ive been with my boyfriend for about 3 years we met online and moved in together about a year ago, we have a very good relationship and can have very meaningful conversations and share the same idealogies and humor. But i noticed a pattern that we get into very heated arguments when he drinks. Its usually my own fault when he does get angry but i feel he overreacts a tad, and it always feels like im clicking the wrong dialogue options when i try to fix things. I used to be very good at controlling my emotions but during arguments its just a flood of tears i cannot control, and he thinks im trying to manipulate him into capitulating by crying but thats not the case. I just get scared, he hasnt hit me (threatens to sometimes) but he'll shove me or hold me in place and force me to say what he wants in a robotic tone, and through my emotion i cant say what he wants in the tone he expects which is emotionless. Idk what to do. I feel awful for crying during such things and him seeing it as manipulative only worsens my emotional state when it happens.
Ive been with my boyfriend for about 3 years we met online and moved in together about a year ago...
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Fuck his dad, assert dominance.
im afraid im not a part of the feminist movement and feel no desire to assert dominance over a male who takes care of me. would much rather know how to get a handle on my own estrogen induced emotions
>its usually my own fault when he does get angry
At least you recognize the problem. Let a man be a man. If he hits you, learn your place.
You are asking a board full of hormonal, immature, racist, hateful incels. You may want to rethink your sourcing.
i feel like this would be the correct place to ask how to get a handle on my femoid emotions.
Which do you prefer op?
Don't bother dating mean drunks aka shitheads that bottle everything up until they've had a beer because they're not man enough to express themselves sober
ive heard...rumors meowri wheres a fake chest piece designed for trannys. much prefer the REAL woman on the left pls upvote if u agree
>be me
>type out wheres instead of wears
>shitstorm incoming
Nah sounds like he's a shithead if your telling the truth. You obviously love this guy but clearly he doesn't value you in the same way, don't waste your time.
women love angry bad boys, it makes them wet
ik he loves me which is why i get so emotional when hes in this state, ik the honeymoon effect has worn off but we plan on marrying and dont see ourselves seperating ever. i dont think any relationship is perfect but ik I wouldn't have the connection we have with anyone else.
I mean do guys love every single woman with big tits? No, so why do you assume all girls like shitheads.
if he hits you it means he cares - why else would a man risk his freedom?
i moreso worry that i would resent him if he ever did hit me. i wouldnt callcthe cops on him over something so trivial but again just asking for advice on how people control emotions. ik its easier for men so i just want to know if theres a certain mindset or way to fight it
because it proves itself over and over again? how many serial killers get marriage proposals? women are fucking stupid
Yas Forums is dead.
Ok so think about it in these terms, say you have a kid. What do you think would happen if he grew up in the situation your currently living in? Personally I know alot of people who were fucked up at least mentally (myself included) because their dad was an angry drunk. He has to man up and find a better way to solve his shitty issues.
if youre not posting porn no one looks - the site is filled with degenerate porn addicts
being beat gives character, you dont want kids growing up soft
listen bitch.......there is ONE relationship that is perfect. ppl spend a lifetime not KNOWING to their own detriment. that relationship is how you relate to YOUR SELF. i give the same advice to both parties LOVE YOUR SELF. its where love comes from. that you love him or he loves you is 100% pure illusion. DELUSION in fact.
Just because you married someone doesn't mean you know everything about them, take instances of cheating for example. Even with that men are stupid to, I know a couple of people who decided to marry while in college only to get a divorce and lose it all.
shutup faggot. self love is for fatties who want an excuse to treat themself to moer borgers. i WANT ADVICE ON HOW TO FIGHT MY BIOLOGICAL FEMOID EMOTIONS
Yeah last time I checked kicking my Dad's drunk ass didn't equate to a better life.
hes not a drunk and we dont have these fights very often. i want advice on how to diffuse these situations and my own emotions. the problem is that my emotions escalate situations
men beat their children because they are weak and want to pass their weakness on to the next generation, so as never to be eclipsed by their children
it's the opposite of a better life for your children
Talk to him when he's sober
It's ok if you get emotional, but you have to be clear in what you want to say and how you feel about it
If anything, he needs to hold on his drinks better when around you, or in general
But talk to him, be clear in what you want
your dad sounds like he was a pussy if he let his kid beat him
I don’t see the problem here. He knows what’s best for you
Suck his dick, make him a sandwich and shut the fuck up. Simple.
thank you for being the first to give sound advice. he is usually very sweet the next day and i know he feels guilty so i just worry about making him feel moreso when there are things on my end that i can fix as well
At least he didn't let me fuck him up the ass like your dad did
textbook definition of a manipulative abuser
my dad fucked ME up the ass and it was good for me
there it is in a nutshell. i gave you the secret if eternal happiness and you reject it because you DONT WANT TO BE RESPONSIBLE and it's easier to PROJECT YOUR PROBLEMS onto your partner.
