All my life I've been taking advantage of people to survive and learn. These past few months I've done it quite a lot due to being bored and depressed. I took advantage of mentally ill people. I got them to open up to me just so I can learn about how others struggle and to see if I could fix them. I'm obsessed with getting people attached to me and couldn't care less what happens to them after I've succeeded.
Recently there is someone I think I care about. Someone who I thoroughly enjoy being around and talking to. I've never felt like this before with anyone else. It's extremely conflicting to be open and honest with them. I've been doing a good job at it, but why is it conflicting? Why am I afraid to show them the truth? Is it because I'm manipulating them but I'm in denial? I don't like being manipulative, but I've done it so much in my life that most of the time I'm doing it subconsciously and can't tell if I'm in denial or delusional.
dumb niggers here arent going to help or know better.. im retarded for making this post
Matthew Bell
you manipulate people because you need power over them in order to feel secure; without the manipulation, you feel vulnerable and exposed
Ethan Nguyen
why would i need power over them? I'd just prefer to help very intriguing people to the point where I get bored. If I have power over someone it's because they've allowed me to. Everyone is capable of being my equal or above me.
Zachary Edwards
it's the change from talking to people you have power over to talking to someone you are vulnerable to the security you have with them is gone, and you are also extra sensitive to the new person's opinion of you because you like them the manipulation might have turned instinctual too, so when you don't manipulate, you feel out of your element
Alexander Nelson
I don't feel like I have ill intentions when I talk to people, most of the time it doesn't feel like manipulation at all, but with speculation it's becomes obvious to me that I am doing things that will eventually hurt them. The closer I get to people, the more it hurts them when I leave. It's tedious and I'd prefer them not to care so I can just get information and get out without problems arising.
Aiden Carter
change before you ruin things with this new person make amends with your past if you're not too scared, the shame of apologizing will motivate you to stop
Hudson Wood
I kind of feel this to a lesser extent. I keep myself out of reach from anyone who doesn't interest me to an almost obsessive level, I'm thrilled when they start opening up to me and I get comfortable around them, but once I've arrived at that comfort area, the spark instantly fades and I almost don't care about them anymore. Am I a sociopath?
Xavier Davis
no, you're just assholes
Matthew Anderson
Honestly, I don't think you have enough background information to fully understand the situation. It's second nature to me, and the question "is it possible to stop being manipulative" is what im more focused on. for the most part, I don't like people and cant be bothered to make friends with them. I also get obsessive with people, usually those who don't like to talk about their problems so it takes more time for them to trust me. It's nice to get people to trust you but once they are emotionally connected to you, they become somewhat of a nuisance or responsibility like a pet would be. Unless you have something to gain, what's the point of being close with them? >Am I a sociopath? I think everyone is like this to an extent, we are all very selfish beings who hide behind empathy and our drive to not be alone. I think it becomes a problem when you start using people with specific malicious intent to hurt or take something from them, but that can be argued against.
