Hello, my child. My name is Father Fren. Tell me what troubles you and I will provide the solution. Unironically
Hello, my child. My name is Father Fren. Tell me what troubles you and I will provide the solution. Unironically
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Brody Bennett
>Tell me what troubles you and I will provide the solution
Trad larping foids, leddit negros, and sodomites on this church choir singing board, Father.
Logan Price
take this froggo. someday it will be of use to you
you can use it when they all are burning
Wyatt Price
>Tell me what troubles you and I will provide the solution.
I do not like this life of mine. I'm not exactly sad, just bored and not enjoying my time, I've no motivation to do anything since this world has nothing to offer. I wish I was in a cooler world like the ones in vidya and manga/anime.
Juan Hughes
Tell me to do something specific and productive right fucking now.
Gavin Nelson
I can't make peace with my past and those who hurt me. It causes me significant mental anguish. Shame and anger are the main emotions. I know its linked to insecurity and low self esteem. How do i let go?
Carter Hughes
Bossed everything, got really ill. Now two hours of doing literally anything exhausts me for about a week. No chemical test for illness, so 99% used by sad fucks trying to scam my country's benefits system who think staying at home all day on three quid an hour until you die is great. Makes it really difficult to chat people up when you eventually have to tell them you've got the 'I've decided not to get a job' disease. What do Father Fren?
Levi Morales
I live in Lombardy. I have been in quarantine since the 1st of March. I am starting to get really fed up with everything.
I keep thinking about this girl, it's turned into an obsession. She showed interest in October and then rejected me, and I am a little rough around the edges so I thought maybe I had offended her. Fast forward a month and she shows interest again, I ask her number and suddenly she has a boyfriend. And here I am wondering if she did it on purpose and if so, why? I wish she didn't do it, I am a very lonely person and I didn't need this to make me feel even more like shit. I am tired.
Christopher Watson
How old are you? I felt like this too when I was around 16/19. If it's that age, I think it's a phase, so unless you have been seriously wronged it's going to be ok. Work out, hit on women, try be confident, it's going to get fixed on its own
Levi Myers
ehhem.... FUCK GAMER GIRLFRIENDS! SHE TOOK ALL MY ONLINE FRIENDS AND TURNED THEM AGAINST ME! THEY ALL FUCKING HATE ME NOW BECAUSE SHE CAN'T STOP TALKING ABOUT HOW """""""""""""""""""""""""ABUSIVE"""""""""""""""""""""""""""I AM! FUCK FEMALES FUCK FEMALES FUCK FEMALES FUCK FEMALES REEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!!!!!!!!!!!
ehem.... thank you father.
Oliver Watson
She is a thot with no interest, child. You might just be terrible at reading intentions. Read The Autistic Spectrum Guide to Sexuality and Relationships by Emma Goodall.
Leo Anderson
Read Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus by John Gray, child. It'll give you a broader perspective.
Robert Reyes
I am a pathetic loser. I want to be a respected badass. I am cowardly and dumb. I was an absolute fucktard as a teenager and early twenty something. I wasted whatever talents I have.
I am 25 now and ashamed of who I was 3 years ago. I currently have a job as a physics and maths teacher teaching sixth form (like junior and senior year of HS if you are American). I want to improve my life and be a man.
I am considering applying for the role of an officer in the army; education and development officer (I have the qualifications already) or engineering officer are my best bets. I train pull ups and lift weights every day with the hope of applying next year; I already meet the minimum strength requirements but I reckon that just passing the minimum won't be enough. The beep test is something I need to work on.
Is this a retarded macho fantasy or actually taking good steps to achieve a good goal?
Noah Wright
Nothing retarded about this, on paper.
Zachary Allen
You underestimate yourself child. No dumb idiot would be teaching sixth form and have not killed themselves after about ten seconds of that shit. Especially if it's an academy. Go forth like swole Jesus and get well medal'd up.
