>start taking to someone
>become obsessed with them within a day
>begin messaging them all the time, want to spend all my time with them
>they end up telling me I'm overbearing and cut all ties with me
Why does this always happen? It's the reason I'm never able to form meaningful connections with people. I really hate myself for being like this, too. What's a good way to suppress these tendencies?
Start taking to someone
Parker Adams
Jace James
Just embrace it my dude, force them to understand how much you love them.
Nolan Morgan
Submit and get TOPPED user
Ayden Hughes
Hello Toppedfag, how's life?
Brayden Gomez
Gotta find ones eho appreciate it. Youre the key to their lock. The clingy types I mean.
Im pretty sure I just did that to the egirl Im talking to, she barely messages back anymore :
Lincoln Baker
>start talking to someone
>want to be friends with them
>they never initiate, I always do
>intentionally give them breaks of weeks and months between talking to them because I don't want to be overbearing
>at some point give up about being cared about and leave
>repeat over years with no success or bonding
Christopher Flores
they probably thought you had bpd so bgot the fuck out of there
Jacob Williams
If you want to talk about it user, can always come here cSWzVh3. It's for mentally ill / shutins / neets.
I had a similar experience recently, too.
Isaiah Gomez
I wish they'd understand and wouldn't try to push me away all the time when all I'm trying is to be there for them and show my appreciation.
You're right user. Maybe I'd get along better with someone who's just like me.
You sound sweet, user. I wish you the best.
I don't think I have bpd because I never turn mean, I'm always idealizing
appreciate it, user, but I don't do well in group environments
Cooper Perez
You said it yourself. They feel like you're overbearing. A lot of people can get various emotions out of it. Maybe they think you're falling in love day one. Others just want short term friends. Others might want to have 10 different friends and feel like you're sucking out all the "oxygen". Maybe they just lose interest. Feel weird that you get attached so fast, feel less special, because they think you do it with everyone. Maybe it's 10000 other reasons.
Why do you become obsessed with people that quickly? What exactly makes you attached to them so fast? I guess it's the first thing you need to look into. Tell them upfront that you're someone who gets very obsessive and simply enjoy the company of people you end up liking. It will cause people to drop out faster, but at least everyone will know what they're getting themselves into.
>whats a good way to suppress these tendencies
I'd say rethinking what you want to say to someone and being mindful of why you're so infatuated with them. After a single day you don't know much about them anyways, probably never saw the person, they most likely don't feel anything towards you (yet), so tell yourself to give it some extra time. But I know from experience it's easier said than done.
Obviously the non meme answer is most likely some fucked up mental illness thing that needs professional help, but hey. I hope things improve for you somehow and you end up finding someone you can build up a mutual friendship with.