Best friend ghosted me after almost 7 years of friendship

>best friend ghosted me after almost 7 years of friendship
motherfucker

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>only friend for 5 years who used to talk to me every day is now only online once a month

>Blocked best friend after knowing him for over a decade
Hows it feel to be on the other end of it, man?

why are you such a filth

Why did you do that, dick?

I just wanna know the reasoning?
I'm worried my friend will leave me again and I'm not sure how I'd even manage to do anything if I'm so soulcrushingly put down like that again

It's best. I don't think either of us were healthy for each other, and I know he wasn't healthy for me. I felt like I was talking to myself constantly, our entire friendship hinged on the fact that we were both inherently fucked up retards, doing the same thing everyday, fucking up in the same way. The repetition became a joke between us, but at some point it stops being funny.
In all honesty I don't really know why. I just felt like I had no one to turn to, and got sick of his empty messages. I think I'm just a solo kind of person, if I spend too much time with someone I get sick of them. Doing the same thing for months on end, which was pretty much what we did, gets so mind-numbingly boring. I had like no one else to talk to and break up the monotony. I got bored, and the fact that he didn't understand that I was bored pissed me off. I would send him serious shit and he would respond with the same pool of empty, repetition messages. Boredom got the best of me, I guess.

I don't think your friend ditched you for this reason, though. I'm fucked up and need to work on myself more. I've ditched a lot of people in the past already. Tell me why you think they are gonna ditch you and I might be able to help, though.

well I am worried I am gonna bore them
we do the same things everyday too though I haven't gotten tired of it yet, I dunno if he is or isn't
he seems to be getting colder lately
I just have a nervous feeling he'll go again and I had that the last couple times he left too
though maybe i just have paranoia and trust issues at this point
I can't really gauge what's going on in his head and im not sure how to ask him how he feels about how we've been doing things and if im being boring or overly clingy or so on without being awkward

He's done this a few times? When he starts pulling away, and becomes colder, how do you react usually? What do you do in response?

I might get a little bit clingier and more desperate than usual but for the most part I don't feel like I can do anything so I sulk silently and occasionally find myself close to tearing up while not letting on anything's wrong

im worried
what if i exacerbate the problems by mentioning them
what if there is no problem and i create one by asking
what if it comes off weird and creepy

The best advice I can give you here is to never cling harder when he pulls away. That is the worst thing you can possibly do. The fact that he has so far come back is a good thing, that means deep down he still wants to be friends with you. When he ditches you, he's really just trying to take a break. If you give him his space, he will come back. The more you cling to him the longer of breaks he's going to need and the higher the chance he'll just ditch you entirely.
I've been your friend many times and that's been my experience. I've ditched really cool people because they just won't give me any space.
Definitely don't cling harder, and you should probably lessen up a bit. Message him less, give him some time, and he should come back.
I don't know if you should mention it or not to be honest. I'm leaning towards saying it's not necessary, I do think it'll just be kind of awkward. But I don't really know. The only thing I'm certain about is that you need to lessen up on him.

i guess ill lessen up on him if thats whats necessary
ill be back to complain if he leaves though
also as for the mentioning it ill try not too but i do feel the need to at some point talk about previous ditchings and other strange behavior
should i just ignore it forever?
i think i could im just also sorta curious i guess

>best friend for 5+ years
>friend goes through heavy depression after high school, drops out of college.
>hang out with him every day, buy him food every day.
>he eventually gets his shit together, but acts like he's above me now.
>go through my own depression, treated as even more inferior.
>gets a gf and ghosts me.
>other friend
>grew up next door, like a brother to me.
>breaks up with his fiancee, loses home and job.
>give him a place to live, buy him food. Bail him out of jail twice after minor weed charge and ex accusing him of assault
>gets on unemployment, becomes drug addict, thinks everyone he knows including me is out to get him.
>he freaks out one day while I'm at work and I have to kick him out
>moves back in with ex and cuts off contact with me completely.

No matter how close you are with someone, no matter how long you've known them, they'll always turn their back on you when they no longer need you.

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>No matter how close you are with someone, no matter how long you've known them, they'll always turn their back on you when they no longer need you.
that's not true user you're just friends with degenerates

Depends on how your guys friendship is. If you guys talk about that stuff frequently, or at all, then it might be better for your friendship in the future for you guys to talk about it.
I ditched one of my closest friends like a year ago, but eventually came back. When I came back he asked me why I ghosted him, and because we didn't have the type of friendship that would make me comfortable telling him why, I just made up some lame excuse about my phone that he never questioned. It was really just an awkward moment and didn't really hurt at all, so maybe it wouldn't hurt for you to ask. It especially wouldn't hurt if you guys are close enough friends that you know he can be honest with you. Otherwise you might wanna prepare yourself for him to just avoid the question.

i guess ill wait a while for things to settle to a more normal situation i guess
im kinda hoping im just misreading everything and being paranoid tho to be honest

You could be. Paranoia can really fuck you up.
I should have a gf right now but my paranoia got the best of me and I never shot my shot.
As long as you're not completely cutting contact with him you should be good, though. Just still be responsive when he messages you, so he knows you still want to be friends and aren't pulling away yourself.

