Biological Women of Yas Forums, Why are you single?

I've put up enough walls around me that I'm incapable of becoming genuinely close to another person. I have plenty of acquaintances and people who might consider me a friend, but not a single person actually knows me.

Any time I try a relationship, I just end up feeling more alone and like a stranger is controlling my body. So I break up with them because it's unfair that I'm too emotionally stunted to allow myself to be vulnerable and honest with them.

Then I come on Yas Forums and daydream about a husbando who could love me for what I am.

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A girl im talking to has 0 friends and she's attractive. I am literally the only guy she talks to and it's confusing

Too fat, cant seem to put the fork down.

Kind of a greedy, hedonistic mentality don't you think? I guess attractive women try to get the most value out of their coochies tho, because of capitalism and wat not.

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You should describe your ideal husband and we can tell you if your standards are unrealistic or if youve just had shit luck

I'm too tall and have difficulty liking people

I'm scared and honestly it seems pretty gross.

It shouldn't be scary if you're someone you love

Only true if you're 6 foot tall in which case get a 6'9 guy

>by choice. with so many guys out there why get locked into a relationship when i'm young
I want you to remember this answer and acknowledge it was your own choices not men's. Good luck.

Good luck, Hope you two get married and live happily ever after.

Hope you get past your fear and find a good partner and live happily ever after.

I appreciate your honesty and self awareness, Best of luck.

You could try talking to people online and getting to know them and be comfortable talking and looking at each other, even though it's through a screen and nothing like irl, It still helps a lot compared to the normalfag way of 'hey let's go out' after 5min of saying hello. Good luck.

You'll get there eventually and I'll advise againist hookup apps. Good luck.

It's unfair to expect someone to love you for who you are when you won't show them who you really are in the first place, Don you think?
Also good luck.

Just put your favorite music or an audio book and walk for at least 30min every day, Once you get comfortable with that, try 60min, then try running. Good luck.

You'd be surprised how many guys are into tall women so that's not an issue. difficulty liking people could be you meeting basic normalfags or a fear of getting emotionally hurt? Either way, Good luck.

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I don't have crazy standards. It's just that in my mind, if I was completely myself around them, they'd either use my vulnerabilities against me, make me feel wrong for what I am, or leave me. Bc that's what has happened in the past. So my brain goes haywire and I suppress half my personality and become something easy to love. Then I'm still really just alone because that's not really me.

Oh I do not expect that, which is why I am single. Just trying to work on loving myself enough to be vulnerable with others. Thank you!

Same. I have a bunch of sexual hang-ups and I'm afraid to confront them (I can't think of female masturbation for too long without crying). I am repulsed by the idea of getting eaten out, having a toy going in me or being fingered- I can't even masturbate with my fingers/ the normal way

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I don't believe that at all, men are waiting longer for marriage too, good ones. You may be faced with desperation but not me

>12 miles of dick
you're so funny but I never said I have sex with every guy I meet nor would I. I just said with so many good looking guys as an option I would be foolish to settle on one.

what has capitalism have to do with this?
anyway, I have options, a wide range of men that try and many I do like, but not enough to get too attached to any of them.
Better I'm honest with myself and not force a relationship for the sake of a relationship and I'm not desperate by any stretch.

>acknowledge it was your own choice
thought I did that already and more than once in this thread.
Luck has nothing to do with this so your sarcasm fails

>Just trying to work on loving myself enough to be vulnerable with others.
That's a step in the right direction, best of luck.

I'm scared of intimate relationship with a guy desu. I'm too self-conscious about my looks. I cannot picture myself having sex, it's gross.

Why care about "how it looks" from the point of a non existant third person instead of "how it feels" for both of you?

And thats not even questioning the fact that its more than sex, it is to connect in the most intimate way with someone you have feelings for

It's about trying to get the most value out of an asset, it's basically a disease of efficiency caused by our environment mostly subsiding on the monetary value of things, you try to get the most out of your body's value in the time frame you have. If our society was more predisposed to christian values for example, you might see your body as a reward for one man rather than something that needs many men to make use of it's value. I could be wrong tho, women might just like sex more than I think and this has nothing to do with making the most of anything, but I can't really figure it out myself.

I don't like to admit it but I'll mention it because it's relevant, women being promiscuous actually hurts me in a way that it probably does for a lot of men, it's something biological, like it hurts my heart to see women be tainted by men in that way, this mentality of multiple partners just kind of devalues everyone involved, the women become less pure and the men become just another name on the list. This probably stems from my need to keep women as these goddesses of fertility and purity to the point where I don't like to admit they shit and fard.

You do you though, I'm just throwing ideas around.

