Please, I want someone to hold me so badly.
I've gone as long as I can manage without love or care.
I'll cook your favorite foods, I'll surprise you with handmade gifts, I'll be there for you always, please just someone help me...
Please can someone just wrap their arms around me tight and give me scritches on my scalp and tell me they love me and I am enough
Please help
I can't do this anymore
I saw you on /adv/
Get some self-esteem, self-love, and want yourself, faggot.
It's an endless cycle of misery. Loneliness makes you desperate. Desperation makes you unattractive, and thus lonely.
Just get a weighted blanket so you can feel like someone's hugging you, and accept that you were never meant for the real thing.
you stupid or ugly?
you lift?
How do you make something from nothing?
Don't think I'm stupid. I'm not disfigured ugly or anything but people have made fun of my appearance repeatedly before. I don't lift.
>How do you make something from nothing?
You start with a Yas Forums post :)
Girl or tranny?
Oregano
A Yas Forums post won't make me feel loved.
Neither.
Fuck off, simp. The problem is you.
girls don't want self-pity boys who can't put themselves together. Work on that first, not trying to attack you or to be mean, is just the truth
only after that consider socializing and meeting peopme
Like yourself first. Everything's easier after you do that. Go to the gym, find hobbies like building shit, drawing or even going for walks. Just work on yourself. It's pretty hard to think about bullshit like that when you're focused on exercising.
everyone in this thread has already said it
women are sociopaths, not saviors
Typical volcels
there is no greater love than that of Christ.
Women can't compete and they've dropped out of the race
I love you user. You're never alone
We're all alone, stranger.
There is no light at the end of this tunnel for any of us.
But how are you supposed to get rid of your desire to be with someone? Not everyone who wants intimacy is a desperate, self-hating sadboy like OP. Desiring intimacy is biologically ingrained into every human being, bar some insanely rare exceptions. Not everyone can be like Ted Kaczynski or Tesla, and feel content in isolation and rejection. Yet, the moment you let on the tiniest hint that you desire love, you are deemed a loser, someone who hates themselves, et cetera.
This is why I struggle to understand "work on yourself" advice. It's nigh impossible to get rid of these feelings, even if you love yourself and have plenty of hobbies. It's your body yelling at you that you NEED intimacy, because that feeling is what motivated our ancestors to actually spread their genes. You are no more capable of stopping the pain of loneliness than you are capable of stopping the pain of a traumatic injury. It's an involuntary response that exists for a purpose.
Hobbies can be helpful distractions, but they're pretty much a like putting a band-aid on a gaping head wound.
How am I a simp? I don't orbit anyone. I don't want worship people just for existing. But I would absolutely do a lot for a relationship partner, with the understanding that they would also do a lot for me. I wouldn't want to shower someone in love and barely get any back.
I try really hard to be put-together, and I don't self-pity in front of others.
This. I'm sorry if I come off as a loser sadboy with no redeeming qualities in the OP, I'm just really struggling right now. The truth is I have tons of hobbies and interests that keep me busy, but my ability to sufficiently distract myself from what feels like a biological need for affection is waning fast. I've been "working on myself" for as long as I can remember. It's not a real solution to the problem.
Thanks user, I love you too. But we both know this isn't what I meant.
Do you ask people close to you for hugs?
I'm someone who was a robot for a long time, broke out of it and had a normie spell with sex and "friends", then went schizoid who actively avoids relationships.
These people saying "love yourself" are missing the point. It's not practical to just up and love yourself out of nowhere. It just doesn't happen, and it certainly doesn't happen naturally. Ultimately it's not necessary, because at the end of the day you just need to "appear" to be somewhat "confident". Very few people (and even fewer women) will care about what's under the exterior.
But really the real goal is to find out what you really want out of your craving. Is it physical intimacy/sex/friendship/someone to dump your emotions on? Too many times robots gun for one and really want another, as I was guilty of. Once you determine your goal, finding what you actually want becomes easier. Some types of relationships are easier to get than others, and some can be easily replaced with a substitute.
One thing you should know though is that mommy gfs don't exist. I'm sorry. Believe me I've searched.
I have nobody close to me to the degree that I would feel comfortable asking.
What I want is physical intimacy, sex, and affection in general, so I think going for a traditional romantic relationship is probably the best way to get that.
And I'm not really looking for a "mommy gf", in the sense that I do want to be in a highly affectionate and loving relationship, but one where things are mutual, and we treat each other equal amounts.
Equality in a relationship is not possible unfortunately, at least not long term. Someone will always want the other person more. A power dynamic will form, and expectations will shift.
What makes you origiginally say that, user?
Just ask her out, shirogane.
Because humans are animals and so are part of nature and therefore unequal. They can make heartfelt attempts to "force" equality within their little systems, but people tire, bore, and adapt. Novelty wears off and discipline erodes, and then it decays/collapses to the natural equilibrium.
i can't be that for you, not in person, but if you need someone to vent all your problems and cry to, i could be that
let me know
>How am I a simp? I don't orbit anyone. I don't want worship people just for existing. But I would absolutely do a lot for a relationship partner, with the understanding that they would also do a lot for me. I wouldn't want to shower someone in love and barely get any back.
