So, long story short. My wife and I have been together for 3 1/2 years. When we met, we bonded over the gym and being physically active. She was always body weight conscious, since she was larger than other women in the gym, but she never kept it from keeping her home and out of the gym.
Now, 3ish years later, we got married and she has settled into her job after getting her degree. My activity level hasstayed the same since then, maybe even increased. Hers is a different story. Commuting to and from work takes a lot out of her, so her activity level has suffered as well. Plus she has big breasts and she hates the fact they bounce too much and cause strain on her neck.
Over time, I've noticed she's gained weight. At first, it wasn't that noticable. A pound here. Two there. Now she has gained 30-40 lbs since we've been together. She has noticed as well and wants to do something about it. She's done all the tests, no thyroid issue. No B.C that is causing weight gain. I mentioned the breasts earlier because it seems to be a constant issue for her. Shes bought some fitness bras for that reason, but most of them are too tight and cause her discomfort. Plus, the strain of her job can be an issue for her motivation level. She seems to have little to no energy, at all. I wish I could help her but I don't want to make her feel bad and shamed.
To say it doesn't bother me, would be a lie. I love my wife, and I care about her and want her to be healthy. I've noticed she doesn't take care of herself as she should. And yes, not going to lie. The weight gain has gotten in the way of our sex life. Is there anything I can do to support her ? How do I say something without hurting her feelings?
You talk like a fag and your shit's all retarded. Try being a man.
Noah Lopez
god that pic flares up my taste for slim redheads. oh idk OP throw out any trash food and meal prep for the both of you i guess
Juan Martin
Be a good husband. Make meal preps, try to persuade her in a good way. Do your part, offer to go to the gym with her, maybe some walks and healthy options. No eating out, do groceries in her instead and stop buying shitty food.
If she refuses, the problem is in her hands. But you did your part and your mind can be clear. I wish you good luck user.
Julian Hernandez
Unironically this.
Evan Lee
If work is taking so much out of her, support her. She doesn't even need to work out if she'd just diet. CICO. Eat below maintenance, plan meals, make meals for her.
My old geography did this and got caught lol free him
Noah Howard
>t. american
Eli Watson
I tried just about every method I knew to try and get my girlfriend to lose weight, I would work out with her, indirectly bring up her weight gain, cook with her, none of it worked. Then she decided to go vegan and holy fuck it was the greatest thing that ever happened to me, the weight fell off and she has no issues maintaining at a healthy bodyweight now. This might be a stretch, but maybe pretend to go vegan and see if you can get her to go along with it, might help you out.
William Roberts
Incredible advice. Take some time weekly to put food together with her. It’s a good bonding activity and both of you can not only free up time later in the week but you’ve got lunches for work all week and don’t risk 1) paying for lunch too often at work 2) eating shitty food from the work vending machines or close restaurants. This advice works for both of you, you can count macros and calories in homemade food. Meal prep kicks ass
You're fucked. Once a woman lets herself go and goes into nesting/bloat mode, the only way she stops is if she wants to fuck someone other than you.
Aaron Bailey
Is that asuka?
Dominic Bell
This
don't get married if you want your girl to stay in shape. You are not alone OP, you're just one of the many guys who thinks their girl is going to act the same once you marry her.
She doesn't have to try as hard anymore
Connor Price
Make it easy for her. My gym time took a serious pummeling when work started getting in the way. I built a home gym which made it trivial to keep up the routine. Now I can take an hour per day without having to waste a moment on traveling or scheduling, which has cut the time needed to less than half. It's not as expensive as you think either compared to what you save on membership fees.
Ethan Wright
Your fault for getting together with a fatty in the first place. Activity levels mean shit, she has to stop guzzling calories like a full blown retard.
Divorce and run for the fucking hills, stop the sex and do not even think of children, an obeast that can't take care of itself can't be trusted with a baby.
>support her Jesus fucking christ, user, you'll give yourself a hernia.
As a last resort, force her to watch this documentary with you. This strayan Sheila ran away from an abusive home at fourteen and was homeless for years getting pulled into all kinds of shady shit, turned her life around by the time she was eighteen, got married, got fat having two babies in two years without much money and without any help, to top it off her husband got a brain tumor and some chronic debilitating disease that disabled him, and she got fit as fuck and used her success to keep the family afloat. No excuses. youtube.com/watch?v=NkMJdytTSXU
The alternative? You end up with a whiny entitled cow like pic related, chained to it for the rest of your life.
If she's vegan she'll end up killing your babies eventually, but whatever works for you.
Connor Campbell
Same. Moving to home gym after corona hit was the best idea I ever had. Don't have to worry about people judging when I can't lift quite as much as I tried, and can listen to and watch whatever I want. Can wear whatever I want, no lunk alarm, no thots, no packs of smelly pajeets in jeans, no fat boomers with weird advice, no gnarly ashoes spreading ringworm and foot fungus. no old faggots drying their balls with the hair dryer in the locker room. Everyone serious about staying fit should take the home gym pill.
Jackson Foster
>my wife's breasts are too big plz halp Yas Forums ;___;
Fuck you, any one of us sad cunts would love to have one of your "problems" and you have the nerve to post something like this. Go ask relationship advice somewhere else, this is a fitness board you faglord
Joshua Bailey
>It's not my fault, I can't help being a fatass who loves food. It is your fault, user. But it's also within your power to fix. Pick your favourite meals (that you can't normally fit into your tdee) and have one, once a week and fit it into your tdee for the day. You can make it, user. You can love food and be swole as fuck.
Ryder Walker
Seconding this, OP. On top of all of those benefits (especially the bonding one), it improves your skill at cooking and it feels so fucking good to run off to/come back from work and not have to cook: just open the fridge.
