So I've been dating my gf for about a year now, and were pretty great, we don't argue much, when we do we always make up same or next day, we click and agree on almost everything, we always want to be with each other and she takes amazing care of me and is a really chill and understanding girl, and in every way it works, except sexual, and I try and not hold it against her but as time goes by I get more frustrated, we're just polor opposites when it comes to sex and like completely different things to the point we aren't even sexual. Now idk what to do, she's amazing, she's probably the one and probably the best girl I'll ever have, but I don't want to not have sexual pleasure as well... Anyone else have this issue before?
So I've been dating my gf for about a year now, and were pretty great, we don't argue much...
Logan Richardson
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Ryder Sullivan
Slap her like 50 times
Easton Russell
When you say opposite... elaborate
Tyler Cooper
Cheat on her
Aiden Sullivan
Talk to her.
Levi Russell
opposites how?
also
fucking talk to her if she means so much to you, opening up to your gf is important
Luis Watson
Sit her down and talk openly with her about what you're feeling and ask her what's going on. If she's resistant and doesn't want to talk then she either has some massive ptsd from getting raped as a child or she's cheating on you frequently.
Kevin Hernandez
Like every time I want to do something she doesn't like it and we get frustrated and turned off, mood killed, and every time she likes to do something I don't like it and same result, it's like two magnets trying to be together but keep pushing each other away
Christopher Hughes
No wtf, she has the heart of a angel and I love and respect her
Henry Fisher
I have talked to her a lot, it bothers her that we can't have fun but we can't force ourselves to like stuff that are limits for us
Andrew Ross
The only thing I haven't been honest about is I'm not attracted to her body, I think she is pretty but idk I find it hard to be attracted to, and I don't have the heart to tell her that
Benjamin Russell
Is she fat?
Brandon Butler
Not fat but she's a bit chubby, she has a bit of a belly but looks normal, her face is really pretty
Jeremiah Wood
Last 10 years friendo. We are now separated (married). If sex isn't even going to play a factor, there is zero chance I put up with her chainsaw snoring, shit cooking, lack of ability at keeping a house clean. Eventually one of you slips up, says something hurtful to the other and everything will be left hanging by a thread.
Jeremiah Reed
So every if literally everything else is perfect in your relationship, sex is a requirement and if it doesn't work then the relationship won't?
Zachary Cox
I assure you, it's hardly perfect. After she inherited a lot of money she decided to buy her old home. I can't fix a thing because it reminds her of her dad. It's being a guest in your own house. And there comes a point where your opinion means nothing anyway.
Charles Gray
I have the same issue. Basically just going to cheat my gf whenever I can without her finding out. It's a horrible thing to do because she really is a lovely girl, but I'm not a stone gargoyle.
Cameron Richardson
I can't do that to her
And she always puts me first, she's as selfless as it comes
Caleb Scott
Anyway, I'm not looking to get into a pissing match here. A message to OP. It's really dangerous to expect that anybody can ever bring you happiness. Don't rely on it. You need to find your own happiness and share that with the other. Years are going to blink by, and I can assure you, regret is a shitty shitty thing.
Cameron Garcia
I had the same attitude of not wanting to do it, but a points come where it's just ridiculous. I'm a physically fit/attractive guy in my 20s, it's not fair for me to be a situation where I have sex once every few weeks because I'm in a relationship that's incompatible on that level.
Zachary James
I'm not advocating that you leave her, but you do need to sit down, have a heart to heart talk with her, and do some self analysis along the way.
Eli Smith
Well it isn't fair to her to cheat, i would break up with her first
Connor Baker
Just to note; I would have ended the relationship over this issue, but she'll likely have a complete meltdown if I do and I care so much about her that I can't bring myself to do that.
Joshua Rivera
Well good sir, her melt down later, your melt down here on /b. I'm just saying that you need to really talk this over with her. There are some things in life that won't change about a person...and I can assure you that a libido is one of those things. It likely won't get better. But you owe it to yourself and to her to put the concerns on the table. Truth to yourself, and truth to her.
Liam Mitchell
Jebus you sound like a woman, are you sure you're not secretly lesbian lovers?
Sex is just a bonus. Be happy she's in your life, then crank one out every week in the shower or at work like every other man in a serious relationship.
Liam Ward
He's saying that he doesn't get sex often, not that he doesn't get it at all and has a preset schedule to go play with himself in the shower like you. Sex is carnal, enjoyable, and a function of procreation. It's a good thing that the concepts of Darwinism are at play here. You will die off and better the human species without having offspring.
Anthony Richardson
I second that
Jacob Clark
Yeah I do believe sex is a important part of a relationship, I just wish I could enjoy myself, she tries hard to please me , it just doesn't work
Angel Hernandez
Another factor at play, I'm not the most attractive guy, I'm not hideous, but I'm not pulling so idk if I'll even have another opportunity, I've asked her if I could hire call girls every now and then but she couldn't handle that, and I respect that
Dominic Smith
Been in a relation for 5 years now. For some reason, sex is Vanilla/10. I don't know if it's because I had cruelly awesome partner before or just because she is boring but there is not a single week without me having the thought of - Should I leave her because of that.
Nathan Stewart
Well, my final advice to you. Never go to bed angry. If you have issues, you settle them on that exact day. Don't let shit bleed out. And be open with your expectations and your desires. Because it's far better to know it isn't going to work now, or at least be prepared for the let down when it comes than it is to keep dragging each other down a shitty path of isolationism between the two of you because you can't find middle ground.
Noah Hill
Lucas Butler
Yeah I need to be better about that
Jack Butler
Fuck off cunt