There's a lot of possible reasons and which one I accept is pretty contingent on my emotional state.

I think a large portion of it is that I'm naturally a loner who enjoys being by herself. This whole Corona thing has not affected me in the slightest. Most of my hobbies are indoor ones - drawing, reading, writing. Even my outdoor hobbies are solitary - hiking, kayaking, bug collecting.

It's not that I don't like people. I do. I actually really like talking to people and going to parties. I just never seem to find the opportunity. Or, when the opportunity arises, I'm not in the mood and there's a nightwalk to be had.

I think another issue is that I'm pretty bad at keeping in touch with people. I don't respond prompty to text messages and so that makes maintain indepth friendships hard. I'm not very punctual in any respect.

I'm naturally anxious and have this bizarre notion about relationships becoming "contaminated". For example, I liked this guy in my freshman year. I asked him out, got rejected. I felt so ashamed that I avoided everyone in that program (I did a double major) because the class sizes were small and I couldn't bear to hear people talk about him or possibly running into him. The fact we had to take a class together was legitimately agonizing for me. Even when I'm not rejected I often get this feeling that something is wrong or dirty or unclean and that I need to start over fresh. This may be because of the OCD.

My OCD means I have a lot of rituals. I like to be home very early so that I can do them without bothering my landlord.

I guess if I wanted to be self aggrandizing, I could say part of my problem is that my perspective on life is too unique. When I meet people, I can usually tell immediately where all their ideas come from. A Contrapoints fan, a Chapohead, a Yas Forumstard, a Joe Rogan fanboy. I don't have any of these prepackaged sets of beliefs.

Oh and I dated a tranny and now I'm paranoid about it happening again

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Samefag. Oh, and how could I forget? The deciding factor for women everywhere - I'm painfully unattractive.

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I'm not though. I'm married.

You sound legit autistic user.
It may be because of that too, its hard to connect with someone like that.

>When I meet people, I can usually tell immediately where all their ideas come from. A Contrapoints fan, a Chapohead, a Yas Forumstard, a Joe Rogan fanboy.

I get this too, but you have to keep in mind that it might just be your brain grossly oversimplifying things. You don't really have a grasp on all ideas out there so you might be sorting people as one thing when they got the beliefs elsewhere.

>Oh and I dated a tranny

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It's honestly not worth spending so much time thinking of what to say. It sounds cliche but be more spontaneous.

You can go too far the other way, not thinking about what you say at all, but I've concluded that doing that is better than saying nothing much at all. Sure, you'll offend people and you'll embarrass yourself but it's all less painful than the alternative has been for years of my life.

I kind of have to, I met a guy recently and I can't get him out of my mind but he is friends with my ex.

You think? I know that my uncle suspected I was autistic as a kid and my mom kicked him out of the house for suggesting it. I even considered that I may be autistic. When I suggested it to my sister, who is a schoolteacher, she said, "duh".

Except when I asked my psychiatrist, he seemed unconvinced. I actually think I'm pretty good at reading people's emotions. My ex-boyfriend accused me of not being sensitive enough, but I honestly think that was just him being whiny because this was the same guy who said it was okay for me to joke about something and then got mad at me for joking about that thing because it was "obviously insensitive". I don't put a lot of weight in comments like that because it seems to me he was projecting his own inability to communicate onto me.

I do sometimes feel like people dislike me for no real reason. But, again, I'm not sure how representative this is. A lot of the people who seem to dislike me are annoying SJW types who get mad over every little microaggression. So how representative is that?

TLDR: I've seriously considered that I may be autistic and even at one point wanted that to be the case so that I'd have an explanation for some of my problems. However my mental health professional does not seem to agree and I always felt I was far too emotionally adept to be autismo. With that said, I'm curious to hear your thoughts.

>oversimplying
Who you calling a simp?

Anyway, I don't think that's true because I actually test the hypothesis. I'll predict someone's opinions and be dead on. I don't wanna sound pretentious, but I know maybe 10 people whose opinion I need to ask for to understand their view on a subject.

Yep. And it was honestly the most horrific experience of my life. He hasn't come out yet, but the whole dread of waiting for him to drop that bomb on me was horrifying. It was some Dr. Strangelove levels of trepidation. Fucking troons, man.

>my outdoor hobbies are solitary - hiking, kayaking, bug collecting
Actually sound like pretty good social activities to me. I'd be up for it.