Jackson Anderson
I'm such a baka I don't even know what "sixth form" means...I've never even heard of "forms" any no nothing of math/sciences. You should be happy with your intelligence, many of us are just writhing in absolute stupidity
Wyatt Jackson
it seems that i dont get amy enjoyment oit of anything i try, im just tired of life at this point
Bentley Thomas
>Nothing retarded about this, on paper.
Should probably clarify then. I was a weak loser nerd at school. Didn't do a lot of sport. If you asked my schoolmates if I would join the army they would have laughed. Did quite well at school but behaved like a cunt.
I then proceeded to fuck up everything after the age of 18. Developed 'anxiety' because I am a weak faggot who couldn't deal with anything in the adult world. Had to live with my parents for a bit and transferred from a high tier uni to a middle ranking one (thank god they let me in). I managed to pass my degree with a 2:1 (decent grade in the UK) from a mediocre uni and was too scared to do anything. I was a virgin until 25 (very recently). Managed to land a paid teacher training program and I surprisingly did quite well and got a job a very good school with decent and focused kids.
I am lucky as fuck to be where I am considering how much I fucked up in my life. I want to prove to myself that I can conquer the shit weakness that I let hold me back. I trained some BJJ and some boxing with the gym for the last 3 years to try and toughen myself up.
Being an army officer seems like a role where I can put some skills to practise and a place where I can actually learn to be a man.
However, maybe I am kidding myself? The army website states that teacher training is advantageous for the specific role I'm looking at. Maybe they'll spot I'm a pussy the moment they take a loot at me.
After this coronavirus shit is over I'm going to walk into my local recruiting and careers army office with my cv and ask for information. No harm in trying I guess.
Landon King
I really am envious, I look at this and just see a foreign language that I'll never be able to understand. There's no shortcuts to this kind of thing, you have to grind from childhood well into adulthood to even get a handle on this stuff. The best thing I can do for the world now is grow fruit or something
Ayden Reed
I had a heart to heart conversation with 5 of my friends that my girlfriend talks to and 4/5 of them flat out expressed their disdain for me. We used to talk every day. She took them from me. She fucking took them from me man. She's gonna dump me and leave me with nothing. I'm not a chad. I'm a fucking loser with nothing, absolutely nothing.
Grayson Parker
>I'm such a baka I don't even know what "sixth form" means
It's a britbong thing. It just means the last 2 years of high school; 16-18 year olds studying maths and physics before uni.
Parker Wood
There's lots wrong in my life father. First of all I'm just apathetic about everything. I don't know where I want to go in life. I'm 19 and I feel like I need to decide now. Second problem. I'm bisexual and really like guys. And I hate myself for it. It goes against both my religious beliefs and political beliefs. Everything just feels so messed up and twisted. I don't know what I want or what I believe. I just know I hate my current existence.
Zachary Hughes
If you can, save up to try bigger things, child. Michelangelo wasn't shit until he saved up enough for that first big-ass block of marble. If you're not enjoying anything anyway, try living on as little as possible, then use a travel-buddy finding app and send yourself to disneyland for a week or two.
Colton Campbell
Growing fruit sounds like a wonderful idea my son. It only makes the world a better place. Try not to assume you're past the point of no return though - Ricky Gervais didn't get big until he was forty, and he isn't even very good at what he does.
Justin Flores
>The best thing I can do for the world now is grow fruit or something
Hey man, the world needs agriculture. If you like growing stuff and working on the land then go for it.
Matthew Wright
If God loves you, he gave you a mind and a body to enjoy, my son. Follow its urges as its creator intended - it's a more contemporary (and accurate) indicator of his wishes than any translation of an ancient text. 19 is the ideal age to begin the search for purpose that may well last all your life. Even if you never find it, the pursuit is what makes life a journey - one you know will continue in the hereafter.
Alexander Sanders
I'm not Father Fren, but another user. Call me Brother Friend.
>it's not at all relevant but I wanted to say that anyway
Anyway, I have the same issue you do, more or less. I'll give my own example so you can see where I'm coming from, though not to take the spot light.