>I'll cook your favorite foods, I'll surprise you with handmade gifts, I'll be there for you always
You just contradicted yourself. You honestly believe that somehow you having something or giving something to someone creates affection. You're the exact same as the stupid fucks that pay twitch thots and onlyfans thots. You're an actual retard and you deserve all the loneliness that you created for yourself. I could actually break down every problem you have and give you a complete guide as to how to better yourself in a step by step format, but your group is too fucking stupid to actually do anything to get yourself out the situation you've made. Or maybe you just enjoy making these threads because you have nothing to do. Regardless, you not having someone is the direct result of your own shortcomings and failings. You have no one to blame but yourself and you're too stupid to see any way out even when it's explained to you. You're the architect of your own misery and the world has no sympathy for the problems you've created for yourself. It wasn't the world that was wrong, it's just you.
I really do not know what to say to you. It's a pervasive issue that has haunted me for so long. There are only so many rejections and lonely years you can handle. Loneliness unironically strips your personality away. It's like having a neurodegenerative disorder that eats away at your brain in tiny bits, at random places. Certain parts of your personality fade, while others become exaggerated. You slowly wane and turn into a caricature of whoever you were before you were subjected to all the isolation. I have personal anecdotes to go on, a study in mice, and unclear but substantiated correlations between certain neurological disorders and loneliness. No clear evidence, but I am convinced that loneliness is very damaging. I'm not sure if the damage is reversible. I know it sounds tin-foil tier at first, but you can do your own research and form your own opinion. Humans absolutely aren't made to live alone, which is why it has deleterious effects on one's health, and why your body is trying to desperately get you to be with someone.
What I want to say with that diatribe is that you should try your absolute hardest to escape this. Part of that is hiding how desperate you are for human contact. Wanting love is normal and you are wired to feel that way, but expressing it is demonized in society for whatever reason. Don't be too cold with people, but certainly avoid being too forthcoming or needy. Things won't fix themselves and the right person isn't going to just come along like normalfags will constantly tell you. You need to maximize your chances of meeting them and getting together.
I never said it would create affection.. I just listed those things because they're things I'd like to do for someone I love. I don't have some delusion of those things making them love me, it's just the way I'd like to be treated by someone I love, so it's how I would treat them. If someone had the propensity to be affectionate to me, and we entered a relationship, I would put lots of effort into making them happy. Are you telling me I should get into a relationship and then do nothing at all for that person because it would make me a retard? Why are you being so hateful?
Avoiding looking needy is one of my number one considerations when I interact with people publically. I was trying really hard to meet people before covid as well.
>>I'll cook your favorite foods, I'll surprise you with handmade gifts, I'll be there for you always
>You just contradicted yourself.
Doing those things for someone you love is entirely normal. You would know that if you weren't a virgin that only has his parents' dysfunctional relationship to go on.
okay but you are only looking for biological females right
>I just listed those things because they're things I'd like to do for someone I love.
No you listed them because you believed there are a necessity. The only reason you felt the need to state them is to garner some form of sympathy. "I would do so much for you, just love me." Fuck you, retard.
>Are you telling me I should get into a relationship and then do nothing at all for that person because it would make me a retard?
The fact that you have to ask something so stupid shows me why you're alone.
>Why are you being so hateful?
Because you stupid fucks don't actually care about finding someone. I could tell you exactly what you need to do and you wouldn't listen to a word of it. You morons actually enjoy your own misery, hence why you remain.
>Doing those things for someone you love is entirely normal.
I didn't say they weren't, but using this as the base line of affection and stating this is why you should love me, is completely retarded. The poster deserves his own unhappiness.
>You would know that if you weren't a virgin that only has his parents' dysfunctional relationship to go on.
Already married, about to have a kid, fuck you. Stay mad, incel.
Johnny N? Is that you?
>The only reason you felt the need to state them is to garner some form of sympathy
Like I said, my point was to show that I want to put effort into a relationship. I'm not looking to sit back and be pampered constantly, I want to give. Like I said, I'm not saying that those are reasons somebody would love me, I'm saying that if somebody did love me, I would try my best to treat them well.
>You morons actually enjoy your own misery, hence why you remain.
I'm sorry, but at least for me, you're wrong. I was in a relationship for around 5 months and before things went bad it was one of the happiest times of my life, even with its flaws. And I didn't feel the way I do now, at all. And I've been actively seeking out a relationship recently as well. I was really starting to like someone, but when I asked them out they turned me down with "not looking for a relationship right now." I'm telling you this because I think it shows that, yes, a relationship would make me happy, and no, I'm not deliberately avoiding one or anything stupid like that.
Why are you being so mean?
No idea who that is and it's a poor segue argument to use.
>Why are you being so mean?
Because he's a flustered incel who feels the need to lash out at the other crabs in his bucket.