I've only ever been attracted to good looking guys and I'm not as attractive as them so I get pumped and dumped. I also really hate clingy guys so I can't get turned on if he's always clinging to me and wants me to be his mom. I just don't think that's masculine at all. I'm too attracted to the bad boy type who leaves. Always leaves. The types of guys who claim they will never leave remind me of child molesters desu. They are no tough and act pathetic which strikes me as gross and creepy. But the badboys I usually like just pump and dump me. They always have a lot of options because they are out of my league & way better looking than me. I'm not like disgustingly ugly. I'm thin and take care of myself I'm just very plain. Baby egg face ECT. And nerdy with autism. So the guys I choose prob feel as disgusted by me as I do but the betas that I reject.

Also gender dysphoria. Most guys wanna date an actual female and not a penis envy tomboy.

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Because I just feel no motivation to want to be in a relationship. I like being alone and dislike it when men or people in general bother me.

You sound like a pretty cool person to be around. Do you have a throwaway email or discord? I'd love to talk and get to know you better.

Great thread op, but fuck you for showing off how many single f*males are on the board.

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>The only females here that are virgins are the ones that have a irrational fear of sex

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This plays in way too perfectly with what r9k thinks about women

Why do you think I made the thread? open wide motherfucker!

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Maybe Im reading too much into it, but you kind of lack emotion in your thought and in the way you see people.
You also seem pretty narcistic. You can predict someones opinion? Thats hardly a dificult thing to do of you know what framework he uses to see the world (asking a Yas Forumsack what he thinks about some X problem will hardly require a genious to know he is going to answer "Juice").

Its like, you oversimplify peoples character, thinking yourself and few others as the arte exceptions (not that I cant agree to a certain point, we arent as unique as we like to think we are, but its a dangerous mindset when you excuse yourself from it).

A lot of this can easily become a problem in a romantic relationship.

Bold of you to assume I need a second dose.

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>irrational
wrong. sex scary

Okay. But that's my lived experience and I'm a biological female.

This is a larp, and if its not, you are literally the personification of the caricature incels have of woman.

Consider suicide.

As a man this post hurts me physically and psycologically.

What's scary about being together in the loving embrace of someone that you trust?

I'm actually fucking autistic so if a guy hits on me, I actually cant fucking tell unless he says something upfront. If he does say something upfront though but I'm not familiar with him, I spaz out and fuck it up.

I know I'm somewhat attractive but I get scared that a lot of guys are only interested in me in hope for sex and that's a big reason why I spaz out and fuck things up

Scroll up, She would rather date a tranny than say hello to you, fren.

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Yeah, like you can do them with people but I'm sort of mixed on the idea. Hiking with others is fun, provided they don't make fun of you for being slow. Bug collecting though? Whenever I did it around people I always end up running off to try and catch my favourite bugs. But I'd be happy to try it again.

I do, but I already talked too much about my personal life and it's freaking me out. Plus all the stuff about poor capacity to maintain friendships. Sorry. Thank you though.

>lack emotion
Funny, people who know me IRL say that I am way too emotional. It's one of the biggest complaints I get.

>narcissistic
How? I spent 5/6s of my post self deprecating, but I make one possible argument about why I'm single that could potentially bode well on me and now I'm a narcissist?

>hardly difficult
Except you're strawmanning me. I'm talking about detecting someone's influences based on a few small word choices.

I find it a touch ironic you speak about me over-simplifying someone's character, only to make an erroneous comment on my personality.

>she says she wants to be a man
>everyone tells her she's a perfect embodiment of negative female stereotypes
lol

Except when I realised they were a tranny I was disgusted. Note the term "ex" boyfriend. Troons deserve the rope, you nigger.

Come at me, jannies.

Hey there. You shouldn't be ashamed of your quirks, because I like them. I'm also socially awkward but love playing vidya with people. Hey I wanted to ask if you'd like to play some games with me.

I consider suicide all the time. I'm still not able to like ugly clingy guys. Sorry that triggers you robots.

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Fuck dude.
I was gonna wait until I was thirty before sending some lead upstairs, but that's kind of really pissing me off to think about.

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>you might see your body as a reward for one man
How about MY body isn't some mans reward nor does a man get a say what I do with MY body.

You being hurt by what I do with MY body is all on you.

Lets just cut through it all. Men think of women as a thing that cannot think or act for ourselves. You determine our purpose and we comply and damn us to hell for having free will just as men do.

Because I'm very mentally ill and all it does is cause suffering. I've never had an irl boyfriend but I had an intense romance or whatever with a dude I met playing vidya, and I became extremely clingy and impulsive- and on days when he didn't log on or talk to me at all it would cause me to become delusional and hallucinate (this was already a problem but this situation exacerbated it) and I would become paranoid and have fits of rage and beat the crap out of my mom and self harm. So now I don't pursue any sort of relationships in general.

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originally perfect gf material