My ex left me due to feeling emotional distance because we didn't do anything as a result of her health problems giving her no energy to do so, as well as long distance (though that had a soft date it wouldn't have been). I was also going through depression at the time (though now I'm mostly better, and by "at the time" i mean years, plural.) The fact that she left, and the reasons she gave made me feel inadequate, insecure, etc. And her health problems as well meant that, to the outside observer, she should be deemed "not worth it", so if I was dumped by someone "not worth it", then yeah, low self esteem too. Here's what I learned from it.
Her actions were done to suit her needs, the need for distance, which I did not share. She was fulfilling her own needs, which is fine in hindsight though it still bothers me, just like how I should fulfill my own.
The people who hurt you? Were doing it out of their own motivations which were not to hurt you. Someone made fun of you? They have a need to "prove" to themselves they're above you. Someone cheated on you? They're slaves to their need for pleasure or attention.
So, ask yourself, much like the motivation for their behaviors, what do you think is causing you to hold on to these feelings of hurt, of anger?
Is the anger being directed outwards at least, into productive activities like exercise or crafting, and thus is at least a source of energy? Or is it directed inwards and corroding your sensations?
The "minor" solution, if it's directed inwards, it's possible it will become self sustaining, the resolution to this is to direct it outward, and then give it time to disperse.
The "major" solution, if it's directed inward, is unfortunately 1/2
Ryan Moore
Amen, Brother Fren
Jose Collins
...is unfortunately to come to some type of epiphany. You can't really let it go slowly... per se. Think of a solid object like a plate. If you let it go, it's gone, you can't really hold onto it while also letting it go.
That being said, once you do -let it go-, it's not a 100% you're good now, you've effectively just removed an impalement, and now require time to heal up.
So, since the two things there were slightly contradictory, let me reconcile them. The wounds are like a spear in your heart and/or mind. They're either there, or they're not. Once you remove their presence, then you work on healing the actual wound left behind.
And, again, the best way I can suggest to let it go is to foster understanding. Even if they were acting out of malice, well. Some people are like that. Dogs bark because it is their nature. Getting upset at a dog barking is, while understandable at time WHEN IT'S THREE IN THE MORNING AND YOUR BROTHER REFUSES TO DO ANYTHING ABOUT HIS DOG FFFUUUU, a dog is just a dog. People are just people.
The only one you're in control of is yourself. You can't expect other people to act to your standards. Accept them as flawed individuals.
So, mental understanding + time is the tl:dr;
Lucas Clark
Sure, you might have been a weak loser at school, and proceeded to be a retard later and fuck everything up, but it's important to give yourself present day reality checks.
Let's review:
>You have a respectable job nurturing the minds of children may god help their souls
>You are physical fit
>You have a daily routine that prevents atrophy, of both the mind and the body
>You have a goal you're actively working towards
Unironically, you are not at all a loser in my eyes.
>Being an army officer seems like a role where I can put some skills to practise and a place where I can actually learn to be a man.
You're a man already in my eyes. Perhaps one with crippling self esteem because of your past and self loathing, but men across all of time have often been like that.
>After this coronavirus shit is over I'm
user, I...
I know what you mean. When I was a child i actually placed top at national conventions for math, but I was bored of it and never fostered the ability, so my understanding of it is about as good as yours I wager.
That being said, there's absolutely nothing wrong with agriculture. The world needs food, or we all die tomorrow. I mean I get what you're saying, but math is truly a tiny representation of what society needs. Farmers to grow food, a store to buy food from, people to work in the store, people to operate distribution chains to get the food from the farm to the store (presuming no other middle men, which is false because frozen food / ready made meals is a thing but anyway), and that has to exist as a independent thing before a man can devote time to math.
So you have at least 10-20 people at minimum required for the one math guy to do his thing.
It's not so much that the people are of lesser intelligence, as much as the jobs are demanding different knowledge.
It's been said it's easier to teach a farmer technology than it is to teach an office worker farming, for instance.
