My gf of 1 year just confessed to cheating on me 2 months ago. It came out of nowhere and she says she is telling me because she feels bad and still wants to be with me. I like her so much and dont wanna walk away but I dont know if I will ever be able to trust her. She didnt have to tell me so part of me believes she actually does want to be with me. What would you do Yas Forums?
My gf of 1 year just confessed to cheating on me 2 months ago...
You've got to end it. Once they start they won't stop. Don't give this girl the chance to be a whore and make you suffer more.
if you forgive her now she’ll just go and cheat again. forgiving like that is what leads into bad and unhealthy relationships.
if it was full penetration i'd give up
you're never gonna feel the same if you can't really have her
How should I do it? We kinda live together. I just know that if I end things and start moving out she is gonna start a huge fight and scream at me like Im the asshole.
That’s all the more reason to drop her. She should of thought about that beforehand
Thats what Im thinking considering she wont even tell me who she cheated with to "protect my feelings." Its so difficult because I really loved her but now I feel like an idiot for not seeing this coming. I dont even know if I couldve seen it coming.
This, people dont really learn or care unless they have to deal with serious consequences that goes for me and for almost every person I know pretty well, plus she's not even the kind of girl that spent a lot of time with you so probably she doesnt feel enough regret to really change, be a man OP, this wasnt a mistake she knew what she was doing
She told you because she wants you to know the power you gave her over you. Leave her unless you are into being a beta cuck soy boi
Ditch the whore. She obviously doesn't deserve your time, care, or attention. Yes, it will sting like a bitch for a long while BUT if you stay It will sting like a bitch indefinitely. You will move on. You will be happy again, but not with her.
You need to leave her dude. Are u serious? She didn’t “have” to tell you? She shouldn’t of done it in the first place but she should’ve told you about it immediately if it was actually a mistake. Like seriously kick that bitch to the curb, don’t let people fuck you around like a pussy man
Fuck that is a power move. If I stay what does that tell her? That Im ok with her being a whore? This is just an unforgivable thing and I now see that there is only one thing for me to do whuch is walk. Just fucking sucks.
Nah, it shouldn’t sting at all. She cheated on him man. It sucks that she’s a shitty person but the problem shouldn’t be having to leave her, at all
Exactly. Don't let put on her pouty face and try to tell you it meant nothing. Women are weak willed and give up the pussy because they are insecure. She will never be fixed. You must leave.
Sounds like she is a cunt. You deserve better
Also it does suck but be sure to map out the plan of attack before you go. Don't give her any leverage. Get your shit. Get out. Don't look back. Block her number. Delete her from your socials and your life and your brain.
What sucks is that she isnt. I dont put up with cunty behaviour and would have ended the relationship sooner if she did anything cunty. Thats why this hits so hard because everything was great until it wasnt.
Drop it now. I had one girl who kept leaving and coming back, not a fun experience
I'll give you a protip user:
most (not all) women will stray during the beginning of the relationship when she starts to question if the love she feels for you is legitimate. perhaps once a girl has had maybe 3+ relationships fail, she won't, but if she's rather inexperienced with love/courting she WILL enter intimacy with another man; she will THEN determine if it is your dominance she prefers.
with this being said, NEVER enter a committed relationship with a woman (monogamy and saying "i love you") until you either share a bonding moment that solidifies your affection for eachother, or she treads the water elsewhere and has her 'love' (nothing more than infatuation really) confirmed to herself by feeling repulsed being with another man. be her "friend", and assure her that monogamy/commitment/a 'relationship' will happen in all due time if it is 'true love' and meant to be. all women who are desperate for immediate commitment are not worth marrying.
also, ditch your woman; if you two were in a committed relationship and it was broken that easy, she's no good and will stray again in the future
Sometimes people cheat and then realize they did the wrong thing, and never do it again. And sometimes they mean it and are loyal from then on.
But it often goes the way most of the anons here are saying. Hard call, if you think she is worth it and really loves you, consider staying. If you think she just doesn't want her life to be disrupted, probably better to go.
That not telling you who is a bit of a red flag though (on top of all the others). Sounds like there is someone else in your life you can't trust.
This may be the best piece of advice Ive ever recieved. Thanks for this. Im glad Im learning this now while im in my early 20s.
Okay I get that user but she screaming at you and making you look like an asshole even though its completely her own fault, sounds pretty cunty to me
I remember hearing a cop say that the best time to tell someone you are leaving them is when you are pulling away in the moving van.
Not telling you who it is is a huge red flag. That is only half honest!
So... You're okay that somebody fresh ducked your girl? Lol... You're fuckin somebody else's cum
Don't tell them at all. Just ghost protocol.
