It hurts

user it sounds like you have borderline personality disorder
look into DBT self help, it might be of use to you

Remember OP, every moment you keep her chained to you is a moment she could've spent with someone who can treat her better. Stop talking to her right now.

Hey, man. You say it's not about how you feel, but it's pretty clear you're just trying to find an excuse and "it's for her own good" is the only thing you can grab right now. Because you know this girl loves you. Trust me, I've been there, I've wanted to run away because I thought I couldn't handle the guilt of feeling like I was wasting her time. But we don't get to decide how someone else feels. You gotta stop projecting onto her, and trust what she says even if you don't believe it.

Please, homie. Don't throw a good thing away like this. I know you feel like you're hurting her by being with her, but I guarantee the only thing that would hurt her is if you left.

This isn't the time. This isn't the place. You've got something special. Please don't throw it away.

this. my boyfriend also feels shitty a lot of the time and feels like hes just horrible to me and he doesnt deserve me but i love him and i accept his flaws, if he just decided to ghost me and not talk to me again id be so fucking hurt and end up killing myself most likely, hes all i have in life anymore. if she really loves you user, then dont do it. she will be hurt, extremely hurt. be glad you have a loving gf who has stayed with you for all those years, other people on here have never had a gf and would do anything to have one.

also this.. my boyfriend has bpd and feels this way a lot, he hasnt ever properly done it though but has done shit like not talk to me for a week because he doesnt want to hurt me for once or something when thats exactly what hurts me. im

I hope this is a bait thread. Ghosting people, especially a partner, is horrible.

I seriously doubt this.
I've never considered this and I'll look into it. I believe a lot of my concerns are legitimate though.
I know, it's just really hard
Whenever I talk to her I just can't get this thought out of the back of my head. When I called her last night, I could barely focus. I just kept thinking about how shitty I was for being with her when I know she could do better. I know it might just be in my head but I can't shake it.
I certainly don't want to hurt her feelings but I think even if it hurts her in the short-term, it will be beneficial for her moving forward. I'm a burden.

>Ghosting people, especially a partner, is horrible.
Why would you say this? I'm sure it's unpleasant for people involved but why do people think ghosting in particular is bad?

Abandonment has always been considered a bad thing. Anything that denies closure or understanding is always horrible, and depending on how much you trust the people who ghosted you, it can take a long time until the confusion subsides and you fully realize what happened. Whenever some very close friends of six years ghosted me a long time ago, it took around eight months to transition from a confident "I'm sure they're just busy with something, they'll be back" to an uncertain "Something seems wrong, but I trust them, they wouldn't just abandon us" to "Something is wrong... they're avoiding us, aren't they?"

>I seriously doubt this.
And yet basically reaffirms my point since it's actually someone in a very similar situation.
You should never underestimate how much ghosting someone can hurt a person, especially considering the fact that she obviously loves you.
Her mind will likely turn to the worst case scenarios for why you ghosted her (I know mine does whenever I get ghosted) so it only makes sense that someone who is likely much more emotional than I am would end up killing themselves.
Only reason I haven't killed myself is because I'm a stone hearted freak, but that isn't the case for her I would think.
Don't just pass this off as trolling either, I'm being dead serious with everything I've said so far.