My girlfriend, who I've been with for more or less 4 years, in the past 6 months or so has been having sex with me less and less. It went from almost every day to 1-3 times a month and it doesn't seem to bother her at all. There's no intimacy in our relationship anymore and I'm really getting to the point where I'm about to say fuck it and cheat on her. I've had many talks with her before about how I need sex and intimacy in a relationship and she claims it's because birth control is making her "not feel like it", I am starting to not even try because I know the answer is gonna be a no.
I do not think she is cheating on me though, so I'm ruling out that possibility. She's very transparent and has always been honest with me, on top of the fact she has nearly no friends and social life anyway (to the point where she hates my friends) but that's besides the point.
What should I do? Just not have sex ever again except for special occasions? Or go and cheat on her? Or leave her? I don't wanna leave. I genuinely love her, and I know, the fact I'm considering having sex with another girl makes it seem like I don't love her THAT much and I would agree, but I promise that I do. I'm always helping her out financially and always doing things for her that she loves, and just try to make her life easier in general.
But she just won't fuck anymore. And I'm getting really annoyed.
Some beta shit I know but idk what to do and I need help from you guys. Thank you for reading all this
tl;Dr >gf won't fuck anymore and I'm about to cheat, convince me not to
If you're at that point end it, you dumb mother fuckers always forget the golden rule. It's super easy to fall in love. It's hard to stay in love
Ryder Green
Either end it or seek couples therapy if needed, if she doesn't have anything else to offer other than sex, then she's not worth having either
Caleb Bailey
Talk to her about maybe switching to the implant for birth control or hey I don't know wear a rubber so she can get off the pill. You need to understand sex drive is driven by hormones. Birth control is a hormone which in women can and will kill sex drive just like if your testosterone again hormone surges you're going to want to fuck like now. If your testosterone is low you'll be just like her zero interest in sex. These things can be worked out in 2020 or end what could be a good thing.
Jordan Jenkins
jesus christ, just fucking jerk off. you're really gonna throw your relationship away to gain sexual pleasure?
Eli Collins
I guess I'm just confused as to why the birth control is all of a sudden causing this issue when she's been on it for almost 3 years. Idk exactly how hormones are affected by that shot though so maybe you are right
Eli Baker
Yep. If there's ZERO intimacy in a relationship, you're basically just roommates at that point
Colton Smith
it's an easy thing to lie about, because it happens to some women. also she could just THINK it's the birth control, like how TF would she know.
Thomas Price
Give her an ultimatum. "I don't feel like it becuz birth control" is a bullshit answer. Make her tell you the real reason. Push for a real answer on if she's still attracted to you and if she still loves you.
My gf had something similar, and when I pushed her about it, she told me that it was because she had gained weight and didn't feel attractive anymore. (She DID NOT want to admit that to me, and that's why I'm saying push her on it.) I told her that I don't care and still want to stick it in her, and I won't stop wanting that. That made her feel better, and since then, we have sex whenever I want.
Bentley Campbell
Dude you clearly aren't happy and sometimes even though you love someone, you have to look out for yourself.