Thats how I think In gonna do it. Ill take a sick day from work and wait for her to leave then just pack my shit and leave.
Yep.
My ex cheated, so I speak from experience when I say that no, it isn't going to work out. You'll never get your sense of control back, and it will always nag you at the back of your head. I dumped my bitch, and you should too. Do learn from my one mistake though, and before you do, grab some pics of her to share with your Yas Forumsros.
Hey OP, I was in a really bad relationship two years ago. I was attached to a girl that I had to walk on egg shells around because I knew any slight misstep would result in a huge fight.
She was incredibly high maintenance and a huge pain in the ass. Everyone around me could see she was poison, but I was intent on making it work because I loved her.
Eventually she pulled some shit, and I had to dump her. She chimped out because she was a nigger and had BPD and I had to call the police on her so she wouldn't kill herself.
Turns out dumping her was the best decision I ever made since I met the most amazing girl after. She's a big booty hoe that loves playing video games and we bring out the best in each other. Most importantly being with her is effortless and natural. We're still dating, but I know this one is my future wife.
I know it's hard to think about it now OP, but you'll find someone better. If things are this hard 1 year into your relationship, she's no good for you. I agree with what others are saying. Leave her and ignore her calls.
If you don't feel confident about her anymore, won't work it and will get worse with the time.
She's a bad person for doing that, I know, but human does these kind of things, we commit errors that we regret and she regreted it, she has some value there just for talking to ya and not letting you found out about it.
It's a shot in the dark.
Tell her you're breaking up with her because she can't be honest about the details
Walk, dude.
The trust is ruined; find someone better.
WTF?
Could be your fucking dad dude
Give her a nice ghost and gtfo
She cheated on you and has the audacity to yell at you. You're cucked my nigga, only way to salvage your manhood is to get out, either pack her shit when shes not there or yours. Actions have consequences teach her that, or she will continue to think this is acceptable behavior. It's over though, trust is a fragile thing, once a mirror is smashed you cannot put it back together, everytime she goes out you'll have a lingering suspicion. My ex did this, I'm smarter than the bitch so took me about 20 minutes to figure it out, immediately she started crying even tried to fuck me, so I picked her up and put her outside and locked the door. Found out last week she contracted herpes from it, could have been me. Get tested, and move on with your life, grow from this experience, now you understand warning signs and how to trick a hoe.
gannaa saayyyyyy
dump her
WHO GIVES A FUCK WHAT ANYBODY ELSE WOULD DO? Do what YOU want to do. its no wonder your gf cheated on your cuck ass
All depends user. If you truly love and care about her and aside from this everything was good and easy between you two then I say keep her for now. However, you need to sit down and have a serious conversation about why she did what she did. Dont offer up something you didn't do for her or she will jump on the opportunity to scapegoat. But ask her how and why it happened. Let her k ow you want to understand what caused her to do it so you guys can work together to prevent that situation happening anymore. It's a long road, but entirely doable.
All of these guys here that say it's over are just bitter because they got cheated on and dint want to put the effort in to repair the relationship.
It'll be one of his friends, that's how she'll justify the lie
You'll never be able to trust her again, dude. Any time you have even a slight suspicion, it will make you insane. Leave and take back your pride and power.
THIS OP!!!!
Dump her, dude. I've had the exact same thing happen to me. I also felt like I had to 'appreciate' how she admitted it, like she did me a fuckin favor. ITS BULLSHIT. SHE SHOULDNT HAVE DONE IT IN THE FIRST PLACE. when I was in your spot I had friends tell me this exact thing but relationships pussify you and your brain goes on trying to find all possible excuses to forgive her, not to mention the emotional blackmail these sluts are capable of. DONT TAKE HER BACK, THE RELATIONSHIP IS FUCKED PERMANENTLY AND ITS HER FAULT EXCLUSIVELY. TAKE A COLD SHOWER AND READ EVERYTHING I SAID OVER AND OVER AGAIN TIL YOU MAN THE FUCK UP AND KICK THE BITCH TO A CURB. I wish I had someone talk all this sense into me when I was in your position. woulda saved me a whole lot of trouble. good luck OP
Sorry user but cheating isnt a mistake, you have to take a lot of decisions (and some moral ones) to cheat in a relationship, take risks and betray, if she were drunk or something like that maybe it could be a mistake but I dont think thats the case, nobody says "oops I didnt knew this was cheating"
Yes dump her but wait a little while before you do it. If you do it now she will know she was dumped because she confessed to cheating -- not because she cheated. The next guy, she will cheat and never tell him because he will just dump her too.
Use this time to line up another girl. Dump whore girlfriend when next girl is found.