Yeah dude, it sounds like you have a nice relationship outside of drinking, so if a weekend you sit dwn with him on the couch and just speak frankly, I'm sure the two of you can come to an agreement. Something important is that it's NOT your fault, regardless of what you say that tips him off. I can guess you love him, but don't sacrifice too much for an abusive relationship
Off topic, I forgot to say it before, and I'm sorry for bringing it up, but I don't make the rules. tits or gtfo?
Same
Fair enough, if you want to "diffuse it" then don't let it devolve into a bad situation. Be up front and honest ahead of time. It's hard to curve things in the right direction when people are feeling extremely emotional. But if worst comes to worst create distance and approach at another time, just don't put it off till the last minute.
I think this post is fake, but if someone threatens you, you leave.
i dont want to give up my first relationship i had over something that is in the heat of the moment. he is the first and only person I have ever had a romantic connection with.
>be me
>be celibate
>no roommates
>no fighting
>no bullshit
>I pay my bills
Stop depending on someone you lazy fucking animal.
hheeeheeehooohaa. sorry i have a tradchad lifestyle while you remain alone. inshallah brudder you will find a woman who changes your mind. theyre rare but i know you will come across one someday. best of luck
It's not in the heat of the moment if it hapens repeatedly. Besides agression is something that has to be kept in line from the very start
are you op?
>estrogen induced emotions
Stay brainwashed kiddo
Are emotions not induced by hormones?
do you have a job?
like any responsibilities?
Beta male detected
pls no glowniggers on my post thank you. i take supplements to control estrogen dominance but they can only do so much for a biological woman.
No
someone failed biology.
Ok retard
I've lived like this and never met a woman who made me want to let someone else run and eventually ruin my life.
no forgot to mention i had a brain injury way back that never healed. im not completely brain dead it just exasperated mental issues i had before like adhd and anxiety but also really fucked my vision and coordination. my bf is traditional and we are both happy with me being the homemaker and someday babymaker while he pays the bills.
>inb4 typical femoid neet
Apparently relationships are a huge stressor for OP.
Remove relationships.
Don't have a gun at your head because you're in over your head financially because you got soft in a relationship.
Be independent, be happy.
Not incel either, volcel.
Alright Chad, I'm sure you know a lot more about treating women right while posting on Yas Forums
WWyd with this?
i dont run his life, he runs mine which im fine with its how the natural order of male and female should be.
chop it up and feed it to my dog
Force laxatives into his system after every outburst. He will eventually associate the negative interactions and be forced into a mental paradigm shift.
How cruel of you, Fido deserves better
Are you American?
poor doggo
there it is.
you have nothing going on in your life. you have no responsibilities or pattern.
bad news: you need to get a job. part-time or something. it's part of our human nature and when we aren't in rhythm. women (before they had jobs) took care of kids, which is a job/responsibility.
men go apeshit or turn to anti social behaviors when they are not given responsibility or work. when he comes home, you have all this emotional bullshit shoved in his face. what do you expect in return?
do the math. you are hurting yourself and your partner. it's only a matter of time until he's done with you and you are left alone.
Whatever u gotta tell yourself to make it through life bud...
>adhd and anxiety
Who diddled you?
>emotions not induced by hormones
psychologytoday.com
>natural order
So ur a Christian?
Way to not get to the fucking point stupid fucking cunt.
Also, you're codependant as fuck nigger. Must be uuuuuugly.
If there's one thing Christians love, it's nature. That's why they all know so much about biology.
When you have a head injury it's not matter of just learning how to control yourself. People have little control as it is, let alone when that control is physiologically compromised.
What you NEED to do is put up a solid do NOT do this. Don't let him pin you - NEVER threaten you. The more he feels in dominance of you, the worse this gets. being passive only hurts you.
The solution isn't you controlling himself, it has to come from him never getting you in that state - and if he's not capable of that, then you bail. You're not as compatible as you think.
I'm not gonna read that.
Let me get this straight...
> OP's bf gets drunk, and argues with OP and makes her cry regularly
> OP thinks the problem is that she has ovaries which cause estrogen induced emotions
Uhhhh, have you talked to a therapist? Sounds like it would help. Also, tell your BF to stop drinking if he becomes aggressive enough to threaten you. So many red flags OP
Fuck his father.
It will destroy him.
like everything else you come across
What the fuck are u talking about?
i haveva job cooking and cleaning :3
if i go out and get a job in only giving into the problem that new wave feminists started and taking a job that couldve been given to a man instead.
She obviously loves the abuse or she wouldn't even be there
i used to treat my ex like that.
She was being promiscuous at parties and stuff though which is why I would get angry when drunk at her. Call her a bitch, slut, all this stuff. and she ended up straight up cheating on me.
if you're not being a slut, you should try talking to him when he is sober. talking to him drunk is pointless.