If you could go back in time and give your mom tips on how to raise you, what would you tell her?
I noticed a lot of trauma in a man's life can be sourced to his relationship with his mother, so I'd like some advice from you guys in order to build the best mom/son bond possible.
t.about to have a baby boy
Don't be so overprotective.
There's nothing I can tell her that would stop her from becoming a paranoid weirdo. I think she and I are just showing signs of mental illness, which runs strongly in our family.
keep him fed and clean. i dont know anything about love or encouragement so i wont comment on that.
Is this picture about mommy GF's from a boy having mommy issues, someone explain the picture?
Also I wouldn't tell her anything she's just lazy and incompetent, I'll just make sure to do a better job finding a wife and raising the next generation.
I know two incomes is helpful, but having to share my own mother because of your daycare gig, then you leaving me alone within picking up med school, seriously fucked me up.
I don't have any interest in sex with a partner, I want someone to fill the void you never filled, and I will be alone because of it.
i don't think it would do any good to tell her anything, but
>don't be SO uptight about sex
>leave my dad
>don't be so judgmental
i'd tell her to smother me with a pillow the second i was born and save herself some money, just keep my sister, she will be infinitely better than me
Just dont have it.
You will end up a single mother, and you dont have neither the mental health/maturity or the economic capacity to give him a decent childhood.
couples with children make more money on average so i dont know what youre trying to say here
My mum takes her stress out on other people. I didn't realise until I was working over time in a shitty call center. Came home. She rushed my bedroom and burst into a tirade that I should get a job. Get another job. When she was my age blablabla. Opened my eyes that she never actually thought I was all that shit she was just tired and stressed and felt the need to tell me I was lazy and antisocial and shit every morning before school. I would tell her that really wears a kid down.
I would tell her that motivation and ambition is very rare and easily extinguished so no matter how stupid she thought what I wanted to do was it's worth humoring if it's getting me through Math class. That's more on my Dad really.
Because people who can't afford them don't have them.
i'm still fairly young, though i can't remember my early childhood, but i think i could provide some insight for his teen years!
>show interest in his hobbies and passions
>be honest and transparent with yourself around him (!)
>find something to bond over, such as cooking, music, or literature
>make it known that you love him unconditionally, not just in times of struggle
>if he wants to be left alone, it's probably for the best - he'll learn to appreciate your company when he's ready
>most importantly of all, be understanding :)
these should all help you build a strong, wholesome bond with your boy!
>Don't scream at me for hours every day
>Don't make me feel guilty for breathing
>Don't tell me I'm ugly and that no women will ever like me
It was brutal. As it turns out I have no trouble attracting women but I'm totally incapable of forming serious relationships with them.
Giving advice only means something if your parents actually care about raising you well.
Obviously leave the boys penis intact.
All of the trauma in my life can be traced back to the stupid actions of my parents. The obviously stupid stuff, like they carved up my genitals, and left me unsupervised with my pedo neighbor, and didnt say anything when he threatened to leave me at the fair.
>>if he wants to be left alone, it's probably for the best - he'll learn to appreciate your company when he's ready
kek He literally won't OP. A child over 7 will literally always choose his PC over you until you are terminally ill.
>Don't tell me ... no women will ever like me
That's a good one. I don't know how I forgot that.
Don't be too lenient. My parents (especially my mother) were always too loving, and I always got my way. Now I don't know how to do anything, haha.
Huh. Avoiding verbal and physical abuse is a good. A little more personal tip would be not to comment something stupid whenever I just talk to a girl. It seriously halted my social development and crippled my ability to talk to the opposite gender.
Don't use anything your son tells you against him when you're mad. If he pees his bed at 7 and cries because he's sorry, don't act all "It's okay, it just happens sometimes, don't worry all is good" when you're just going to insult him for it in an argument later on. Most of this should be self-explanatory but my psychopath of a mother won't let anyone tell her how to raise her son so it won't matter anyway.
my mother was always rather intrusive, which bothered me for obvious reasons
but as i grew she learned that i needed space and time to myself
this space made me appreciate her company, as opposed to dismissing it as a chore of social interaction
we eventually bonded over literature and music :)
Don't let him look at porn until he's at least 16. Yeah, getting on Yas Forums and file sharing networks when I was young was cool but it fucked me up. Wait until he's 16 before you "accidentally" disable parental controls.
i should note, this shift occurred when i was around 14-16
Are you me? Cause that's my exact thought.
Yeah, please prevent any of this shit ever happening. I have nothing to offer and would choose death over life at any moment.
Just that I'm too pussy to do it myself, which is how I'm typing this.
It's a reference to an anime in which a mom (upper left) and her teenage son are isekaied in a videogame.
So the comic is basically saying ''you're a bad son for neglecting your own mommy in favor of a 2D one''. A very sad and very common form of NTR
Yea you give good advice I shouldn't have responded in away that could come across as mocking. My tone was meant to convey that once boys find the internet you don't get back to them back. Games especially.
no worries, i was almost lost to that (in fact i was, for a couple years), but with the right support and bond it can be prevented
What about raising a daughter?
dont go hard on them during secondary education phase
my mom used to beat me a lot for being not smart enough for math
(im indian)
I would tell her to abort me.
She wouldn't listen because she's a foid.
So I'd punch her in the stomach.
I would have told her to leave my worthless ass dad for one. Mom was generally the breadwinner in our house, usually two jobs at once plus doing most of the raising. The other would be to encourage him in sports and activities like dance, music, anything that would help make a person more rounded.
I'm grateful I had the parents I did, I got an example of what I should be from my mom, and what I should try to avoid becoming from my dad. Another thing my parents did was not try to censor or inhibit what I read or watched growing up. Just make sure the kid understands the difference between reality and what's happening on screen. Some kids are retarded like that.
Yea you're generation are a bit better off. Especially as parents now are savvy enough to just use instant messaging to talk to their kids if that's the way they prefer to communicate. Things like that.
I'd be interested to see the statistics on how many anons browse here who come from:
>Mom-only household
>Both-parent household
>Dad-only household
>Adoptive household
>Grandparent household
Get an abortion just do it
Do you have any more images like that? Where the mom is distressed by her son taking to another motherly figure?
Uh oh, looks like somebody just found out about their mom-cucking-kink.
i just wish my mom cared enough to be like that
This absolutely. I now require moar
abort before it's too late
Oh, I... I'm sorry, user. :^