Can we get a gentle femdom thread going? Lets try to make it on the tomboy side more than the mommy side...

Ok then. This is now officially a full on femdom thread then.

I want a relationship where ultimately we are equals, but I take the lead on some things and she takes the lead on others. When she takes the lead, she does it gently but dominantly.

Is that "normal"? I've never had any relationship, so I lack the experience to know.

Pegging is gentIe femdom though.

What is gentle femdom?
how is it different?

It is not lmao. What difference does it have apart from normal femdom then? All the point of gentle femdom is that it is soft and gentle, shoving a plastic dildo in your ass doesn't have anything to do with it you delusional closet faggot.

I'm 28, she's 25. It was actually the result of a lot of fighting about sex at first since I was a Yas Forumscel and wanted to force us into a traditional relationship that very obviously satisfied neither of us. It was more about me accepting myself and opening up to her like I never have with anyone else than 'negotiations' about sex. She was also repressed (and still is in some cases, she was a virgin when we met), so we're moving at her pace with her knowing she has carte blanche to do anything to me (outside of cucking and humiliation, which disgust both of us anyway).
I sort of did, it's weird as you can probably guess from above. I liked some femdom 'accessory fetishes' in the early stages of our relationship like watersports and basically asked her to act it out on my terms. We sort of came to have a femdom vibe to our entire relationship slowly after it was clear that we needed to address our issues or it would be over. Which neither of us wanted.

It was a lot of worthless pride for me to swallow but I've literally never come close to my current happiness. I feel like I wasn't even a real person before this started.

The attitude with which it's done. You can say the same for a lot of activities. If it's more sensual than rough, it's likely gfd.

This. Pegging can he done gently. Saying pegging isn't gentle is like saying penitration isn't gentle. So fucking her in her pussy or ass isn't gentle either according to this fuck tard logic.

The woman is allowed to be the intiator.

Wait what do you mean user? It sounds like she kinda forced you into this kind of relationship and you liked it? I dunno what I would do if my gf (whom I'm very in love with) told me she wanted to take a big shit on my chest and threatened to break up with me.

>gentle femdom
I don't understand gentle femdom. Like it sounds like you guys just want a relationship with a girl who is careing while also being sexual interested in you so I don't really see the "DOM" part of the relationship.
granted I would say I'm pretty dominate if not slightly sadistic and having a girl having any power over me sounds fucking horrible so to each there own I guess.

Not at all. I realized I wanted it very early in the process. And I was the one who initated the fighting because we didn't have sex enough for me, since she didn't enjoy it with me as the dom, but was too insecure or scared of losing me to be honest about sex like... at all. I always knew I was forcing myself to be dom on some level, but I felt I had to because of being brainwashed with "dominant women don't exist" hogwash from my Yas Forums addiction.

She never threatened breaking up. The sex issue, which I was ready to leave over, ended up laying bare all the underlying issues between us we'd been ignoring for years once we were both able to calmly talk about our feelings with each other. I still spontaneously tear up sometimes feeling like I can't believe I was so lucky we found each other.

And she is hyper-conscious of making sure I consent to everything she wants to try.

I'd probably let her and hate every moment of it.

Nope lol. The whole point of femdom is hurting and humiliating the male, gentle-femdom is supposed to be the female taking charge and being gently affectionate, hence why most anons connect it with 'mommy' stuff. There is none of that in pegging, and yes peneteration isn't gentle at all. What the fuck do you do when you stick your dick inside a girl? Do you just pulsate there like a fucking retard with your dick in her. Hell nah, you are supposed to fuck her brains out

>There is none of that in pegging
There can be.
>peneteration isn't gentle at all
It can be.
>you are supposed to fuck her brains out
You're 'supposed' to do whatever the fuck is pleasurable for the two of you.

Probably because you acted so unmanly around her

>you are supposed to fuck her brains out
yeah in porn

Dumb fucking retard. American porn has destroyed your mind.

>I was a Yas Forumscel
So I assume your gf is asian.

>we're moving at her pace with her knowing she has carte blanche to do anything to me
So did she instantly start doing more dom things? Like, how fast did the relationship transition to more gfd? Also, how does she act outside of the bedroom?

Sounds like you are coping.
I don't know what the fuck you guys are talking about. I know most women can't get off without their vagina being eaten wildly, but that's a reach saying that they enjoy being fucked roughly in porns only.

Coping with what, precisely?

Penitration can be gentle be it in my vagina or ass or his ass with my strap.

Being a faggot originally of course
Sure, but it ain't as hell gfd though

I just want to worship a women completely and make myself totally vulnerable and at her mercy. I want her to pull my hair as she pegs me and make me ride her too. Nice taste in tomboys too user.

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Why not? Fucking someone's ass with my strap is gfd.

She's white, I'm a medchad. It wasn't instant, we started with the rule that she's the only one who got to initiate sex; this stemmed from her needing to pursue/chase me. It was rough at first, with pretty much just normal sex (her on top) whenever she wanted it and me frustrated as fuck trying to quit jerking off 11 times a day. We regularly talked about it and eventually stuff came out, like she had a foot fetish she was embarassed about, she mostly got off to yaoi, she wanted to peg me, she liked playing with my nips and watching me squirm and whimper. I have a feeling that seeing me cry turns her on, but she hasn't said anything outright yet. She wants me to wear stockings and garters, lewd 'elegant' panties, etc. as well... haven't gotten the chance to do that yet though.

It's still a work in progress since I have my own insecurities from this godforsaken place and she was heavily shamed by her parents for any sexuality she expressed growing up. We're also working on other things (both lost 40+ pounds and gone vegetarian over the last year).

Outside the bedroom she's bossy and doting most of the time. For example she plans the budget, grocery lists, menus (I do the cooking and cleaning for the most part though). Tells me what parts of my body to work on at the gym, calls my pecs titties. She is excellent at organization and money planning so I'm happy to leave it to her, and contibute to the relationship in my own ways. She calls me pretty a lot (I am) and plays with my hair (and butt sometimes) in public. She obviously is genuinely more attracted to me when I am vulnerable and lay all my emotions bare to her.

Occasionally she has avoidant moods where she doesn't want to open up to me, out of anxiety or whatever, which can fester for days before I can get through to her that telling me will always result in the problem getting better. Ups and downs but its always getting better. We're getting married and are in it for the long haul.

Fuck my ADHD meds I always end up writing fucking essays. Hopefully that gives you some idea of how we are.

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Do any of you have any advice for me, my partner wants me to slap him and choking him while I'm on top.
I have done so in the past but I couldn't help but apologize afterwards or fret incase I had hurt him.
He doesn't want it all the time, it's sort of a change up on the usual and I want it to be good for him.

That doesn't sound gentle.