I will never trust her again. There will be no repair. Theres a lot of women out there who wont whore around. Theres really no reason at this point to stay with her. Glad I found out shes a whore before I did something stupid like marry her.
If she won't tell you who then she's still not being honest, and it's probably because it's someone she knows makes it even worse.
I would've said break it off even before this post but seriously, mate, do it now. If she did it once and you accept it then why wouldn't she do it again? People do what they can get away with. And people don't change without serious introspection and a massive amount of honesty.
Honest advice from someone who has cheated on his gf's in the past.
Cheating does not happen by accident and it is not something you just do like you misplace your car keys.
She made that decision conciously.
Now, if you would have find out about yourself there is no way you should stick with her. Just take the hit and try to move on in this case.
However, since she has told you - there is something else that you need to be aware of.
If she felt the need to cheat on you, there is something essentially wrong with your relationship or her. Figure out which one it is.
Feeling guilty and admitting does not make it undone. You can tell her that the trust is broken and that you want to forgive but that it needs time. She absolutly has to win back that trust. If it does not one day hit you, that the trust is where it should be, end it for the sake of both of you.
A relationship without trust is worth nothing and will only hurt you more and more.
I have big regreds about cheating on my ex-girlfriend and i told her about it. She forgave me and we were together for another 2 years.
I did not do it to hurt her but because i felt genuinly unhappy in my current relationship and that fact hunted me after 2 years.
She was not the right one for me and i was not the right one for her. I had to cheat and live in a unhappy relationship to figure that out and chances are, your GF feels the same.
Now a friend of mine did exactly what i did and they ended up getting married and live happy together so far. So there is also the possibility that she actually learned something valuable from this and you will have a happy life with her for as long as i can wish you.
Either way, this decision is something no one can ever take from you. Think long and hard about your relationship with her and ask her as many questions as you need, for as long as you need. Good luck my bro.
Leave her bro. Save yourself.
I agree with this completely and do believe being in a relationship for a year has pussified me a little. Im not gonna be a cuck and forgive her. Just gonna dump her and walk.
What you do drunk, you want sober.
Not even drunk, but taking decisions about this can be very harsh and some people don't think about their partner in this decision, when they finally do, they think about the moral question and regret it.
Once a cheater always a cheater.
Im this guy and i just saw that comment: That is a no go. She absolutely has to tell you. If she does not, go away ASAP.
Dude not telling him is terrible wtf you on about
She does legitimately want to stay with you. You make her comfortable. And if you stay with her, you'll keep making her comfortable, just as you did when she had another guy balls deep inside her, but with the added reassurance that she can chat and you'll forgive her. It gets easier to cheat each time, just like everything else. Think about it; all those feelings of betrayal, the worry about hurting you, the pang of guilt she may have felt... they'd all be strongest the first time, but she still did it.
If you feel yourself getting weak, just imagine her on her back, moaning, with another guys dick in her pussy, maybe her mouth, with him sucking on her tits and cumming in or on her.
She betrayed you. Let yourself get angry.
> The only other thing I can tell you is before you tell her you're done, tell her you'll consider staying with her but YOU NEED TO KNOW WHO SHE FUCKED. If she tells you, it'll be easier. If she doesn't, it's more proof of her putting another cock first.
Godspeed user. Never stay with a thot.
this one right here
don leave a note, no final words, nothing, total ghosting.
I'd say leave her if she does it again
>stonetoss
WHO GIVES A FUCK WHAT ANYBODY ELSE WOULD DO? Do what YOU want to do. its no wonder your gf cheated on your cuck ass
Dump her. First, she cheats on you then fucking tells you because SHE is uncomfortable with the guilt. There was no reason to tell you and hurt your feelings other than to make herself feel better. She is a selfish bitch to the core. If I were you I would just move out and start new. Let her ass live in the place that reminds everyone of your relationship
Like this says
Her not telling you isn't too protect your feelings, its to protect the guy she fucked. Not telling you is just her putting him first - again. If he was a real friend he'd tell you, and anyone other than a friend or family would be easier to handle rather than harder anyway.
Excuse the typos, phoneposting.
A lot of guys here are speaking from experience getting cheated on. I'll give you advice from the other side.
Ten years ago I was a 20 year old spit fuck that cheated on my gf. And let me tell you, at that age, if I did it and got away with it, I would do it again. I fucked this girl the night before my gf b'day and I didn't have a lot of shame for it.
I broke it off from my gf. She was upset , but I knew I was gonna cheat on her again and I didn't want to keep it up. I never told her I cheated on her and I think that was a good call....I think it may be worse to tell the person you betrayed them, easier just to seperate. Either way, if I were you I would definitely get out of there.