I want a wife. I want a wife so bad that it makes me sick to my stomach to think about it. I want a wife so bad that when I lay awake at night thinking about how fucking alone I am and how un fucking likely I am to actually every have someone who loves me it makes me cry.
And I know that it is partially because of this strong desire for a wife that I will never have one. And that hurts worst of all. Knowing how pathetically disgusting I am, but being unable to will myself to change.
You'll get over it.
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I told myself that at 20 when I dropped out of college and was still a virgin. 27 soon and it still fucking hurts.
The motivation for you to change will never magically come to you. Just start doing whatever you need to do and it'll become habit and you'll start enjoying it in a couple days
>27
Join the old man's club. Getting older is not as fun as when you are 21. I'd rather be in college again than be a wage stiff. Maybe you should go back.
What are the benefits of the old man club?
Why have a wife when you could have a gf(male)
Having a wife seems fun
>wanting a wife 2020
Have fun being a cuckold faggot
I want a husband but my parents wont approve and im too ugly and 30 kilos fatter than I should
For what reason do you want a husband?
Jesus christ brother you and I are cut from the same cloth. An almost identical experience and a cruelly similar daily struggle. I don't know if it's any consolation, but I know how you feel completely. I'm currently looking for a way to completely give up hope, so I can become content with a life of solitude, before I turn 30.
i understand your pain OP, i'm still a young fag but to imagine that my fate is sealed and i'm going to be like the rest of you makes an heroing a slightly easier thing to consider.
if worst comes to worst i'll flunk all my money on travelling or get a mail order wife when i'm older and it's certain that i'm going to be a loner.
i think you should maybe consider getting a mail order wife OP, its a win-win situation.
because Im alone, I wanna lose my virginity and I want occasional sex
If you spend less than 20 hours a week flirting with girls and getting closer to them, no you dont want a wife. You might be a little lonely between your addiction cycles to whatever you already do, but its not enough to actually connect with people. You are afraid of rejection and uncertainty of being vulnerable with someone. You simply prefer to be alone.
How is it so hard for you to imagine that someone might both really desire something and also be afraid of rejection of it?
How the fuck are those mutually exclusive?
i would want an akko wife too
Because wanting something indicates you actually want it and not just have a passing interest in it
That doesn't answer the question at all famalam
none really. All the girls are taken and you realise you're never gonna make enough money to get a trophy wife. But atleast I don't have depression anymore. You start appreciating the small stuff I guess.
Your sarcasm doesnt change what you actually want in life. When you are hungry you eat. Same principle
This is exactly my state of being. Sometimes I wonder tho. Am I just lying to myself to avoid going for a gf/wife?
>food analogy
I'll never understand why normies do this
Lying in what way?
Theres a locus of control problem and a problem of incentives. Until your incentives for getting a girlfriend are higher than your incentives for being alone, you are going to be alone unless you break free of impulsive decisions and go against your own misguided idea of incentives or consequences. It will feel like punishment at first but sooner or later being around girls and potentially having girlfriends will be the new normal
You don't starve if you don't get a woman to smile at you, you fucking idiot.
Because autists usually perform other human functions like eating and breathing. Somehow we have to teach them that socializing and sex are not much different.
Exactly the point, dipshit. OP does not have a good enough reason to have a wife, he doesnt think its worth the effort. With food its easy, the people who dont have a reason just die.
Yes, because people are together because if they weren't they would fucking die, retard
Used to think like you. But it's not that clear cut. Luck plays a big role in stuff like this. Desire is paramount but not sufficient.
Not him, but I simply don't know how to go about even trying. People like you always say "Just talk to girls" but that literally doesn't mean anything.
>When you want it hard enough, you'll stop being ugly and your medically diagnosed autism will disappear
>ugly people dont get married
Truly a retard too stupid to argue with
I'm not even convinced that you're correct, since my feelings are similar to OP's. But it's weird seeing how much smarter you and your posts are than the anons you're talking to and their posts.
If a sex offender spends 20+ hours a week flirting with girls and getting closer to them because he's a fucking creep, does he want a wife more than OP?
>Ugly people without money and unwilling to settle for druggies don't get married
Correct
There are many aspects of luck. Thats why i said the measure of wanting something is how many hours you spend doing something toward that goal.
Dont think so much about it. Learning how to meet people and have conversations is an individual path. Thats where bee yourself comes from. Getting started is stressful but its not a mystery. Join groups or do social activities that have a mix of girls and guys. Challenge yourself periodically to join new groups, meet people at events or bars, and if you really need a life coach after you get comfortable with those things then hopefully you have an experienced friend or a mentor figure in one of those groups. I wouldnt tell you how to be a funny charismatic car guy if you have no background in cars or making people laugh. There are too many ways to start relationships and build your personality