>if he doesn't threaten to kill himself over you he doesn't love you enough >if you break up with him, you don't actually mean it, but he should beg for your forgiveness and promise to change >break up and get back together every single time you're upset, it only makes you closer to your partner >men actually are excited by being constantly put in an emotional roller coaster, but they won't admit to it >fight on a regular basis to keep your relationship healthy >men should worship you because you're better than them, and they should always bend over backwards for you >relationships are not equal, women are better and should always hold 100% of the power >be yandere and harass, threaten, and scream at him over his ex >constantly interrogate him and shit test him for no reason, if he answers wrong, then make a huge fight over it >if the relationship is stable that means both of you are boring >break up with him to test his love for you
If he does everything you say and his entire world revolves around you, then he's good for you. Good luck.
Mason Bennett
fuck threads like this. having bpd is a fucking curse and i wish everyday i could form normal intimate relationships with people withut finding a way to self sabotage. i constantly have to monitor my own actions and try to make sure im being a good person and friend to people while constantly feeling like shit or that i'm being betrayed over something small and insignificant. having bpd is not sexy or fun its a fucking curse and i wish every fucking day i was just normal. if you think having bpd is a funney quirk and you're not making any attempts to better yourself and just hurt the people around you, literally kill yourself.
i just want a bpd femanon so i can give her some fleeting moments of happiness bros
John Anderson
triply so if you're a woman.
being an autistic male with BPD is the definition of life being rigged against you
Ayden Stewart
You can do the exact same thing when leading on orbiters too.
>if he doesn't threaten to kill himself over you he doesn't love you enough >if you break up with him, you don't actually mean it, but he should beg for your forgiveness and promise to change >break up and get back together every single time you're upset, it only makes you closer to your partner >men actually are excited by being constantly put in an emotional roller coaster, but they won't admit to it >fight on a regular basis to keep your relationship healthy >men should worship you because you're better than them, and they should always bend over backwards for you >relationships are not equal, women are better and should always hold 100% of the power >be yandere and harass, threaten, and scream at him over his ex >constantly interrogate him and shit test him for no reason, if he answers wrong, then make a huge fight over it >if the relationship is stable that means both of you are boring >break up with him to test his love for you
Landon Nguyen
coming to terms with my bpd ex and how she trashed my life and made me suicidal, got a chuckle out of this
Aaron Morgan
I'll fucking kill myself if I don't have a bpd gf by the time this thread is archived.
Julian Diaz
If you got over her then you never loved her. if you didn't kill yourself by now you didn't love her.
Juan Long
"if you ever cheat on me or leave me then i will kill you then myself"
most romantic thing you can say to your partner
Nicholas Kelly
I'd kill her family and pets first so she knows I mean it.
Ryan Taylor
you should always make her happy, even when she is making you miserable. that's really romantic
Zachary Russell
The only reason I didn't is because corona virus hysteria happened right after and it's entertaining and I'm getting a lot of money in the near future -- I was going to let myself get hit by a train
Samuel Adams
You should send her texts threatening to kill yourself if she doesn't come back. That would be romantic. Did she cheat on you?
Connor Baker
I've dated multiple women from this board who have claimed to have BPD. Being in a relationship with them went exactly like this. They were horrible and abusive people.
I'm so glad I have a gf who isn't "BPD" right now. Anyone who tells me they have BPD I just fucking ghost right away. BPD is a literal nightmare for someone like me with avoidant personality. They'll gaslight and say you're guilt tripping them for being affected by their terrible personalities and actions.
laaa laa laa i can say what i like and nobody will notice cus it's me saying it wooo ha haaa do do dooo
Josiah Carter
Who are they so I can stalk them.
Zachary Long
>implying you're not addicted to the drama
Landon Richardson
Look at you so obviously going out of your way, making a POINT of not seeing me.
Evan Butler
I wouldn't be surprised, she would humiliate me and dumped and got back with me over and over and the emotional stress made me suicidal on top of what else had been going on in my life
I attempted to reach closure and told her I was feeling suicidal and losing it many times and was ignored
The suicidal tendencies could have been caused by pretty much anyone, I just happened to run into that monster of a person and she almost pushed me over the edge
Noah Wilson
Fighting is good for relationships because you can have intense, passionate make up sex.
Ian Rivera
What the fuck is it going to take for one of you fucks to acknowledge that I fucking EXIST
William Cook
Who even are you? What do you want?
Christopher Cox
Fuck make up sex. I want abusive, hardcore, someone is about to go to the hospital sex.
Logan Baker
Pic of the knife you'd slit my throat with or gtfo
Thomas Cox
More like my own fucking throat. I could do it in front of a crowd of you people and nobody'd notice.
Nathan Gutierrez
Pics or I'll fuck you in the ass.
Cooper Hill
If I had to choose one mental disorder for my hypothetical GF, BPD would be on the bottom of the candidates
Owen Reed
go to hell. how it is so easy for you to find people to talk to, to get interested in you, to connect with? i bet you dont even think about it
sick of it. no, tired, i'm so damn tired
Thomas Gutierrez
Bitch, you better lube up your ass before I get there because I'm going in and going hard as soon as I see you.
Adrian Thomas
Yeah, bpd sucks, I get it. It must make it more intense being a female considering theyre waaaay more connected to their emotional responses than I am as a dude. It's still more treatable than depression.
Leo Gonzalez
I only wish someone'd think of me enough to want to do that. Hate is better than nothing.
Ayden Howard
Treatable? How? How can you know that? Tell me why exactly you think that. If you know something I don't, I'd love to hear it. Really.
Nathaniel Lopez
I know it because I'm actually seeing a psychiatrist and prescribed medication. You can change your thought process slowly over time if you're willing to put the work into it.
