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thank you, user. in truth, i'm just very lonely due to many years of not being able to reach out to people because of social anxiety and depression. so now, whenever I make a friend, I become so incredibly happy and unconsciously start unleashing all my pent up emotions and affection. I will take your advice and hopefully improve myself for the better.

If you are still looking for people to talk to I would like to give that a try.
Always nice to try and make friends.

are you sure? I wouldn't want to burden you with my obsessiveness or anything, user. but if you really want to, I can give you my contact!

Mhm I do not mind that at all.
If anything it makes it easier to have nice conversations if we get along well.

okay! it's taichi#5445

well you got an add from me hope we can get along

>whenever I make a friend, I become so incredibly happy and unconsciously start unleashing all my pent up emotions and affection

Yeah, that's a normal reaction. I personally think that some interactions, even if they don't lead anywhere can help tone down those feelings. Like some user above said, joining small specific groups and talking there might help? I don't think you should feel bad or ashamed. You want the basic things that most humans wants. Most anons here want that. Wanting to be understood and just by seen. Hell even making threads on this board and just talking about something is a nice little step. Can always go up from there. At least that's what I did years ago.

I used to get very attached, so I used to just talk on various communities that I could desperately find, when they were a thing over a decade ago, and find friends for specific topics. Like drawing or gaming. It allowed me to concentrate on a subject, without losing control. Since for me, if I was just looking for a 'friend' I would feel emotionally lost. Nothing to anchor on, if that makes sense.

I know it's hard and it will continue to be hard for a bit, but don't get too disheartened.

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will accept in a bit! i hope so as well

Miku#1175

I appreciate the kind words, user. i feel like even just making this thread helped me put things into perspective a bit. maybe I should try out communities for specific hobbies like you said, could make bonding with someone easier since we'd have that hobby as a common ground. i'll try my best
uh you'd like me to add you or something?

lol op this is werid, you sound like me haha

This is a surprisingly wholesome thread.

perhaps you and me are secret twins haha
i am very grateful for the way it turned out, i've gotten a lot of really good advice already and i think i'm starting to understand myself better

This is me. How do I stop?

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What is there to stop?
Is something being done wrong?
Others just don't find me interesting (because I'm not), or just don't like me.
I have been alone all my life.

Find someone that actually likes you enough to initiate

What do you usually want to talk to others about user?
Having good chemistry or any overlap in interests with others can be quite the random thing usually.
Would not mind trying to get along if we have something in common or if chatting would be comfy with you.

I have several topics I used to be interested in, but not really smart enough to say anything of value or match up to people who are actually enthused with them.
I liked programming before giving it up because I couldn't grow in it, I like anime and manga despite having a miniscule powerlevel, I like video games despite not having played a lot of them due to poverty and being bad at them somewhat, I like philosophy despite not having read and not understanding a lot of theory about it, I just like spinning tales out of my own depression, I like guns despite living in a noguns country, you get the idea.
I also have a very powerful inferiority complex which makes me feel bad whenever someone who is good at something I gave up or knows much more than me talks to me.
I don't see myself as a person worthy of love and friendship because of it, but being alone is still horrible.

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You do not sound bad to talk to at all with that.
Must be hard thought if talking to people can make you feel bad easily.
If you are up to it would like giving talking a try.

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please add me and lets be friends @ anyone

i relate to these topics a lot :(

Older fag here. I think this is part of growing up and navigating relationships to a certain extent. Everyone ends up being somebodys nightmare story due to incompatibility or whatever else.

100% of a persons undivided attention and expectation is heavy for the other party. The cycle of obsessiveness and shame is exhausting for you. People have suggested finding someone more like you, and maybe that's an option, but I get the feeling you would burn one another out in the end.

As for a good way to suppress the tendencies, I will speak from my own experience. Be aware and mindful of what you are doing in the moment rather than getting lost in the emotion and obsession. Being aware of what you're doing in the moment allows you to pull back rather than continuing at full bore, wearing the person out and regretting it later. From here, either get back to or develop your own hobbies and interests. This will keep your mind from popping back into that obsessive cycle to an extent and has the added benefit of giving you things to discuss with them next time as well as growing you as a person in the long run.

Maybe this is just me, but the most obsessed and shameful i became when I was younger was a result of getting away from myself and the things I usually enjoyed. Even my wants and needs were replaced or superceded by the obsessiveness or infatuation. I let it get away from me. That's exhausting for both parties.

In short, stay in control.

What kind of things do you like user?
Do you have any interests and the like?

I don't know, you haven't talked much about yourself so I can't judge if I'd mesh with you properly.
The problem is that meeting here on this board poisons the well a bit, this air of desperation is going to loom over every interaction and make it extremely awkward.
I also don't have any social media apart from arguably Steam, since I don't have any friends for it to be any use, no Discord or anything else really.
I have to do something so write a post or something in response, I'll be back in 15 to 20 minutes if you're still here.

True the board makes it hard to keep a neutral tone.
Heh and yeah it is more that I can relate a good bit to your interests there but it is hard to say if I would slip into the enthused end of things a bit much with some of them.
Talking wise usually something like discord or email would be easiest because there is less attached to that in comparison to steam and creating a throwaway or the like does not take long.
And sure I should be around when you are back.
In the end the only way to test out if we mesh would be more talking though I would say.

i dont have a lot i just like films music and the electric guitar

i can play some games here and there but im not a gamer by any means, and i just like psychology and talking about literally anything

Well I send an add your way so lets see if we can get along.
Just wanted to know if there is at least something to talk about. heh