Eli Ortiz
>bisexual
>really like guys
there's no need to hate yourself, you're just Greek. lol
>need to decide by 19
yeah, i was the same. I'm 29 now, and lol who knows. It may not be an issue due to corona-chan coming to visit. The world will look like a very different place in a short while, so put off your expectations for a while.
From a removed religious perspective, society will keep on going as long as you marry a woman, have kids, and not spread disease from your faggotry, sure, but you know just as well as I do that there are 105 men born for every 100 women, right? It was like that because men would go off to war, do stupid stuff as kids, etc. and then the numbers somewhat. We're not really doing that in today's world, and it's theorized that faggotry is an introduced check to this. So even if you decide YOLO 420 BLAZE COCKS, the world will keep on spinning, just don't act flamboyant in public.
But you know, if you absolutely don't want to do that for reasons, that's the good thing about being bisexual. Just choose not to. This isn't meant to help you come to terms with the feelings as much as give you a slight path to follow. You can choose either way and it ultimately doesn't matter much, but if you are religious then just consider it your cross to bear.
As far as the apathy, do standard anti-depression stuff and see if that helps any, I'll do a post about it "soon", after I eat and stuff so maybe in an hour or something.
...don't go to disneyland. A waste of time and money and you're funding human-trafficking rings and jews.
Adam Gray
Honestly, you should try religion (get away from satanism. Larp).
Adam Watson
My qt crush is perfect for me, but she is married. I have been orbiting her hoping she will become single. Considering trying to date a girl who is more available.
On a diet trying to cut to single digit body fat, I am about 15 percent right now and feel like a fatty.
I need a haircut real bad.
I have been masturbating furiously. Probably averaging about 4x per day.
Brandon Phillips
Won't work, I can't delude myself into religion.
Aiden Butler
Thanks for the well thought out reply. I'll stick around to hear about depression desu.
Noah Williams
The idea of artificial meat interests me and it really does seem like it's on the ground floor right now. I do eat meat and I'm sure we unanimously agree that factory farming is just depressing as hell. I'd honestly like to know a lot more about that industry...I may suck complete ass but it seems like a way to lessen suffering in the world and actually do something that assists humanity in the long run. I think the biggest animosity against it right now is propaganda from the meat industry and also the xeno-estrogen thing. I'd really like to see a large scale control group study to establish more how those xenoestrogens or whatever the fuck actually does effect human body over the long term. Some suggest it just passes through your system and doesn't really absorb, others say it wreaks havoc on your male hormones and turns you into a s0ib0i. I know I'm not smart enough to start a revolution but I wouldn't mind playing a part / being a cog in the machine for something like that. Besides lessening suffering of animals there's also some evidence that much less resources are required to make the artificial meats than are required to feed livestock. I know I'm behind the curve and there's literal food scientists already doing everything they can to make the stuff just as and if not more palatable than regular meat, it's just interesting stuff I'd like to know more about but I've done zero research on how to maybe get involved in it all. I doubt I'll ever have positive human relations after what I've done but as long as I'm still alive I can maybe do something positive instead of wasting away on the internet doing nothing all day
Asher Gutierrez
Thank you, user. I've been wrestling for years as to why I can't let go. I hold on to the anger because it is my last weapon. I didn't take care of the situation at the time, and now all I have is my anger. And I know it is directed largely at myself. I'm scared that if I let go of the anger, they have won. All of them.
As for forgiving myself, I have no idea. I suppose time will take care of that.
I wonder if I'll ever be able to look at myself and be proud of who I am, and at peace.
Joshua Morgan
>Try not to assume you're past the point of no return though
This is the hardest of all copes. Even when you believe you're past the point of no return, that tiny sliver of hope still remains. I just want to grab that sliver and wrap it around me like a cocoon but for the past few years it's just been grasping at straws and trying to hang on. The shame, disgrace, disgust, agoraphobia and all else just doesn't go away though, and I deserve all that and more for being what I am
Justin Brooks
lol i tried to find jesus but after reading "gods" holy bible it made me nothing but a fool. God either is sadistic or left us long ago.
