ED/Low libido, finally having sex

Saw a doc about a year ago about it. A urologist and an endocrinologist as well, even. None could really offer any advice aside from telling me it's probably all mental.
>does porn work?
Kinda. Just looking at it doesnt do anything for me. If I'm jackin it I can get pretty hard. Not 100% but pretty hard. I did use from age like 13-21 at least a few times a week. Quit the stuff for good around a month ago. Couple months before that watched maybe once twice a week for a little bit. Didn't jerk off though.

you're nervous bro.
Just relax and enjoy the moment, don't worry about how you're performing.
Counter-intuitively, the less you try to do a good job and the more you rely on instinct and pleasure, the better you do with the ladies.
this is an important skill to work on for all facets of life, btw. Instinct and the knowledge locked up in your primordial brain will help you in all kinds of ways, especially in tandem with higher order skills like communication and pattern recognition.
You've gotta straddle this instinctive becoming-animal and this rational becoming-man.
Sex is an excellent microcosm of these antagonistic yet synergistic drives. As you get more and more experience, you'll have good sex and bad sex, in varying conditions, and you'll find that you are at your most chadly when your shoulders are down, your jaw is unclenched, you have genuine affection and closeness with your sexual partner, you genuinely want to make her feel good and pay attention to her physical cues. And yet, you'll want to objectify her and brutalize her a little bit. And that's what she wants, too. A harmony of violence and tenderness. It's fun, it's life affirming. You will get it.
side note.
You'll realize this obsession with consent and verbal communication is a cope of those who lack instinct at all, who cannot tell when she "wants it" and cannot read in her breath and responses "what she wants." An autistic biproduct of cyberized human relations.
learn what you like. For me, it's black metal, heavy compound lifts, sauna, and rowing. These release a huge amount of tension. For you it may be an entirely different set of things. welcome to being a human.

The prostate is the Male g spot unironically, they are just small plugs that sit in there. You could use it while you are fucking the girl

just let a BBC chad fuck your girlfriend trust me she wants it bad and you can't satisfy her so there is no down side

Same thing happened to me user, i popped 100% boners with my first ex i was very comfortable with her. Then i started dating my previous ex and i wasnt that comfortable with her, i would day dream about having sex with her, when we first made out i had pre cum all over my boxers and when we eventually tried to have sex i couldnt get it up. The second time i somehow could with condom on and third time i couldnt, it was due to anxiety. Try to relax

viagra my dude. works wonders. don't give up!

>have similar issue during sex

I eat healthy, home cooked meals, and haven't had soda/sugary drinks/takeout in over 2 yeara
I exercise almost every day, nowadays bodyweight and/or yoga
I get plenty of sunlight
I fap maybe once or twice a week
I eat lots of nuts, veggies, fruits, etcetc

>still have super low libido
>have difficulty bonering
FUCK ME FUUUUCK MEEEEEE
WHAT'S LEFT
WHAT AM I DOING WRONG

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+on the sauna

I used to go like once a week as a way to release stress and anxiety and that quickly changed to every single day of the week without faliure.

Seriously, I don't think there's anything that can get you out of anxiety and put you into relaxation than regular sauna use. It's amazing.

Kegels

>WHAT AM I DOING WRONG
your dicks knows what a faggot you are with your fag diets, yoga and not jerking off everyday and it has give up on you
its over for you

I guess it could be all nerves. Even if I'm unaware of it. Kind of am in denial about how bad my anxiety is being that I feel like it's not terrible, yet take drugs daily for it. Maybe I'm anxious alot more than I let myself believe. Thanks for the detailed response bro. Seems like my tongue and hands are about enough, just need to learn to read her a little better. When I was dicking her it still felt good apparently despite bein maybe 5 inches and soft.
So I kinda sorta know what I'm doing. Learn fast. Just need to learn to relax more ig.
Eh. I'll look into it. Not a fan of the idea though lol.
Die nigger lover.
Viagra at only 23 though?
Whats the best way to do them and how longs it take to see/feel results?

Probably mental but I would just use something like Roman and get some (relatively) cheap Viagra. Will help you get over the mental anxiety part to the point where you shouldn't need it (or you can keep using it so you can fuck for like 3 hours straight if you want, who cares)

hop on test bro

For me its was entirely confidence based. When i was depressed my libido was low and i wouldn't think of fucking girls due to a lack of confidence. When i eventually got out of the slump my sex drive was back and relentless. One thing i've noticed is that almost all sexual problems are caused by the way you think, especially in young men who are healthy.

Not fapping is just as bad as fapping too much.
Men need to cum, it's just part of our nature. It flushes out old sperm and helps keep your prostate healthy.

Maybe I will ask my doc for some. Couldn't hurt, I guess.
Hm. What if you don't know what's causing depression/apathy though bro?
Suppose so. I've heard of people on here trying nofap and they end up like me. Only difference is they had a sex drive before starting.

Doctor may or may not give it to you depending and it will most likely be more expensive than Roman unless your insurance covers it. Roman is all online too and it ships to your house direct. But up to you.

anxiety is a part of life, you can medicate it if it starts interfering with your life, but honestly some reckless hedonism could help you out here

Viagra is amazing and cialis is even better. But I would try not to become dependent on it. using it sometimes to jumpstart the process is okay though

It's in your brain bro.
My first sexual experience I waa dating the girl for months, still went limp. Just give her neck kisses and or play with her boobs. Do something YOU find sexy and focus on it. Try it!

Had exactly the same problem bro its all in ur head. Speak with her about it and try again until it works and everything will be fine.
If she's decent she will understand.

This is solid advice. Sex should always be about what YOU want. If you're worrying about pleasing the woman, you're putting her on a pedestal to begin with instead of treating her like an equal. Do you want you to do, she'll enjoy it as long as you're assertive, confidernt, and charming about it.

I want to own one