Been with Girlfriend 10yrs.
Both recently turned 30.
She's been a faithful (Trust me, I have ways of knowing) throughout until recently.
She's Hot, given me multiple 3somes, great cook and has a great career.
I confronted her about cheating, she admitted to it. Told me how she's been feeling unwanted for months and I haven't been giving her sex, along with acting like a dick. All true btw.
I'm the one actually sorry. Tells me she's not in love with me anymore.
I offer her the world. Swinging, once a year international trips, more sex and making her feel desired.
She believes all of it as I'm a man of my word. Still not enough, we are splitting at the end of next month unless she can fall in love with me again, saying I'm not exciting anymore. Again, true. I'm boring and stable.
She's willing to throw our life away, letting me keep the house and 2/3 cars, etc.
I'm at a loss....all I want is her.
>Ideas?
Been with Girlfriend 10yrs
Rape her and kill her after
Ur retarded for staying, bending over for her didn't help her attraction. Women don't like men that allow that shit they lose respect for ya. Be a man, man up. Do what your grand dad would have done. Kicked the tramp out, and before she even got her shit out rail a new girl
its the only way to get over her op
Why dont you fuck her asshole hard until its bleeding and burn that image into your mind, then move on
Give her the house
She's given me multiple 3somes man, I've messed around with her sister once and he forgave me. Overall great woman. Why shouldn't I be understanding of her being human?
Life is suffering. Own it, embrace it, and use it.
sounds like you're fucked and if you want to be understanding of her being human, then its best to let her choose what she wants.
Be understanding. But realize that if she isn't in love with you, it's hopeless and over and resistance is futile. For your own sake, cut it loose.
So she spent her entire 20s with you and you're surprised she's bored when ALL her friends will have ridden the cock carousel? Modern women are indoctrinated to set themselves up to be lonely later in life, your girl is no different. The handful of smart women that want a good husband will be hard as shit to find and a girl that offers threesomes isn't one of them.
I can't sleep thinking she still loves me, but isn't IN love with me. I'll do almost anything. She's admitted that she loved the thrill and excitement of cheating, that she lacks it on our life. Again, true. I let it get this way by missing slot of clues she was feeling this way.
Geez, she's leaving you at 30? Not the smartest woman. But let her go. She'll probably be back. If not then fuck it. Cry in your room for a month or two then bounce back. Shit, you have a whole quarantine as an excuse.
I'm being incredibly understanding. I know the fight is pretty much over but I have to try damn it.
My own sake? Of what? Letting her go now instead of trying everything in my power in the next 30 days to keep her?
Have you considered the possibility that she's just saying she's fallen out of love because there's a more basic female reason that she doesn't want to admit to? Are you broke or a complete pussy-whipped fool, by any chance? Not saying you are, just want to rule out a few possibilities.
do you want me to repeat myself? I'm sorry you feel like shit dude but its over, you sound like a bot spitting out lines. i cant even imagine how hard it must be to admit it to yourself that its happening, but she doesn't want you anymore man.
I'm willing to swing with her. She liked the idea, and the traveling one. It's just not enough. She's not in love with me anymore.
I'm alot of great things, but exciting and interesting isn't one of them.
No but ai have a little dick which is why she cheats and we have threesomes which are really mostly me watching. It sucks, I love her.
you treated her like shit, and you're an asshole. she tolerated this for 10 years, now it comes to an end.
Be glad you got ten years
That's what I even told her! That I'll be with her and help her get her thrills out, just don't throw out life away. She just wants to try and be on her own and make her own mistakes. I swear to you man, it makes no fucking sense. It make more sense if she had feelings for the guy she cheated on me with.
>30
>looking for love
She’s a lost cause. If you somehow kept her, she’d be resentful and wanting.
Not OP
Does she have a sister?
Not OP
Then find a new girl that isn't obsessed with life being thrilling. Your current one is willing to throw away 10 years, she's not going to become better with age. She's dumb now she'll be dumb in 20 years when she steals your kids and divorces you.
Neither. But I don't have a lot of hobbies besides my car. I know I could have sometimes been needy.
Consider Briffault's laws.
Even though a woman has accrued past benefits from her relationship with a man, this is no guarantee of her continuing the relationship with him. (Translation: What have you done for me lately?)
If a woman promises a man to continue her relationship with him in the future in exchange for a benefit received from him today, her promise becomes null and void as soon as the benefit is rendered. (“I will gladly pay you Tuesday for a hamburger today.“)
A man’s promise of a future benefit has limited ability to secure a continuing relationship with a woman, and his promise carries weight with her only to the extent that the woman’s wait for the benefit is short and to the extent that she trusts him to keep his promise.