Isaac Adams
Alright, back. I had rice and chicken if anyone cares. No one does but lol. Kind of serves as a nice segue to the start of the depression thing.
First and foremost, psychosomatic link. What this means is, the mind body connection.
If your mind is stressed as fuck, your immune system goes down, and you get physically ill, despite the fact that your body shouldn't care if you read some upsetting news. Conversely, if you treat your body like shit your mind will suffer as well. This makes a good amount of sense, or at least it should, but it's even bigger than you think due to the presence of the second brain, the gut. I'll skip most of the sciency stuff because I'm momentarily forgetting it, but a lot of research has come out lately as to how important for your brain diet is.
So, that's step one. Cut out shit from your diet. No soda, limit processed foods, etc. And by "processed foods" I mean basically anything premade, like frozen food. Obviously yogurt and cheese is in a sense "premade" but shut up you know what I mean.
You need sunlight as well. Indoor light is 500 lumens about, and outdoor natural light is about 10,000 lumens. Your eyes contain photoreceptors and this light helps regulate mood and circadian rhythym. I'm not even going to bother right clicking and spell correcting that.
In addition to the eyes, you need sunlight on your skin as well, for purposes of (good) radiation, vitamin D production, and a whole host of other benefits. Seriously, there's a reason that ancient man worshiped the sun.
"But brother fren! What about sun cancer!" "okay sure live an extra few years and have all of them be miserable" might be what you're expecting me to say but that's not true. The issue is people staying inside all day and then binging hours at a time outside without getting acclimated and searing themselves like tuna.
30 min every day won't kill you, and is in fact necessary.
There's hydration but I think there's not anything hidden about that. 1/2
Luis Scott
>but math is truly a tiny representation of what society needs
I agree and disagree. I will say that in the structure you elude to, I'm definitely in the "peasant" class that would be part of the 25 people that prop up the math guy, and I'm pretty okay with that. Ofcourse humans need their basic needs and it's great that we have such an abundance of that all right now, but those math / science wizards are the ones truly changing the world with more and more advanced technology. My biggest gripe right now is if I'm even worthy enough to be in the "peasant" class. I hit a brick wall with my ego a few years ago and have been confronted with how disgusting my existence is to humanity - a person like me would be dragged into the streets and butchered in front of a cheering crowd in other countries. I want to believe in the "it's never too late" but when you think of "hell" and see video's of people being tortured like that, I can only believe that's what I deserve and that's what "everyone else" wants to do to me. They used to burn witches at the stake apparently in America but like, compared to poorer countries that still do lynchmobs or chop you hand off for stealing a loaf of bread, I'm afraid of the punishment of my actions and it cripples me. My life doesn't really matter, I'm allowed to live and breath right now but what price am I going to eventually have to pay for all this. My life is just in limbo and I'm continuing on just expecting all hell to come crashing down on me, but here I am sipping tea, smoking cigs, and jacking off on the internet
IDK, alls I can think of when any living person see's me, I can only think they're revolted. I know they're better me...i don't really CARE and can accept that they're better me, but I'm still scared, living here in my shell, being so uncouth and lowly. I'm really glad I didn't go on a shooting spree or something when I was crazier and angry
Jack Rodriguez
Bitterness is a poison you drink and expect the other person to suffer from, user.
It's fine to maintain anger as a weapon. I'm not sure if you're religious, but Jesus had righteous anger to drive out the money changers for their bullshit. Zeus and Odin both had anger for their own reasons as well. Anger isn't inherently bad, it's a response, the negativity comes from how the response is directed. A man getting angry at someone making fun of him is fine, but that man taking the anger home and beating his wife isn't fine.
Alright, so far we've established you're a complex plant that needs water, sun, and good nutrients. But you're not just a plant. You're like some kind of moveable plant that can talk.
So, move. Exercise is an important thing because of the mind body connection I mentioned earlier, how do you expect your mind to stay sharp if your body is atrophied? Even a prison inmate can practice calisthenics, so there's really no excuse.
