Am i in the wrong for feeling like this

sorry for the long story
>be getting really close with girl
>mutual attraction
>like we'd cuddle and hug every time i saw her off when she'd go to her dorm
>mutual friend decides to throw a party
>we both go
>she tries to hook up with me but i couldn't since i had to go early
>skip about a month later
>we're dating
>turns out she hooked up with some guy at the party
>i'm mad and feel both hurt and insulted
>she's trying to gaslight me saying that we were nothing at the time and that the hookup meant nothing to her
am i in the wrong? technically she's right because we weren't dating but still, i feel like she's in the wrong. she didn't even apologize she said "im sorry you feel that way " and im still a fucking virgin

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i don't think there is any right/wrong in this situation
have you looked into attachment styles. i think you were a bit more emotionally attached to her than she was at the time of the party, which is why she didn't take it as seriously as you did. she's not in the wrong, because she doesn't owe you anything, regardless of if she is/was your gf.

youre in the wrong user, you werent together at the time and you even turned her down the same night

should've made it more clear you wanted to but I bet you were sheepish and made her think you were too afraid or disinterested in her.

Shes not in the wrong. You just need to ask yourself if you want to be with someone who hooks up with random guys at a parry. It sounds like it isnt for you.

yh i think that was it
i feel so stupid though, because the next time i saw her it was like nothing happened, which led me to continue the relationship

Would you like this woman if she didnt have a hole to fuck?
If so just take it slo and go though with it. dont be a fucking beta.
If you just horny do what ever gets ya dick wet my dude

Technically shes right but if she really did like you it would have been easy for her to keep her legs closed that night but she didn't. Her not apologizing tells you she's wasn't and probably not as into you as you believe and I bet if the same thing happened this weekend and you weren't there she would open her legs for another guy.

You're in this little over a month and I suggest you end it.

If a girl really likes a guy she wouldn't be fucking somebody else. She wouldn't

End it my dude
She doesn't give a fuck clearly

she said it was nothing and it meant nothing to her
she says she really likes me
but damn, whats more annoying is that she told me right after saying how she really liked me for a long time.
it really fucked me up

She doesn't give a fuck. A girl who cared would apologize even just a little bit even though she's not technically in the wrong

what's with this dogshit logic? YOU MEANT NOTHING TO HER because if you did...she would have waited

Do not trust women, never! Be wary user

By the way she told you she liked you first to "cushion" the impact of her sleeping with another guy, which means...she feels guilty

Dump her, she's trash

it's time you view her as a stepping stone on polishing your social/relationship skills. the "she's not yours, it's just your turn" rule strongly applies here.
don't catch feelings, just use her to satiate your need for touch (Touch/skin to skin contact is a necessity) and boost your self esteem.
you're completely in the right andif she wants to play this toxic game of non commitment she can get it. I'd say go along with it and cuddle/fuck her and tell her stupid shit she wants to hear, or things that that you're practicing on like becoming more interesting. Just have this in mind - always be ready to walk away.

I get it OP but I'm telling you from experience you never will be able to process this. It fucks with you because she is so cavalier about fucking the guy while professing to care about you. That is fucked up bud.

Contrary to what you hear about girls here the vast majority, if they really like you, even if they aren't in a relationship with you, cannot fathom allowing another man to touch them.

This girl isn't one of them.

this is ideal

very..ideal, good advice

man please don't tell OP this because he'll fall for her and be damned. It takes a lot finesse and emotional detachment to fuck her and not care. I don't think OP is equipped for that yet.

yeah OP you seem pretty naive when it comes to stuff like this

just stop it here

that's what im thinking
what really pissed me off is that since i couldn't hook up she did it with someone else. then she came back to me like i'm nothing. like she's using me only for the emotional comfort and stability

well OP here
she's saying that she didn't even think about it like that. and that she didn't even try to hurt me.
they were playing "seven minutes in heaven" and she was dared to and it just went from there.
it was a spur of the moment thing. and though she can see why i would be sad she doesn't understand it and there's no point focusing on the past

>yet
when will he be? I put tremendous value on experience and I see this as an opportunity for OP to grow as a person.
It may feel inhumane or sociopathic to change in such a way, but he will absolutely be prepared for future relationships, specifically for a girl that deserves his love.

>I dare you to such my cock hahah jk unless?
she has no semblance of understanding how she hurt you, if that wasn't obvious from the "I'm sorry YOU feel that way".
she does not share the same values of intimacy as you, of her wanting to dedicate herself to someone that she even cuddles with.
does this seem like an emotionally reliable person?

dude....stop right fucking here
She is playing you like a fiddle what the fuck dude, wake the fuck up
Are you okay with what she did? Fuck her dumb opinion, WHAT DO YOU FEEL?
You don't feel okay, you feel wronged, stop it here user

come on OP the hole she's dug is deep her. I agree she didn't do it to hurt you but she did it like she went to take a piss and thinks nothing more of it. Just telling you that this is big trouble for you if you hang in there. I know these kind of girls and got hung up on one and its a train wreck.

also what this user said, her moral compass does not seem to be on par to yours
she's gonna cheat on you later on user

funny thing she says that its the first time she's done something like this
all it did was make me angrier

>first time
come on, you can't believe that shit

tell her to fuck off

Good question and the honest answer is he will need to have his heart ripped out and stomped on a few times so maybe this girl will be the first to do it.

Let also cut through the crap, this girl is a slut, some girls are and not knocking her for it and thank god sluts exist for easy unattached pussy like she dished up to mr party guy, but for the uninitiated in love to fall for one its hell.

Theres a good girl out there for everyone that wants one and I hope OP keeps looking.

>first time she's done something like this
its a lie like said

Being serious the one I ignore all the shit lost her virginity to a guy at a party though the professed to love me and I heard all the same shit you're hearing and guess what. 7 months later while visiting her cousin she fucked the singer of some shitty garage band. When that one came out and I inquired why, she said she didn't know and you know I believe that.

the first time she would do something like that with someone and it wasn't you, even though you were cuddling with her.
you can tell her to fuck off or use her for sex and experience. I recommend the latter
hopefully if he has the proper mindset the damage will be mitigated

if she was drunk on the night then that could have been a contributing factor.
if you think you have a healthy relationship apart from this and you've both been having fun then i'd say forget about it. if this concern is brought about by other issues you've both been having then you either need to sort those issues out or end it

There's no feelings involved on her side. She was and is just looking for an available dick, and you just happened to be there. The fact that she hopped on your dick right after jumping off the other guy's proves she doesn't give a fuck about who or what you are. There was no feelings and coy love, otherwise she would've waited. My good sir, you are a stepping stone.
Judging by the psychotic gaslighting behavior she has, I suggest you cut your losses and move on. But if you wish to stay, do it only for sex and benefits, have your bags packed and be ready to walk out in a heartbeat. Because I'm fucking calling it right now: it ain't gonna last.

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There was clearly a miscommunication there and you thought you were exclusive while she did not, but the bottom line is your gf is a turbowhore. Anyone who does one night stands is automatically an untrustworthy impulsive whore with no self control and the possibility of being cucked by someone with such a personality is far higher than someone who has self control.

> she doesn't owe you anything, regardless of if she is/was your gf.

Umm, she kinda fucking does? Otherwise she wouldn't be his gf, but just a fling? The whole point of a relationship is exclusive intimacy, otherwise it's just random fucking. And I bet she'd be fuming if he'd go and fuck some random gal and be all dindu nuffin

OP don't listen to this faggot

Do not listen to this person, though I'm sure you're smart enough to know what needs to be done OP judging by our responses
the decision is yours