It's not complete, mind you, you still have to stay self aware, but I dont think anyone doesnt have that problem.
Levi Thompson
I got plenty of something I can give you, but it's more tangible than love or hate. I'm going to fill that ass up will all of it.
Ethan Hall
Look, is anyone going to give me what I want or not? I'm sick of the dancing around.
Josiah Anderson
Lol no.
Oregano is delicious.
Christopher Williams
The only autistic bpd guy i know pulls in egirls very easily. Makes them think that he loves them, but in reality is talking to like 15 other girls lol. He even gloats about it. Very deranged guy.
Caleb Perez
I don't know what that's supposed to make me feel.
Jace Morales
Oh, I would notice, how could someone not? You poor thing, life has been so hard for you, and nobody even understands. I would lament over your corpse, over the loss of SUCH potential just erased for no good reason. Woe to the world.
Christopher Collins
>tfw BPD >don't even like being a vindictive/over accommodating piece of shit because it's edgy, certain interactions throw your brain into that gear out of nowhere >conscious mind actually prizes independence, self-reliance, honesty, forgiveness and fairness >having literally no self-control because of how strong your impulses are Fuck brains
Jaxson Sanders
Have any of you spoken to Null.?
Cooper Smith
I'll fuck your brain after I cut open your skull.
Easton Lopez
Lol that's darker than anything I've ever done Thanks for making me feel less fucked up
Mason Reyes
What Originality woo
Luke Reed
>in an emotionally abusive relationship for 2 years >much time has passed >now crave the kind of treatment OP describes >being manipulated and dragged through emotional hell by someone who loves me feels comforting >open up about it to women >they all tell me I deserve a healthy relationship instead >tfw will never find true fulfilment in a consensually abusive gf
I... I just want to feel her fingers tightening their grip inside my head, bros
Blake Lopez
Every...everything you just said, is horrible. I don't want to do any of that. I'd just like a man I can split the rent with, so we have more money for cough medicine, and who could make me chicken soup if I get sick with Chinese flu.
Joshua Watson
I'm gonna armchair hard here but maybe you just want real intimacy, with completely dissolved boundaries? It always comes with fucked up stuff like that. "Healthy" relationships as they're advertised always come off as being so sterile. Although I think they don't have to be, you can have a healthy intimate relationship too, it's just a lot more difficult to define, and probably has no standard definition.
Adrian Phillips
>bpd girls are some of the only girls that excite me properly >I always fuck up and say something mean or inconsiderate that causes them to reeee >one of the best ones I tried to date blocked me cause I yelled at her >the others were completely bat shit and left me for other stupid reasons
>Talk to BPD femanon from here >great convos for a couple days, then suddenly ghosts >feel sad and guilty about it, but can't help but feel like I've dodged a bullet
And I'd probably just as enthusiastically pick up our conversations where we left off if she ever came back. It's good that she took things out of my hands before I got myself hurt. I'm a fucking simp.
someone told me that i may have bpd recently idk why though i just wanna be a normal person reeeeeee
Jayden Long
>>I always fuck up and say something mean or inconsiderate that causes them to reeee I'm curious. Did they openly tell you that you said something wrong, or did they ghost and you just assumed you fucked up? If you actually told you, what kind of things did you say to upset them?
Josiah Long
>send bf this list and asks if i do them >he says i do half of them >reveal that its a bdp checklist >after a pause he says it makes sense
You might be right, I dunno. If I had to give it my best armchair guess too, and without wanting to lower the tone of the discussion too much, I'd say I have a tendency to cope with trauma or negative emotion by fetishising it. That includes abusive tendencies. For example, I've learned to cope with rejection and feelings of inadequacy by getting a raging boner at the idea of a girl to whom I've professed my love telling me I mean nothing to her and that she only keeps leading me on because it's funny.
I'm just... Way too messed up in the head to ever be in a relationship again at this point.
Robert Hall
Yup me too. I also see a lot of the things that normal people think is normal or that should be written off as seriously offensive. Idk man, I try so hard to not be insensitive when I'm not in those fucked up emotional throes and it seems like no one else does most of the time. And then they act surprised when I react to that insensitivity because to them it isn't insensitive, it's normal. But even though I get aggressive and frustrated as hell what I'm looking for is reconciliation, but I can't have that if the other person doesn't even see the act of seeking reconciliation as valid. And I always take other peoples' grievances with me equally if not more seriously, which usually only serves to add to the neuroticism spiral.
Julian Perez
Question to BPD femanons: Does mirroring your emotional intensity help or make things worse? Like if you threaten to kill yourself, how does him threatening to do the same affect things?
Easton Adams
I yelled at the girl and she instantly blocked me. She also blocked me on snapchat like 30 minutes later basically said that screaming at her triggered her PTSD. This other girl just popped off at me and started accusing me of being a narcissistic, lying pyscho and etc
I can say I kinda deserved the second one,,,, I really fucked up big time on that. Also I'm still trying to move in with a bpd grill, that sounds based
Nathaniel Taylor
>Have any of you spoken to Null.? bump i need to know what happened to this person
Robert Lopez
Why are you posting about yourself? It's pathetic my guy
Lincoln Davis
I enjoy mutual screaming and yelling during arguments because it shows he cares about me and if he ignores me it just makes me madder.
Hunter Reed
If it's disingenuous, meant to manipulate or prove a point, I can smell that from a mile away and it increases frustration and anxiety If it's real though it instantly kicks me into sympathy gear and I start apologizing like crazy, even if I was actually right (which I then reflect on later and get mad about). The best way to counter BPD imo is to calmly articulate how that person is violating your boundaries, or hurting you, and appeal to the fact that they don't genuinely want to hurt you, but also while at the same time understanding the origin of their feelings instead of dismissing them offhand because their manifestation is messed up.