But "brother fren, what is a moving plant supposed to talk about?" and to that I say... fuck if I know. I have the knowledge not the practical application here. Talk about the weather, plants fucking love that shit. For real though, communication is a skill that needs to be developed like any other one. You don't start off being able to do 100 push ups why do you think you're going to be able to socialize easily?
These normies have been doing this shit since childhood, we're way behind and the only skill we really had from not starting soon was introspection, which is great if you're able to harness it like chan certified autism, but as said earlier a weapon turned against yourself does you no good.
Anyway just start small, make small talk, etc.
Start with online friends if you want.
I really, really can't much here because despite going for a degree in psychology and being able to dissect and observe and assist with communication, forming actual relationships is easily my weakest link. 2/2
Gavin Lopez
you alluded to a lot of self loathing and feeling like you're deserving of punishment.
did you do something objectively bad you feel guilty for or is it purely psychological unworthiness / not fitting in / etc.
And even then, it seems you're focusing on the US and the third world's system of punishment, but you shouldn't because they're idiots, that's why their societies are so far behind.
The point of prison is not isolation / punishment, it's rehabilitation, as per the nordic / northern european system. If it was purely isolation, then when they get out in 10 years they'll just repeat the crimes, and if it's purely punishment what the fuck's the point of keeping someone imprisoned for 60 years when they're already 50 with no chance of a life afterwards? Just kill them and be done with it. But it's cruel? They might repent and change their ways? Yeah, true, but what's the point of repenting and changing if you're forever locked up? The only plausible way that would work is if you believe in the soul, but even then think about it.
"you are a changed man, but we're still gonna keep you locked up until you die because lol"
It's asinine.
Anyway, again I stress, why do you think that user? And is it justified hatred of your self? What do you think -I- would think of you after just getting done making that speech above? Do you think I would be happy tearing you limb from limb? I wouldn't, let me just answer you that now. I'd much rather you deal with your problems, and then be a farmer or some other thing and be happy and enjoy life and "contribute".
>contribution not necessary, I just don't want to see you suffer and most people feel like shit when they're not able to contribute so put that there usually
>what society needs
society only needs whatever it does to maintain itself, which is mostly food.
society doesn't -need- to advance, we just set that as a species goal, but we could maintain present levels and most people would live decent enough lives.
Lucas Barnes
There's more, I'm not done ranting yet reeee
Alright, so a plant that talks and moves, cool, but (un)fortunately we also have a mind that wonders why. "why am I moving talking plant brother fren?" to which I say "'lol, i dunno, what do you think a plant does?" and then you start thinking "you know, i finally made my present life good enough, but what am I going to do about my tomorrow?" and then you get the next thing that most people need to be content with life, a hobby or something to do to feel productive / useful. This is standard stuff about career / crafts / utility / usefulness / etc. etc. that I think there's enough shit written about. Most people are good here, but there are a decent minority who don't find fulfillment here, and to that I say ANIME. Or, wait, no, I mean yes, but that comes later. "Brother fren, I have figured out what this plant does" and to that I say "okay, but have you figured out WHY plant does?" and the plant scurries away and starts to think about philosophy or the occult or psychology or whatever they decide interests them.
So, that should be enough to give you a decent lead as to what to start on.
Basic needs (diet, sun, sleep (fuck, I didn't touch on sleep. tl:dr; sleep important, get enough but not too much), exercise, socializing), then productive needs like a hobby / career / something to do, then fulfillment needs that utilize the brain and/or consciousness.
