This quarantine has been making me think a lot about life recently and what makes me happy. Or if happiness is the answer. Or if fulfilment is. I don't really feel like I know the answers anymore. I used to think it was all about just being healthy and happy but nothing I think about really makes me happy anymore. Everything I think I want if I think about it long enough I find a way to make myself think it isn't worth it. Everything seems so useless, all I ever feel is anger and sadness. How do I get back to living a happy life? I know this isn't really fit related but it is health related
This quarantine has been making me think a lot about life recently and what makes me happy...
Adam White
Brody Phillips
purpose
the answer is purpose
Liam Cook
But what purpose? I don't want to sound so namby pamby and self-defeating because that isn't what I want to be. I just need something to make me feel like life is worthwhile. Days are just fading into one another. It's all so empty.
Cameron White
if you don't have a purpose right now your first purpose is finding one
this is not wordplay, I mean it literally, go out and explore
Michael Allen
Happiness isn't all that complicated. When people are unhappy its usually because one or more of these are not in good condition
Family relationships
Social life
Work / studies /occupation
Freetime, lack of hobbies, activities etc
Destructive things like addictions or behaviors
Just an example: you live with your dysfunctional family, spend all your time at your computer, barely socialize, or dont even have friends, work a job you absolutly hate, are adicted to weed or video games then yeah you are kind of fucked. But even just not having friends or a social life can result in depression
Samuel Martin
Great times come for great autism OP
My method to getting out of all my ruts and predicaments in life is that I use my imagination to have conversations with made up characters in my head in imaginary places. Or it can be real place and real people but I imagine what they tell me.
I made up this old man character called James who I imagine has been through everything I have. I take a page and write to him and then have him write back. I imagine that I'm actually there with him. It takes me out of the constant negative thoughts that we tend to get stuck in when we're feeling down. I work out my problems with reason and don't get stuck in emotions.
Don't care if it's weird it helps and nobody knows.
Kevin Campbell
tfw i can check nearly all of those boxes
Brody Robinson
I resent my parents so much. My mother and father have no love between them, they're both fat and don't do anything besides sit about the house. I can't get over this anger and resentment in them and it spreads into how I view everyone else.
How do I stop hating the world and everyone in it. I want to like people but I frame everything in hate and anger.
I can't love girls because part of me always thinks they'll be thot. I can't like other people because I think they're normies or pretentious or cunts.
I recognize that I do this but can't let go of my hatred. I hate social media and people who post on it. I think everyone is vain and boring.
How can I get over this?
Sebastian Mitchell
AHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
Camden Allen
>always thinks they'll be thot.
>I think they're normies or pretentious or cunts.
> I hate social media and people who post on it
> I think everyone is vain and boring.
Yas Forums has influenced you waaaay more then it should have.
Samuel Jones
where is this pic from?
Juan Price
I know it has. I can't help but feel so self-righteous and then I hate myself even more.
How do I stop this and begin to see the good more than the bad?
Xavier Lee
I don't really know. I got it from a comfy thread on /wsg/. Do you want some more like it?
Easton Stewart
i sure do breh, its super-comfy
Josiah Campbell
I don't know. That is just something you are gonna have to figure out.
Grayson Edwards
Tell james kind regards from me
Ayden Hughes
Can you give me help then? How do I love the world? A pic for each reply
Benjamin Mitchell
Look to God.
Zachary Cox
What if I can't believe?
Lucas Diaz
>How do I love the world?
i strongly recommend you read Steppenwolf from Hermann Hesse
probably the less spoiled the better, but its about a man who was able to zone out from the world and just take in the beauties of the reality, like those perfect flowers by the neighbours window, that nice huge tree swaying lightly in the wind, or just those birds flying by almost magically
[spoiler]alternatively look into LSD, which is a mind-opening experience and eye-opener[/spoiler]
Alexander Phillips
If you ask me, I'd say that nothing really matters - even the stuff you think is the most important. Doctors, charity workers, world leaders - wars, religion, having children and so on. it's all going to end in time, individually and univerally. You have come to this realisation, now you must accept it. I recommend a good LSD trip to kill the ego and you will understand. if everything is temporary and you have no power to change anything, you must learn to play the game. You're only here for a while, so just be grateful that you are and do things you find interesting. If you don't find anything interesting and you're generally unhappy for no reason, you're probably stressed or depressed and only you know the solution to that. Hope things pick up for you brother, just keep ploughing along and things will change.
