My boyfriend was raped by another woman, and I can't stop feeling jealous and insecure over it. Usually, two times a week I heavily abuse him over it. I victim blame him, scream at him, interrogate him. I feel jealous, mistrustful, scared that I don't know what was the real nature of their relationship or why he let her into her life. He told me that he had to let her live with him because he was too poor to afford his rent. I can't help but think he had some kind of relationship with her. If he's telling the truth and he never had feelings for her, and he was just raped, I would accept him for who he is. I can't stop being paranoid and abusing him. There's no proof of anything except his retelling of events. I believe he was raped, he's extremely traumatized and sees a therapist over his past. He told me she forced him to get drunk with her friends pressuring him, then hit him on the head and raped him. She threatened to tell other people he raped her if he told the police. But I can't help but feel paranoid he had feelings for her. I've tried to force him to leave me, saying the worst things, but he's extremely attached to me. I know I'm an awful girlfriend, I have BPD and I'm insane. But I can't stop being abusive.
My boyfriend was raped
So whats the issue here?
I keep abusing him. I want him to leave me but I can't make him give up on me. If I try to leave he'll threaten to kill himself.
But I'm miserable because he's not a virgin and I feel paranoid that he loved another person in the past.
You insane jealous bitch.
>I want him to leave me
>I feel paranoid that he loved another person
How does it make sense to you?
Just tell him these things you're posting here then
I love him but I'm bad for him. Hence I wish he'd move on.
Now you have some small idea of what every man has to go through in the face of his gf's sexual past. Hurts, doesn't it?
Nothing happened, it's all in your head. You can just continue like you were before.
He told me that he can't let me go because I am pretty
i feel sorry for all the anons who seemingly don't realize that this is a troll post
It's like the roles are reversed
You sound like the worst person your boyfriend could ever be with. I am asking you for his sake, leave him.
Yes, I understand. It hurts.
It's real. I abuse him twice a week maybe on average. I made this post shortly after making up with him. Within the same day, I call him back to apologize, then get angry again multiple times, changing my mind, saying we should break up. Sometimes I'm angry and say I hate you, sometimes I'm sad and say I'm not good enough for you.
He shouldn't have let himself get drunk. It's his fault for not standing up for himself.
I try at least once a week, but he will call me begging me back. If I am firm on it, he will say he will kill himself. He won't give up no matter how hard I try, I'm not going to block his number.
it's not his fault he is my precious baby
that's hot desu, i wish i could get abused and manipulated like that owo
the fuck is wrong with you, you fucking schizo
Throughout the day, I broke up with him and made up with him more than 5 times.
tfw he's perfect for me and good looking with the perfect personality. I just feel jealous that he was raped.
yeah OP i struggle with BPD as a woman too and i would say stop feeling sorry for yourself. get help and learn to have self esteem before you go out and hurt others because of your over thinking. if you truly want this to stop you either have to believe him and go to a psychologist or break up with him n continue on with your horrible habits. whatever you want tho, just saying whatever choice you make, if youre avoiding help it will only make it worse. do you really want to hurt people? or is it just because you feel like you have to or some other reason? now would be a great time to sit with your thoughts and really think about your actions. leave him & focus on your mental health, PLEASE. you will thank yourself in the future.
His story sounds legit. Not sure if you ever been hit in the head. It legit paralyzes your body. Especially, in those type of moments. People don't really hold back when they want to hurt you.
if he really were drunk and knocked out, his dick wouldn't have been hard enough for her to rape him.
how do you explain that?
This opinion reassured me
and then this one made me upset again. Should I interrogate him?
As a man I can confidently say there is a 95% your boyfriend is lying and simply cheated on you. Keep in mind a man will fuck about anything if they think they can get away with it, ESPECIALLY if drunk. I've literally never heard about a man being genuinely raped by a woman. First off, a man should be stronger than any woman who tries to rape, but most importantly there's no way a penis would get hard if they didn't like it. Frankly the only way a man can get raped is anally or if they are literally tied down or some shit, but that only happens in hentai fantasies.
Your boyfriend cheated on you.
Yes you should, preferably whilst sitting on his face and degrading him, and by him I mean me
I literally wake up with boners. I am sure you can boner while unconscious.
Morning boners are from sexual dreams though. If you are unconcious you can't get boners.
This was years before I entered his life. Also, fuck you. If you are raped you can feel arousal you can't help just by being touched. You don't have to be attracted to that person.
lol he didnt choose to, thats why its called rape
so the rape of your boyfriend occurred before you were even dating?
no there not I don't have wet dreams often but I have boners super often
Please kill la kill yourself.
Yes, it was ~2 years ago.
You are a brainlet who just doesn't remember your dreams
>If you are raped you can feel arousal
Yeah, if you're a woman. Male sexual erousal doesn't come from being dominated