You're right man. I'm just trying anything I can. You don't tell a drowning man to just let it happen do you?
I treated her great, but I can be a dick. I know it's my fault.
I promised her I would let her maybe have sex with my son if we got that far and she still might leave me. I don’t know what to do, I’m trying it all.
Don't assume it's your fault. Don't assume that she is telling you her real reasons. Never expect a woman to behave logically or honorably.
But consider that when a woman really loves a man she loves him both because he can be a dick, and despite that same fact.
you gotta let this hoe go.
I truly think it's just the perfect storm of her turning 30, our sex life declined over the past few months because of a new medication I started, we got into a few very bad arguments, and just me being kind of a hardass throughout the relationship sometimes.
It’s hard like this. I want to earn her loyalty back.
You fucked up being unfaithful. If you're going to cheat, that's something your partner should ever know
A new girl? And just end up in the exact same spot a few years down the road?
Me and her have built our lives together, been through thick and thin. I trust her with my life.
I have let her watch me make out with Chuck, from down the street. we both suck each other off
AN HERO, FAGGOT!
Not OP.
I am sorry. You're gonna have to accept the pain that comes with losing her. Be by yourself for a little. Ask for one last fuck though. But maybe not since you're emotionally attached.
Dude, everyone grows tired of everyone eventually.
Remember this: "All stories are sad stories if they go on long enough."
Very true and wise. Any advice or guidance to share?
Op already lost her he's just too dumb to see it.
shit don't express that to this user. express that to your soon to be ex. communicate how you feel, big dog. and then keep communicating how you feel as the conversation goes along.
She needs to grow up
The answer you responded to was real OP.
We are still fucking, I'm trying to make her feel desired.
I'm not a hippie faggot that believes in a fixed destiny drawned up by God or some shit like that OP but perhaps consider se possibility of you not being right for each other. Value yourself before anything because nobody else will, not even the closest one to you. Take it as an opportunity to explore yourself beyond what 10 years of comfort have shown you. You might surprise yourself.
It actually sounds like the sex is one of the actual factors here. If she isn't getting the dicking she needs, she will find it somewhere else.
If you're lucky, the sex is your only problem. If that is the case, all you have to do is gonad up and fuck her until she loves you again. Fuck her like Han fucked Leia the first time. Fuck her like Corporal Hicks would have fucked Ripley. Like a man.
I also had that initial response. Decided to be helpful out of sheer boredom. But, FYI, one does not 'an hero'. It's a noun-phrase, not a verb-phrase. One 'becomes an hero'.
True. I may be 30 and have a decent successful life, but at the end of the day, Its been my only serious relationship. I don't know how to try and make it to 70 yrs plus....
Kill yourself
Be not boring?
Set aside time and money and do something she thinks is exciting?
No, I see that I've lost her. I'm just trying everything
commit sudoku
I have. She keeps saying everything makes logical sense to stay, but she just doesn't feel in love with me anymore. Loves me, but not in love. Its killing me.
Well I'm thoroughly confuddled.
I know man, I know. But the thought of coming back home to nothing is daunting.
Sex was not the only cause, but a major factor. Now she realizes she likes the thrill and excitement. I'm fucked man...
I'm boring man. I can't help that I am. I'm a simple kind of guy.
Sorry. Meant to say wasn't the real OP.
Well I've always made it a rule never to keep someone that didn't want to be kept. Mind if I post a video on an old white lady Tibetan monk talking about love?
Whatever you'd like man. That is for even replying. That goes for everyone in this thread.
The fact that she is your first love is a shame. Almost all first loves fail, and the longer it takes, the more it hurts. It's like chickenpox. Just be lucky that you didn't have several 'first' loves because you never learned your lesson.
You are a human male. You have it within you to be thrilling and unexpected and powerful. You have to shape the universe to your own design. power and dominion are taken by the will.
With women, the goal is often to just make them feel strong emotions, even if sometimes they are negative ones. Drive her a little crazy, but always pull her back into warmth and comfort before it goes too far.
But realize that if that doesn't work, it will be over, and it will suck, and it may take some serious self-analysis and possible reinvention. Don't lose hope, though. I'm 30, I've had only one formal relationship, when I was 16, for 5 months. I don't want to put the effort into dating, so I only get random bar trim on occasion. I've chosen this life, and I accept the tides.