If you pass basic needs and still feel terribly suicidal, then consider the latter two. If you're absolutely sure those aren't relevant, then it is possible you have a chemical imbalance in the brain and after ALL OTHER OPTIONS are attempted, I would then say consider anti-depressants / psychatric medication, it exists for a reason, but I've seen enough people get rekt by it that I consider it not the first line of defense for the mind. 3/2
Joshua Bennett
>did you do something objectively bad you feel guilty for
oh yes, tons and tons. They say those who live in sin will surely live the LIE
Actually I just took a walk with my dog the past hour. I pretty much always avoid peoples path while walking / don't look at their face..Bout 30 mins in there was a guy just sitting on a 3 foot concrete wall on the side walk. As I was getting closer he turned around and we made eye contact - kind of awkward so I just raised my hand and waved at him, he didn't do anything except keep staring into my eyes. Really just demoralized me the rest of that walk, just with a few seconds of good eye contact he could tell I was scum...I cant know what was going on in his head but I just lowered my head and kept walking
I also do believe in the soul and "god" now. I don't want to hurt any body any more, but my life is supported completely by everyone around me, and I've put them through so much shit that these connections are just dead ends, I cant right the wrongs. I'd really like a female partner who's as damaged as me to just comiserate with and feed off each other to get by but, I don't think that would even help. I spat in the face of god and saw the truest depths of an evil ego and thought that was the ultimate sin, but it made me much more reflective about spitting in the face of humanity. I really am the eternal "jew", a total parasite
I'm kind of glad I'm not as ignorant any more and more appreciative about many things but, it all feels wasted on me. I'm here sucking on the tit of god / eating the fruits of everyone elses labor while buying into some phony sense of superiority (thanks in part to a lot of negative propaganda) and it's just pure ugly. I tell myself living with this internalized punishment is justice enough, but the thought of external pain IE "fires of hell" is a big roadblock in my head. It doesnt help that I'm incredibly stupid. I've never really felt true acceptance or peace with myself unless on drugs
Dominic Walker
>chemical imbalance in the brain
more like a dirty conscious
Camden Butler
Two main things...
1) I am a shitty person and can't seem to stop myself from being shitty.
2) My country is in lockdown and my entire life is in limbo as a result. Every day sucks.
Noah Gomez
I lived my whole life perfectly, perfect grades, perfect body, perfect uni, high paying job. My only goal was to get a virgin wife and few(lots) of kids. Now I'm old, fired because of corona, with 0 friends and no chance of getting a virgin gf.
Why shouldn't I kill myself? Nobody would even know?
Christian Allen
turnabout is fair play bitch
don't spend a life time being a little cheat then expect me to feel anything but hatred for you
choke on it you piece of shit
Cameron Price
I don't know how to go to confession during the pandemic.
Tyler Bell
I thought a spirit was with me a few days ago. kept feeling like blacking out or something unexplainable. this occurred for two days. It was like I was sleeping but not. Should I consider doing something about or just keep thinking about a missed opportunity? Not a pagan btw, pretty christian.
Alexander Hernandez
Hello again frens, this is Father Fren. I will now address your questions.
As a first thing, I recommend these videos if you're having trouble starting being productive.
EVERYBODY you need to go and watch a few videos fren. why aren't you
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look up dopamine fasting and you're going to prepare to stop using technology et al for a month
you need to accept that you got hurt, feel the pain without hating yourself, providing solutions, or judging in any way. just feel the pain. it comes up, let it do its thing while you're silent (cry if you can). however, i know it's tricky, but don't ruminate on it. don't think of the same things over and over, that's just torturing yourself, doesnt help. instead of ruminating, try your best to focus on something else, like something productive. try to get in shape, pursue a hobby, figure out how to make more money, etc.
generally, if your life is bad.. fix everything in y our life that can be fixed.
you also need to be brutally honest about what you need to do, and then keep your promises. don't do anything that you know will fuck everything up
well, you absolutely need to do everything you can to fix your health. #1 priority, everything else needs to die.
you need to address your empty life. thinking about this girl is a trap, gets u nowhere. so stop it by focusing on something else. i know it hurts i got fucked by something like that too a long time ago, but trust me you can't wallow. stop ignoring the things you know you need to do.
