I realized why I was so insecure and confused about my sexuality. Like many men I fell into the typical trap of porn which led to fapping to trannies all the way to wanting to be a tranny sucking cock and balls, but still wasn't attracted to men when I was around them. Naturally guys like me are called closet repressed homos in denial and whatnot, which is fair, but something didn't feel right, calling myself gay or even bi just didn't feel right, but I certainly wasn't straight. I agonized over this endlessly, but the turning point was when I realized that I didn't really want to have sex with men. I no longer cared if I was gay or not, I just knew having sex with men wasn't gonna happen regardless of what I was, that made me realize why I wasn't comfortable calling myself gay or bi, because I wasn't, at least not how those words are actually used. When someone identifies as bi or gay, they are expressing 3 things, 1. I probably like some form of gay porn (check) 2. I have an attraction towards men when I'm around them (no) 3. I have or will have sex with men (no). Basically, my problem was that only 1 of those things applied to me, so calling myself bi never felt right because it was only partially true, while the most important implications of the label were false.
Sorry for the wall of text but this was like a eureka moment for me, I see so many guys confused about their sexuality and I think this is precisely why. Don't get me wrong, by the textbook definition of the word we are still bisexual, but the way this word is actually used in communication does not fit guys like us, it implies things about us that aren't true, so we aren't comfortable with the label. If I tell anyone that I'm bisexual, that would automatically think I'm attracted to men around me, have had sex with men or will, which isn't true. So how do you deal with a conundrum like this?
all i read was >i'm a faggot and i have to go through mental gymnastics to justify it
Daniel Foster
TLDR >am fag Who cares eat ass and live for pleasure
Dylan Edwards
Exactly. You're bisexual OP. Just accept it and stop the ridiculous mental gymnastics. You'll feel better, and can drop the uncomfortableness caused by your silly fear of other people's reaction to your orientation. You can always clarify after that you only like feminine men.
>I realized why I was so insecure and confused about my sexuality. Like many men I fell into the typical trap of porn which led to fapping to trannies all the way to wanting to be a tranny sucking cock and balls, but still wasn't attracted to men when I was around them. Naturally guys like me are called closet repressed homos in denial and whatnot, which is fair, but something didn't feel right, calling myself gay or even bi just didn't feel right, but I certainly wasn't straight. I agonized over this endlessly, but the turning point was when I realized that I didn't really want to have sex with men. I no longer cared if I was gay or not, I just knew having sex with men wasn't gonna happen regardless of what I was, that made me realize why I wasn't comfortable calling myself gay or bi, because I wasn't, at least not how those words are actually used. When someone identifies as bi or gay, they are expressing 3 things, 1. I probably like some form of gay porn (check) 2. I have an attraction towards men when I'm around them (no) 3. I have or will have sex with men (no). Basically, my problem was that only 1 of those things applied to me, so calling myself bi never felt right because it was only partially true, while the most important implications of the label were false. >Sorry for the wall of text but this was like a eureka moment for me, I see so many guys confused about their sexuality and I think this is precisely why. Don't get me wrong, by the textbook definition of the word we are still bisexual, but the way this word is actually used in communication does not fit guys like us, it implies things about us that aren't true, so we aren't comfortable with the label. If I tell anyone that I'm bisexual, that would automatically think I'm attracted to men around me, have had sex with men or will, which isn't true. So how do you deal with a conundrum like this? I disagree
Austin Mitchell
I'm with you op. Except I'd be tempted to fuck a trans girl in asian if the opportunity presented itself. asian men make the sexiest women and their skin is milky white and hairless and they usually have plump asses to go with it
Jonathan Hernandez
>tfw discovered anal masturbation and cannot stop >takes willpower to not buy girl's clothes and more anal toys >have to take break from current toys so I can get my boihole tight again and not be a size queen >not gay but really think about being TOPPED by a neet plz stop intrusive thoughts I am not a faggot
Oliver Richardson
>Exactly. You're bisexual OP
Technically I am, but as far as how this label is actually used in communication it does not apply to me. To make a point I made a thread that said "How do I explain to people that I'm bisexual but have no interest in dating or having sex with men?" and most of the replies basically said that I'm not bisexual, because when most people think of a bisexual man, they think of someone who actually has sex with men.
If I call myself bisexual, I'm communicating that I'm interested in having sex with men, which is not true. I am not bisexual, at least not in the way this word is actually used.
Cooper Sullivan
Just admit to yourself that you have a tranny fetish and leave it at that. No reason to go labeling yourself this or that.
