, if you're too lazy to even do that. No femdom girl would want you.

That's not what i'm saying, i'm not unwilling to do things like that, i just want someone who would make me do them, instead of doing them for a random normal girl on the off chance that she might get into it more.

Get into blackmail then or directly with dommes because most girls will act like your gf, they are culturally trained to do so and won't change without "simping" a bit

Yeahhh i guess you might have a point..
Being blackmailed doesn't too bad either..

Degradation is no fun. I want to feel loved, respected and valued.

I completely identify with you until you brought up girls you've dated. Like what's even the point of trying when you know they're going to be subby? I'm waiting until a girl asks me out so I know she at least has a bit of a spark to her.

I mostly dated girls a few years ago before i really figured my sexuality out.
My last relationship was with a dude and that was nicer for the most part, but i'm just more physically attracted to women still.

I weirdly identify with you. Like I haven't had a relationship with either gender, but just from really thinking about it I can tell that I'm a straight sub. Women are much more attractive and I just couldn't be in a relationship with a dude for that factor alone despite wanting to be a bottom, even though it's basically impossible to find a female top.