cute girls like to use their beauty to sway men because it's fun to control you. stop being a low level animal and rise, fren
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try this guy
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Nolan Peterson
father or brother frens are you still there i would like to inquiry for your help
how to i got about life how can i get into working out to stop being a fatass how do i become a better person how do i get into reading how can i make my father proud of me every time we speak he always asks me how i`m doing about my health if i`m reading anything lately if FINISHED the books he gave me (which i still haven`t ) if i have decided what my future plan is if i have daily schedule yet each time i always stay silent waiting for the subject to change i am ashamed of myself for not meeting my fathers ideals and standards as his because i know how much he has given me and how much i owe him one time we even fought and he told me that he didn`t even want me to take of him we he gets older to just throw him to the side and that the only thing he wants from me is my well being how do i stop being such a person how do i make him proud
Blake Johnson
holy shit user, slow down and use your periods
Also I suck way more ass than you do so i cannot help
Daniel White
no it's good. you want to be strong. go where it feels fresh. you're doing fine but make the changes you need to make in order to get there
you don't need anybody. focus on yourself, build yourself up to not be a loser.
you don't need to decide at 19. that pressure you feel is being mindfucked by society or parents, whatever. you're fine.
bisexual? is it possible for you just not focus on guys. just literally don't focus on it. it's not the worst thing in the world, but friggin take control of your own life, become healthy, fix the problems that are in your life, and that might change.
might all end up as nothing, fren
it's not really something you can grasp like a solid object. try to be of genuine heart
do a 3 day fast. spend a week without technology and go outside into nature
cant stop yourself from being shitty? dopamine addict.
if it's gone, eh it's fine
because you can become strong. if you need those things, if you're clinging to them for a sense of self, it's unhealthy. not that you shouldnt go for those things if you really want them, but there's a big diff btwn playing the game to win, and playing the game NOT to lose.
at any rate, everybody is in the same boat. maybe work on starting a new skill right now
Xavier Perez
sorry bro i was crying while typing that so i didn`t think too much about it anyway i`ve calmed down a bit now i`m good thank you user for your help
Ryan Garcia
I know it's tired old advice but also try to appreciate the things you DO have like fresh air, water, all that stuff. 1st world relationship / societal struggles can be mentally fucked but trying to ground yourself in basic healthy things can AID you, but not really fix you
Samuel Lewis
hello frens. i will provide you with a fantastic resource, particularly for weight loss.
stop talking to your dad for the time being, bc it seems to be a source of shame for you. your dad is pressuring you to do things ,but clearly he didn't teach you shit. your parents are responsible for help you become an adult. seems like they did do that. your dad seems to have fucking sucked, and you seem to be mindfucked into appeasing him. not that what he is saying is wrong, he is worried about you, but he's also fucking you up. how does it make you feel? making yourself feel liek that doesnt help, it only keeps you hating yourself. 100% serious, STOP letting him do that. give him as little as possible. he is clearly being toxic. cut him out like i had to cut out my overprotective mother. trust me fren.
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bro, seriously, in order to not waste your life, you need to give up everything that keeps you there. youtube.com
stop eating the bad food. simply stop buying it. get off the computer, physically put it in your closet. leave it there and replace the time, find better things to do.
Hunter Mitchell
>did do that
did not
Connor Myers
you know what bro you are right you are correct i need to stop being a talk only guy and start actually doing stuff thank you fren i love you
Brody Mitchell
I'm 9 minutes into that video and he explicity states he still had a life even with a little bit of internet addiction. He said he'd work 12 hours a day then spend the last few doing "addicting" stuff. I'll still watch the rest in a bit but it doesn't sound like he ever hit the point of absolute destruction from it
Andrew Price
Jeremiah Bell
It sounds like you have a... let me look up the name of it again.
bleh, I can't find it, but it's basically a guilt complex. If you are religious, then remember there is nothing that's unforgivable.
And that guy couldn't have known anything about you, so you feeling bad is at the very least proof enough you have some major psychological issues / low self esteem / etc.
oh, thank you for reminding me. excessive masturbation fries the dopamine circuitry in the brain and leads to apathy / depression.