Reality check

As a 30 year old,

I'm telling you that 'love' is throwing perspective/context out the window, to singularly focus on an emotion - gambling.

You're filling a void the easy way, rather than substantively pursuing personal growth

Anyone over the age 40 would agree with me

pretty sure love has to do with the person you love

What if my only desire is to love a cute girl and cuddle her night and day lol

That doesn't make me gay.... right bros?

you sound fucked up

>You're filling a void the easy way, rather than substantively pursuing personal growth

If you love somebody then dont you want to grow as a person for them just as they would do for you (Assuming you're not a simp who chose to be in a relationship with a roastie)?

you sound naive
there is always the element of a power balance in any relationship
not acknowledging it just because the relationship is romantic is kinda retarded

Nah just red pilled.
Keep living in fantasy world

> That way you can make sure she will do (almost) anything you say
yes this is a healthy...

I bet you're a faggot loser who lives with their parents and can only fuck girls who are 3+ years younger than you.

projection

Post weight, you pathetic worm. I'm 5'10 245lbs, a mountain of a man. In pre-historic times I would be treated as a king.

im not actually the OP you originally responded to, im just another user that, by and large, agrees with what he said
i wouldnt have worded it the way he worded, but i think everyone would agree that the following are all things you want
>for her to stay loyal
>for her to not become a cunt
>for her to continue to be attracted/in love with you and not have the relationship become glorified roommates
what OP mentioned (trying to make sure she loves you more than her) will help you to keep things in check
>"make sure she will do (almost) anything you say"
doesnt necessarily mean evil machinations to take over the world or some shit

'keeping up' with eachother's effort is there, no doubt.
That magic also occurs with being friends with someone, too. Comes with the territory of companionship.

Just don't lazily aingularly obsess over any perceptions of your chick (love), as you're in fact taking the easy way out of filling the responsibility of 'keeping up' with your partner's expectations when you do so.
People learn this by their late 30s/early 40s. Some earlier.

Reddit

*singularly

Ibcan almost guarantee that any middle aged man that you see getting groceries for their family will nod in agreement to what I said

i want to truly love my partner more than i want any one of those things lol

whats amazing is that anyone thinks it is good to be loved more than you love

as if the joy and purpose and meaning of life is to be loved
rather than to love

if you don't understand that joy and happiness are to be found in sublimating yourself to something greater than yourself than what are you even living for

the approval of others?
you need religion (or something similar) in your life

Ok? I didn't even read it pipsqueek redit.

Love exists. It's something a mother feels towards her children. A father can feel it too. Happens between siblings as well and some other family relationships such as grandparents or cousins depending on the context. It can go both ways.

It only happens in those cases and it doesn't happen outside of them.

this is what insecure men think

a man's conception of love is vastly different than a whamen's conception of love
if you want to give unconditional love, give it to jesus. or a dog.
i understand the idea you're trying to hint at, despite all your leddit formatting
>"it is better to submit yourself to something greater than yourself, toward a goal that is bigger than the sum of its parts"
but if that's the case, there's no reason you cant just cyber orbit some twitch thot right now, and deducate all your luv to her

the truth of the matter is, if the goal aint worth it, then it aint worth it.
no ones stopping you from entering a one sided relationship where you serve the whims and needs of some whamen who calls you her bestie and says stuff like "gee, if only i could find a guy like you!"

you seem scared of being hurt
it's ok

Cope.. Redddit..

No, this is a fact. Women are nutcases and we have to stay on top of them or else we get cucked by being "too nice". I really wish it wasn't this way, I do, but it is this way. Women are completely nuts.

just be honest with yourself

you seem to be content with remaining ignorant to the other relevant details that make up the complete picture
its okay

you can't generalize
maybe you're only able to pull damaged women

it's ok to be upset
it's kind of sad you have this outlook (and funny)

project harder

>leddit formatting
i cannot even imagine being so consistently online as to reflexively associate a certain style of line spacing with a website

you know there was typing before the internet don't ya?

not even gonna respond to the rest of your drivel. the reason i can't dedicate my love to an unworthy partner is because i would be, as a physical fact, incapable of loving them.

what exactly is being projected?