Want to date a girl

>want to date a girl
>she chooses another guy over me
>pretty cut up about it but whatever
>six months later she comes back and wants to try again because the guy left her apparently
>tell her to fuck off
Did I do the right thing? Am I volcel now? I'm still lonely.

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if she clearly indicated to you that you were her second choice, then yes. Because there is the possibility that if the guy wants wants her back, or she finds another 'first pick' sorta guy, that she'll leave you for them

Chaddest thing Ive seen here in awhile. Congrats

this
Is this an IRL relationship or an online one faggot.

>Because there is the possibility that if the guy wants wants her back, or she finds another 'first pick' sorta guy, that she'll leave you for them
the fact she's never been prepared to commit to me makes me think this is the case

You deserve someone who loves you, not someone uses you until something better comes along.

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But if I can't get the former, isn't it better to take the latter?

Only if u are comfortable with temporary happiness that will eventually lead into anger pain and sadness that greatly outweighs the benefit of said happiness

Is it not better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all? Or should I just keep my pride?

Depends, you can place your faith in a famous quote or use your eyes and reasoning skills to figure it out for yourself. Is another girl going to come along? Probably. Was this one who CLEARLY didnt respect you and refused to make u her first choice not the one for you? Yes.

You did the right thing, champ.

loss is absolutely horrific user. My life is fucking miserable. Definitely better to ignore the worthless bitches until the right one is found.

thanks lads. let's stick together.

user, you deserve to be loved, not strung along by a heartless narcissistic selfish bitch who just wants to use you as a backup emotional pillow. I'm really proud of you if this actually happened, lord knows I'd probably cave if anyone ever showed me the slightest affection, regardless of what my brain tells me.

This would be the second or third time she has come back into my life after she did something to hurt me, though this time was the only time she actually started dating another guy and rejected me. Every time she tries to contact me she tells me she's changed and that things will be better, but she inevitably tosses me aside. I even warned her
>This isn't going to work out. You're going to come crawling back to me in six months and I'm not going to be here. You chose this.
I don't want to go back on that promise. She needs to learn her actions have consequences and I'm not always going to be there to build her back up again.

Sorry, I'm just venting because this kind of stuff I can only say anonymously since I don't want my friends and family knowing I'm this pathetic.

a lonely life in dignity is worth more than a life with companion in disgrace

you did the right thing my dude
that bitch is going to end up on /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen/

Putting in the hours, OP. Keep this up and you'll be leading your own thot patrol in no time.

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>isn't it better to take the latter?
FUCKING NEVER

Pump and dump the bitch, get Yas Forums chill with bros and find a girl who is cool

If you had accepted her then she would have abused you emotionally and otherwise. She would also treat you as her lesser and would be just as ready to discard you if she found someone better. Accepting her decision and not returning to her is the smart thing to do because of this.

I'm not saying OP made a bad decision, but is it even possible to find someone who would not want to have the best partner ? Why would anyone want to get with someone with less qualities ?

It's normal to have a first choice, and it's not disrespect to not make someone your first choice, otherwise that means you can only respect one person.

What I mean is not that you should be satisfied with being the second choice, but that you have no reason to resent the girl. Wanting to have your first choice is normal and wanting to be the first choice is normal too. That's life.

On this point you have to take into account that some people are more sensitive to loss than others, which means that the answer to which is worse depends on you and your emotional toughness.

>What I mean is not that you should be satisfied with being the second choice, but that you have no reason to resent the girl.
The resentment comes from when she comes back to you after the relationship with her first choice fails.

What's wrong with that ? Going for the second choice if the first fails is basic logic.

good for you homie you made the right choice

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I was someone's spare tire once because lmao first gf. The feeling will never leave you but she will. You're the one she settled for when the one she wanted didn't want her and that's how you'll be treated.

Yeah but should you, as the second choice, accept that? or should you find someone who you're number one for?
Would you really want to be in a relationship where your thought is; "She chose another guy over me?". And because you're second best, maybe another first best will come along and she'll leave you.

You're better off finding someone who would never take someone else over you.

basic bitch logic to assume the second choice should be okay with being the back-up and not her first choice.

if this is real, i'm proud of you, man.
don't settle for being second-best because of how a prospective partner treated you. FUCK that.
You've got self-respect and bigger balls than most, my friend.

You're never going to be anyone's first choice.
You should have taken the chance while you had it.
Now you're going to end up with nothing.

Should have pumped and dumped her, but rejecting her outright is fine too.

i never indicated or intended to imply that he left me. it was the other way around. im sorry i made you feel like the second choice. it was a mistake to date him to begin with.