Parker Hernandez
>How do I love the world?
Looks like you have just found your quest or mission,or your purpose. Isn't that in your purpose to find out? You are here, you want to love the world, but you can't? It looks like you got some exploring to do, you got your self a quest in your life. . Your journey has begun
Jace Hernandez
Where could I acquire some LSD? I've read Siddhartha before and I remember I read the first chapter of Steppenwolf in a book shop.
Thank you for the reply, it does mean a lot. I don't want to be full of hate.
Aiden Rogers
This isn't half bad. Thank you. Any suggestions as to where to start?
Kayden Mitchell
Fulfillment imo equates to happiness. Not necessarily pleasure. But it does lead to inner joy and happiness. What makes you feel fulfilled is really your call.
I struggle with this a lot lately. Its really easy to feel inadequate or lazy being out of work, or just seeing the world shut down. Ive taken some time to reflect more the last month. Im a bartender, and turning 30 on the 30th of this month. Debating on if school is worth going back to or just trying to push hard into creating my own passion. I love working in the service industry, I do get a genuine joy out of giving people great service and I get told regularly that my personality is electric and that I connect with others genuinely well, if I could do anything with my time it would probably be to just connect with and help others in whatever form that takes. Meeting new people is always a joy. But I cant be a bartender/server forever, if I want a regular life with my gf and to have kids someday, I need a job with benefits, a regular life.
Ive wanted to start streaming now that I have the time, and plan on doing it more regularly. But its competitive, and getting a viewership is difficult in a very saturated arena like twitch. But I do love gaming and the idea of having a community appeals to me more than the potential financial success. Any avenue to share thoughts and opinions on games and other stuff would be a lot of fun.
I left my church over 10 years ago, throughout high school I was pretty involved in the youth ministries, but had a lot of problems with the church doctrine. I dont consider myself a Christian anymore. But if I took away anything from my time in it, the attitude of giving of yourself to others, a genuine servivitude and thankfulness for the presence that others provide has always given me the greatest inner joy. Im not entirely sure still what to do with my life. But I know that something involving connecting and helping others will lead to fulfillment.
Gavin Gomez
if you have the time, just go to nature, no electronics, nothing
just go so some nice spot and lie in the grass
look how green it is around you, look at al those beautiful clouds slowly just flying by
imagine the circle of life, those ants, those bugs, those birds, just living their small little lives just struggling day from day, until their life is ended and they join the everything of life; everything has a beginning and an end, and yet everything exists together in the world and is connected
nature is beautiful
its a start breh, i believe in you
and i do recommend Steppenwolf, however i would strongly recommend classics too which are just goddamn beautiful books, Idiot, Monte Cristo, Moby Dick, etc...
Joshua Sanders
>Everything I think I want if I think about it long enough I find a way to make myself think it isn't worth it. Everything seems so useless, all I ever feel is anger and sadness. How do I get back to living a happy life?
Ive never seen someone putting precisly in words what Ive been struggling with for quite some time now. thanks op, you are worth it, keep going.
Dominic Perez
Even if you have the faith as small as a mustard seed you can still move mountains. Have you ever even talked to him?
Jordan Richardson
By answering your own questions. Do like this guy
Liam Harris
The gym makes me happy
Aaron Wright
one of my major problems is that I cant think of a job that would make fun or fulfill me. Im 18 now and I have to apply for some form job or education soon, but I feel like I would hate everything I could ever do.
Caleb Brooks
Contrary to the popular mainstream opinion, life is not about maximizing happiness and pleasure and minimizing discomfort and sadness. This mentality breeds the cowardice rampant in modern Western societies. A fulfilling life requires experiencing the entire gradient of human emotion, from the most pleasant to the worst emotions imaginable. What you need is to find something worth struggling, flighting for, and quite possibly dying for. That can be a family, a career, your country, etc. No one can tell you what that is besides you. Cowardice and unfulfillment also comes from the belief that the worst thing possible in life is death. This is untrue, I can think of a countless number of things worse than death, but you'll also have to find this out for yourself
Christian Cooper
not OP, but what is the solution for THAT