Are acting desperate and whorish to one guy or all guys and are other guys around that you are interested in? Had some beautiful girl I was I into that was open and didn't play games but also was so openly whorish and slutty and obviously desperate for a relationship that I just passed and let the next guy have.... Idk I know it's paradoxical but I want a girl that's slutty for me but not a slut fuuuuug now im alone maybe I should have settled
Learn about female mating strategy and hypergamy
Joseph Clark
Ian Rogers
Kinda what this guy said. Maybe you want to move things along too quickly. If you play to fast, guys will think you're a slut and that's why they lose interest. Not saying they are in the right, but it might be the answer you're looking for.
Austin Collins
>babies first red pill
wait until you get red pill on female love. female love is a fucking joke
Ryan Parker
Guys want to feel special like girls. I for one be a roasties cockride I want a girl like likes me for me
Ayden Roberts
Red pills start dropping and thread dies lol
Samuel Martinez
I've mostly dated/gotten to know normal guys or dweebs, Chads are the outlier desu. I've only dated one Chad, the rest would never be considered Chads.
All the guys I've met have been at very different places, too. Both irl and online.
Mostly about if I try to talk genuinely I am really awkward and nervous and can say stuff that people think is weird. When I'm genuine people think I'm weird as fuck. I can have really confident energy and be extremely charming if I dissociate.
I only pursue one guy at a time and only sleep with one at a time.
Weird you guys say that, because when I was playing games and would say I don't know about a guy (despite only sleeping with them and only being interested in them), made it seem like they were always close to losing me, and said things to make them jealous they seem much more interested... And we always eventually ended up dating after I started tapering that off.
Now when I meet a guy I really start to like I explicitly say I am only interested in them atm, express all the things I find special in them, and that I'd be happy only sleeping with them until we put a label on it or part ways.
Only gotten used and heartbroken like that.
Perhaps they get the idea I'm low quality somehow because I'd care about them from the start?
So I'm not sure what to do.
Nolan Young
If you're telling the truth that genuinely kinda fucking sucks. My advice is take it more slowly. Try to get to know the person, and the person to know you before moving onto sexual stuff (including kissing lmao)
It could be that normans are just bigger dramawhores than I realize, though that does strongly go against my own personal experiences.
Dominic Walker
This stuff is just all incel coping. Don't worry about it.
Brayden Gomez
It does genuinely fucking suck. I want to be a better person but it hurts really bad when you get rewarded for games and completely heartbroken for trying to be moral. I just want a good strong relationship with someone and it seems impossible unless I manipulate.
I guess I could take things more slowly, but once I express interest (and also tell him I only am interested in him) the guy usually touches me or kisses me himself (or asks to kiss me) when we cuddle or something.
It also feels like manipulation, like playing hard to get. Depending on the guy, I would sometimes abstain for a month or so when I was playing games knowing it would make the chase better.
If I had already expressed interest in a guy I already know I would want to pursue a long term relationship/possibly marriage, so it feels disingenuous to abstain from sex with them.
I don't want to abstain for the sole purpose of making a guy like me because that seems along the same vein as anything else I would do to make a guy like me more.
I'm just really fuckin sad about it and I don't know what to do.
Jonathan Adams
Abstaining from sex is probably a good idea for a while.
Think of it like a carrot and stick thing. You're used to using the stick, but you're using the carrot approach wrong. Intimacy should be introduced slowly in a relationship as the parties grow closer (though not consistently denied for too long). Human mating patterns are complex, but the hard-to-get way is not the only way.
Another important point is how you present yourself. The way you present yourself otherwise will create expectations. Though take this latter part with a big grain of salt since I haven't got the slightest idea how you present yourself. But if you are a confident, outgoing and attractive woman in general, people might feel that you are disingenous if you push things along.