/femfeel/
Episode: 1
You did (not) ask for this.
RULES: Do not respond to any post from a male unless you are confident it is in good faith.
Topic: How do you express love and affection? Is it typical for your gender in your culture? Do you lack any experience with expressing love and affection at all?
I will also be including quotes from a book related to women's topics in the thread.
its very difficult for me
girls grow up here either very sheltered or severely abused
i have never loved anyone but my mother
One of my (male) friends told me that I "loved like a man" and that it was a put off for guys. I asked him what he meant, and he said that my general tendency to ask men out directly, or make romantic gestures freaked them out.
Obviously if you go on the Simp Central that is Reddit and ask if men like assertive women, they will all say yes because they're fantasizing about Stacey doing it. If an average (or better yet, ugly) woman approached them they'd be repulsed. The moral here is that Stacey can get away with anything and one's actions are irrelevant.
So my friend was wrong. The issue is not that I am open and direct about my feelings (thanks, autism) but that I'm an ugly woman.
Watching pic related.
Where you from?
I don't really know how to express love and affection due to the way I was raised. Showing emotions has always been seen negative by my mother, and she would even find it 'disgusting' or 'annoying' if I were trying to express affection.
I'm typically stoic so people would think that I hardly give a shit about them when it's the other way around.
Wish I could be stoic. I always want to reel my emotions in but end up playing the spaz again.
how about you fuck off back to cc
i tend to be very open about my feelings and affection. i can be overwhelming, especially since i expect the other person to act similar and if they don't, i start worrying that maybe they love me less. i mostly rely on tender physical touch, as well as expressing my affection verbally - love yous, flirting with your partner, compliments for no reason. i don't think that it loses meaning if i say it a lot because i mean it every time.
I'm a guy but I'm posting in good faith.
I don't think it is so much that guys only want Stacy. I think it is that friend in particular thinks women shouldn't be assertive. Guys aren't used to women being assertive, we're not used to getting compliments so a lot of the time we either don't notice or don't know how to deal with it. I'm sure some guys are also stuck with archaic ideas about who should approach first, so maybe they feel like if they're asked out first its emasculating.
I don't think its because you're ugly. I've never seen you so I can only infer on the basis that if you're here you probably have some self-esteem issues and so you're probably underrating your attractiveness a bit.
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