One of my best friends is a morbid alcoholic...

One of my best friends is a morbid alcoholic. Apparently he was hospitalized for this a couple years ago before he moved to this city and almost died. Same thing happened to him a couple months ago. Two days after he got released from the hospital, he posted a photo on Facebook of a fancy new bottle of champagne he got.

About a month after that he called me and said he had fallen off the wagon again. Then he texted me and said he was in the hospital. Didn't respond to specifics, but the next day after that he texted me and said he was being taken to the mental hospital for observation. I didn't know they took his cell phone away, so for the next three days, I was freaking out that he wasn't responding to phone, text, Facebook, anything. But he was okay.

But then a couple weeks after that, he goes to the mental hospital for a week at a time without telling me, completely unresponsive to any communication. This was shortly after he told me about suicidal thoughts. I thought he might have been dead. Turns out he wasn't, but I was angry he waited so long to call me from the hospital.

More recently, he's just been aggressively alcoholic and helpless about it. Keeps trying to quit, but sometimes drinks up to 2 fifths a day. He's called me to help him with a hangover, which is annoying when I'm at work (I work from home, but still annoying). He's constantly broke and has to wait to get his SSI check. One time he had me Venmo him $50 for food, but he ended up spending almost all of it on alcohol. Then he made me to DoorDash him food/supplies so that he won't spend money on alcohol.

I also resent that he doesn't have to work. He's bipolar and has PTSD, so he's on SSI and only pays like $30 a month for his apartment. I work all day, which he sometimes interrupts by telling me what comedy specials he's watching.

Anyway, my secret is that I resent him, and some of these times that he leaves me hanging so long and I think he might be dead, an evil part of me wishes he was.

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He is not a friend.
He a manipulative drug addict who will do or say anything to get what he wants.
Stop enabling him

Why did I read this in a secrets thread earlier today?

Same

I'm not buying him alcohol.
Because I posted it there but wanted further perspective. It's not a pasta.

what the difference between alcoholic and morbid alcoholic?

I don't know, but I saw that term in The Great Gatsby and thought it applied.

Mfw 2 fifths is problematic

On a serious note sounds like they're just using you to pile their problems onto.
And using you as a crutch as you're blind to see you're being used.

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>sometimes drinks up to 2 fifths a day
jesus christ, when I was going through a 750ml bottle of whiskey in a week I felt bad.

You are what is called an “enabler.”

AHAHHAHAHHAHAHAHAHA LOL

I don't buy him alcohol, but when he's dead broke, he needs food, and I do talk to him. Am I an enabler unless I cut off all alcohol?

Why were you friends in the first place?

We volunteered together at this film society, (old theater that puts on special screenings, etc) hit it off, liked a lot of the same movies, and started hanging out.

You’re an enabler because you won’t let that cunt hit bottom. You keep hanging out with him, dummy.

And WHAT makes him your friend?

Yeah nice little humble brag pussy boy. Now you’ll see this and be like “I didn’t say alcoholism isn’t a problem hur dur”

Obviously 2/5 of liquor is a problem you fat tucking retard. Drinking hasn’t been cool since middle school faggot

Someone (perhaps you?) said let him hit bottom on the other thread to. But what is "bottom" when you're dealing with a guy this far down who's been hospitalized three times in as many months and has confessed suicidal thoughts in the past. He goes any closer to the bottom, he could literally die.

And I haven't hung out with him in over a month. I was visiting my parents when the quarantine started, and we all thought it was better to just stay down here and wait it out. So I'm in a different city.

>So I'm in a different city.
This is good. Don't change that.

He's using you as a crutch. Take it from a dude who is such an alcoholic I'm awake after two hours of sleep because the anxiety feeling withdrawals gives you woke me up.

I would say take the dude to a hospital but that doesn't seem to work. Maybe cut off all communication with them until they get it sorted.

brb need a few shots to put the hand shakes away

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How would I know he's sorted if I cut off all communication? I honestly worry he'll die. And he's been MIA again. I texted him yesterday morning and he has responded to texts, Facebook, calls, any of that. So I I might be on another thing where I'll worry about him for days until he tells me he was in the hospital and they took his phone away.

If he goes back to the hospital theres a chance he gets covid and you take some celebration shots

Yes, that's probably why he was so reluctant to go to the hospital when he was bothering me with his hangover a couple weeks ago. He wouldn't stop texting me about his shaking and all that, and I told him to just tough through it or if it was really that bad, go to a hospital. But he said no hospitals.

Looks like Yas Forums flagged the fuck out of my post. Been trying to post this entire time

Whoever made this spam algorithm is retarded. I wrote some background on alcoholism and Yas Forums decided that shit was spam

Go fuck yourself Yas Forums. I'm tired of telling google what a fucking crosswalk is seven times ust to talk to people

Bots and psyops are priority OP
This isnt the playground it used to be

Btw its been 3 days that i didnt need captcha till this post
Weird right?

That's frustrating. Would you mind giving us the gist of it?

The way he's going he'll be dead soon. Keep being a friend and don't help him do it.

Also, if he really needs food, he should qualify for SNAP benefits ("food stamps") -- or you can give him gift cards to supermarkets.

SNAP sounds familiar. He might have mentioned that. He's on SSI and I think Section 8, so probably. I'm definitely not sending him any more money directly. I've doordashed him food, but that's time consuming, so next time we talk I'll ask him about SNAP. Thank you.

I miss what Yas Forums used to be: a space to speak on the internet, anonymous, to just say what you want. It's a rare thing; social media is an outrage factory, and real life just isn't tenable. Now it's strangled by recaptcha, and the new owner couldn't give less of a shit.

>He's on SSI and I think Section 8,
Section 8 housing is 30% of your gross income, He's full of shit if he told you $30.

so whats your problem?

Maybe not Section 8 then. He has no income. Is there any government program that reduces your rent that much?

>He has no income
SSI *is* income. Non-taxable, but it's income.

You can't fix him. It's up to him, if he really wants to change he will