99% of people are degenerates user.

thank you for the assistance
youll probably see me posting a thread at some point in the future if it falls apart anyways
thanks for the help but nonetheless hope i wont see you again outside this thread coz thatll probably mean things fell apart again

Good luck, user, wishing you the best.
Hope you never have to make that thread but if you do see you there.

>tfw friend confessed he was secretly gay all along then ghosted me because I finally got a gf

I'm sorry user but that's funny as shit. How long did you know him? What's it feel like now knowing the whole time he just wanted to fuck?

>best friend ghosted me after almost 7 years of friendship
wow are you me op? literally the exact same thing happened to me last year except we were friends for 5 years. he still hasn't come back.

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I feel that. My faggot "best friend" did the same thing. Sorry man. It gets better eventually.

now do you get why oldfag societies dealt with this shit in the harshest way possible

>turn 20
>alright,son, i arranged a marriage for you
>now, the girl is not the prettiest but she is a good woman
>you're not a catch yourself
>10 years later...
>two kids, a mediocre life
>20 years later
>kids grew up
>kinda happy, yet kinda sad
>the wife is growing old and emotional
>what now?
>30 years later
>your son comes to visit
>has a son
>your grandson looks just like you
>remember your old man


Everything dulls with time trust me. Your hobbies, friendships, all give way to time. People lose energy, strength, and time and have to deal with life - a sudden loss of parents, a job, failing health. And then when you are 40 you understand friendships are not meant to last in a world without structure - marriage, work, study.

A friendship without that structure gives way.
In the end that structure makes life tolerable, for men and women alike - we are the first gen that can see why they did it. Friendships DO collapse due to time, blood too, yet not so easily.

You won't get married, we are all in this together now.
Now go and watch that anime and play that game, until you get bored and do something else.

>suddenly ghost all my friends out of nowhere
>haven't spoken to anyone in over a year
>want to let them know I still consider them my best and only friends but don't want to let them know the personal and family troubles I'm going through for bullshit neurotic reasons and how it makes me shut down
>but also don't want to pick up contact at all and just want them to forget about me and go on with their lives without my negative influence in them
>just want to be alone forever
>but also want to make people feel positive

I just don't want them thinking they did anything to cause this, I think maybe now it's too late to turn back which I guess is what I want, I just know I'm going to regret this, but they're better of without me anyway, even if they won't be able to understand why

How you do with women?

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Have a steam friend since 2009. We've had a lot of serious talks now and then but he's been a real pain in the ass when discussing things. Will always try to be the right in the conversation or when you try to help him he doesn't do what I tell him and almost blames me for the issue. Been so close to block him many times, but just can't. We're in the same boat irl and I can't abandon him. No friends, no one to talk to. In a sense, to try keep your sanity.

My God that's gotta be the saddest cope I've ever read on this site. Imagine being this cucked by life.
When you're 40 you're still at the slow beginning of testosterone production declining. You usually have money to spend on your dream home or car, you can go to bars and clubs and meet new people, you can fuck three different stranger women a week and go on roadtrips with your single friends to throw barbecues and get wasted, then come back to fuck some more girls.
People fail to grab hold of their lives, meaning dull normie standards, that's their own fault, no one else's.

I stop talking to friends out of nowhere because they no longer hold interest to me. A friend from work called me, she was probably my only friend. Suddenly she was speaking and I felt it: I longed cared for her. I hung up and I wept, for I knew that it was a matter of time before our friendship would deteriorate.

What do you call this? A man who doesn't really care about anyone who doesn't hold an immediate value to them? I'm not a sociopath I don't think

Whats funny is you think he was your best friend, you were literally nothing to him.

i have seen a lot of those types and they all, without fail, ended up terrible. for them mid-life crisis develops into an existential one, until they develop hatred of women precisely because they can have them, and realize they are too old to have a nice young family.

Dream home? Imagine a huge house with only you inside, and an occasional friend coming to visit you - he bitches about his wife, talks about kids, work, while you still live your youthful dream and do nothing. What do you even talk about? You don't.

Most of these types have no friends for a reason unfortunately. Now couple that with the fact you can't trust a single woman these days, this is the future in a way.

We live in a youth-obsessed culture = what you described - sex, changing women, barbecues, drinking - is fit for either a young person or an animal, not for an ADULT 40 yr old man.

They all end up kinda pathethic and sad, and women are not the answer either.
What can i say, welcome to the future i guess.

you can send them a message explaining that when the time is right
it might feel cringy sending it but imagine being on the receiving end

it's called cluster Yas Forums