Talk to someone

The one that ghosted me was genuinely nice though and doesn't talk to anyone else so i'm not sure.

bullshit they don't talk to anyone else.

I don't really want friends unless it's a gf and i already know who i want and don't want to give up.

I'm sure of it user i can tell.

anyone ever get there ghoster to come back?

never permanently. messaged a few ghosters after like two months and we talked for a few days, then i got ghosted again so i just removed them

I've just started using discord so I have no idea what I'm doing. Take it easy on me.
heavywait#3762

Why do they do it?
better question
has anyone gotten an explanation?

'hur dur i got busy user xd' is the usual response if i ask. they just don't fucking care about you. i'm going to bed i'm too drunk and angry for this shit.

i'm sorry user hope you have a good sleep.

I frequent /soc/ discord threads and ghost often. I'm not F and never claim to be but get plenty of adds anyway. Maybe I can give you my perspective.

99% of the time it's out of apathy. It has nothing to do with you- there's nothing wrong with you. If I don't feel a spark in the first three messages I know it's not going to last, it's better and more honest for me not to spend time and energy on a relationship and person that I won't be caring about. Just move on bro, you're not going to click with everyone

I felt a click though i know i did since it's never bothered me this much.
i believe she did too of some sort so it's weird.
or at least it would be more weird for this to be completely 1 sided

bruh
Even if there is a "click" that's something you have to maintain. Something tells me that you fell into a routine and she got bored. If all you guys are doing is talking online, playing games/watching movies online, doing bullshit online that's boring. That's the reality dude

what should i have done? or do if i get her to respond?

I think i may legit be too autistic for stuff like this as nothing comes to me naturally

this internet-box-words chick is not worth your time. YOU are worth your time and you're not her entertainer.
If you are looking for serious relationships on Yas Forums discord threads you probably don't have that much going on for yourself. Take this time to figure out what you want for yourself and set realistic, low-bar goals to achieving it. Fuck the discord people, the discord people don't matter

I've never been obsessed with someone before.

I fucking hate this. I always over compensate by acting like I don't care and people think I'm an emotionless autist.

> don't know what that means and really want them back would be better than the lottery for me.

A million times this.

My Goal was a life partner though it always has been that's want i wanted for myself. though it's likely not realistic. i'll try to think of something to occupy thou mind though i guess would be the best solution.

I read this really wishing to believe it but I fell in love with someone from discord and it's something you have to recover from. Just like falling in love irl. There is no difference. My brain doesn't know the difference.

what makes you think you deserve a life partner rn?
you too

You most likely don't. Not yet, and that might not happen until 10 years down the road. In the meantime become as strong, capable and self-assured as you can be. You need to be able to understand yourself and the value that you can draw from that.

>what makes you think you deserve a life partner rn?
because i would try my hardest to make them happy. isn't that the best quality? showing real love

I'm not the person you are asking but I really related to their post. I don't think I deserve a life partner. I hope I can b an equal partner to someone and ease them of their loneliness. I think it's completely natural to want that. I think it's natural and even positive for that to be someone's main goal in life. It's unthinkable to me that humans would not want to be useful to each other since we are the most social creatures.

Follow up question: what would you do for them? How do you imagine it happening.

>because i would try my hardest to make them happy. isn't that the best quality?
no dude it isn't. You need to sit down and really take an inventory of the value you add to other people's lives. If that's not much or not very diverse that's ok, because you have the time to build yourself into a valuable person. Time runs in your veins.

> It's unthinkable to me that humans would not want to be useful to each other
Usefulness is key here. If you really were useful, if you were a generative, outpouring person, would you be having these problems? Being useful is hard, managing pain and being steadfast. Usefulness comes with experience, because warm fuzzy feelings are already free- especially for women.

more or less anything they ask why?

Isn't it useful to always be there for them that sounds valuable to me.
and wanting to make each other happy was what i valued most in a partner for me

>Isn't it useful to always be there for them that sounds valuable to me.
It isn't when you don't have shit to bring to the table. Male attention, a shoulder to cry on, encouragement, etc. is all cheap especially coming from the inexperienced. You enjoying other people's happiness is not some incredibly unique quality and it doesn't make you a saint or a catch, either. What are your goals? What are your weaknesses? Who are the people you need in your tribe? What is your financial security? All questions that come before the girl.

as an addendum let me add that it is not impossible to get women before completing these problems, but it will be impossible to get a high-value one. Someone that really is worth loving and has the strongest ability of loving you and building you up. Why do you think all the e-gfs on here are all sociopaths, low value people with low value people

I don't believe in tradition value. i don't care if she's mentally ill and ugly as long as she's nice to me.

You're looking for an out. Do as you please.

>autism_hat_yui.jpg
thats not yui wtf

yeah this is very true for me holy fuck

i'm not sure what that means in the context especially but okay.

>just jump through the hoops, bro
fuck off

This guy can speak for me now. We are thinking the same thing basically. Spending time together eases someone's lonliness. So spending time together. Giving them sex, ideas, conversation, laughs. Those things all have vaule.

Don't listen to them. They don't value kindness because they are normal shits. These are the types of people who bully to feel good momentarily. These are the types of people who deserve covid. Kindness is the most valuable property in the world. Sociopaths think that kindness is easy because they only ever fake it as a tool.

This
that's all i want from a gf for us to both hang out all the time and be happy together now just to find someone that can put up with my bad autism and love me.

Thanks user i wish you and like minded people good luck in your searches

>talk to someone for years
>still hate them

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What's wrong with you? why would you hate someone but keep talking to them?

>work
>school
>family

Oh i see i'm an idiot i thought you meant online
yeah that's common but shitty

How old are you and what are you like?

21
what am i like i guess i would say an autist that enjoys playing the same old games over and watching shows spending my time on Yas Forums is what i most do.
I would call myself nice at soul as i never do anything like malicious and i help if i can, but i also don't let people push me around.
did that answer? and why did you ask?

and it's not an autism hat, whats going on here

What's going on emotionally with you right now? Is that a strange question?

I don't think it's a strange question
emotionally i would say i just feel sad and empty but i guess i just hold on and hope for the best and i'm trying to occpy myself now. i'm not sure if i answered the question but that's what i came up with.
why do you ask? not that i mind i'm just curios
also the captcha keeps failing me.

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Yes. It's 'cuz we are too lonely

I have the opposite, for whatever reason I make sycophants of those around me. Very embarrassing desu.