But most people are selfish, only seeking to know people that they can benefit from in some fashion. Either that or you have to be in their 'club' whether its a specific activity, religion, life style or whatever.
How do I regain my empathy? Lately this year and for most of 2019, I've mostly felt ABSOLUTELY NOTHING. No happiness...
Henry Kelly
Zachary Russell
To try and illustrate this...
Last year my family went to Japan. We wanted to visit a bamboo garden in Kyoto but unfortunately we were late and it started getting dark. My mum is a very superstitious person and believes in ghosts in the dark etc. It started to rain and it became cold. My brother absolutely insisted we go in the forest. My mum was completely miserable and scared shitless but didn't do anything. We were all extremely pissed since my bro gave zero thought to my mom's feelings. We couldn't just leave because our train was still a couple hours away.
It was horrible seeing my mum miserable. She acted like she was on crack and every sound scared her shitless, the wind, crickets etc. It wasn't until we encountered other tourists that told us there was nothing to see because it was too dark, that convinced my brother to turn back. I will always remember that moment as the moment I stopped thinking of my brother as a human being with consideration for other people
Andrew Ramirez
Might be worth accepting that you're just not synchronized with any of their cycles of awareness and they've neither put any effort into including you or making themselves easier to include.
It's always weird when black sheep realizes it is black sheep but that's what you are.
Jason Young
what're you suggesting? I tried banging my hands aggressively on my kitchen tiles but that didn't work. I quickly realised I'm not the type that flips tables to feel better. I just ignore it by playing video games or shitposting to feel better. I used to smoke weed but that shit's expensive and I haven't talked to a dealer in years.
Kevin Hall
>they've neither put any effort into including you or making themselves easier to include.
I think the last part is right. They don't make themselves easier to include but I still think they put in effort into including me. Fuck now I'm confused. The important part is how can someone be so unaware or uncaring to their own goddamn mother? Maybe you are right about the cycles of awareness thing
Justin Perez
This was a good thread guys but I gotta run. Yas Forums is mostly cancer but it's the most geniune cancer on the whole goddamn internet.
Aiden Edwards
That's probably reasonable. I'd look at my brother like that, too, if he showed little care for our mother like that in that situation.
But, questions are coming up:
-Did y'all know it'd be that kind of weather coming?
-Does your mother's fear of ghosts and such have any reasonable basis in that environment?
-Did you ask your brother why he did what he did?
-Was the rain so bad that you guys were at risk of health issues?
-Did no one think to bring a jacket or stand somewhere less uncomfortable while he explored?
Like, I get it. Your brother had balls doing that, knowing it'd make him look like a dong. But, the thing with this is that certain kinds of people are expecting you to assume the worst about whomever "victimizes" them, even when nothing really happened or was done to them.
My brother and I had those problems a lot growing up regarding or own mom and still do, even though he knows she's full of crap. But, he can't do anything like tell her to relax or stop being a drama queen because she'll ruin his social life like she did mine. So, he has to take on the role of being her White Knight against scrutiny, so to speak.
It's hard for me to pint his down without attacking anyone in your family, but it's pretty obvious what's going on here. You don't want to make the mistake of being wrong about your mom and ruining your relationship. At the same time, you feel like something's off. Let me tell you something: If you are asking the question in the first place and fee like you can't bring this kind of thing up without backlash of some sort or being made the bad guy, then you're right. Something's wrong.
Adrian Campbell
There could be an entire story between them that you aren't aware of. At some point your own ignorance of a thing has to become something you either submit to or sacrifice so you can be free.
You have a RIGHT to be free of whatever you feel has kept you running in circles. You may go, get better, come back and be able to help them all stabilize. Either way the only thing that matters is you, not the audience of your life or the observation others hold of you. If you want to become more and are ready to start, the time is now.
Ethan Rodriguez
I think you're looking a bit deep in this. My mother wouldn't plot against her sons and ruind their social relationship. I just have issues with how could my brother be so uncaring when my mom specifically said "I'm scared of the dark let's not go in". We knew nothing about the weather and I don't think she was lying. There's no family politics going on. She didn't want to go in the forest and my brother said "fuck that I do what I want."
Chase Rivera
Could easily be that the mother unknowingly made that brother feel neglected, a little like OP, and said brother used the opportunity to act out because his brother was there so he felt safe in taking his shot.