Why do men always mistake kindness for interest? We act nice to everyone, you're not special.
Why do men always mistake kindness for interest? We act nice to everyone, you're not special
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>you're not special.
wow, that's rude.
s0 h0w to tell if interestd?
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I actually realised this a month ago when a girl i was talking to smiled to me but this time i stopped and thought "hey would you considered giving a smile an invation to fuck?" i said to myself "hell no" and now i don't know what to do while talking to women, help.
Because when you get no female attention at all, you incorrectly perceive any amount of interaction as interest. I used to think like this, and sometimes still do, but I suppress these feelings as I know no woman would ever be interested in me.
we don't get that much kindness we are not used to it
>We act nice to everyone
No you don't. I meet snotty cunts frequently, and it's more normal to be treated with neutrality. Don't go hugging everyone and maybe people won't be so confused.
Like ages ago my bf and I were in the grocery store and I was down the aisle quite a bit when this perfect 10 girl walked by. I mean like an ig model irl. He smiled at her and said good morning and she like rolled her eyes and then stared straight ahead. We argued about it like all morning. Like I seriously think if she smiled and said hello back to most guys they would take it as an invitation for further contact idk. I feel like when youre a certain kinda hot or a guy is a certain amount uglier than you you almost have to be bitchy. Idk I just imagine it would get really old having to shoot most guys down you wouldnt have the time or energy anymore to even be nice.
Im like a 6 at my absolute best and certain types of guys will still be that way with me. Idk why it still always catches me by surprise lol.
ive lost 80lbs over the past two years cuz i was sick of looking like a fat piece of shit and all the men in my life that i thought i was just friends with now think i want to fuck them even though i act the exact same around them its so tiresome
FUCK OFF FUCK OFF FUCK OFF FUCK OFF FUCK OFF CAN WE NOT HAVE ONE GOD DAMN SPACE TO OURSELVES????? WHY DO WOMEN HAVE TO CORRUPT EVERYTHING I FUCKING HATE YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
What happened snowflake? Do you want your safe space back? Boo hoo, now it's ours!
Holy based, Batman
Females can't be robots and need to get the fuck off this board before they get the rope
get raped you dumb as fuck whore
>We act nice to everyone, you're not special
It doesn't sound like you act nice to anyone.
YES I DO WANT MY SAFESPACE BACK I DONT WANT ANY FUCKING WOMEN ON MY GOD DAMN BOIARD!!!!!!!!!!!!! GET THE FUCK OUT NOW!!!!!!! I SWEAR IM ABOUT TO GO FUCKING BANANAS
Not hard to be polite and say you're not interested. If men can muster the confidence to talk to you, the least you could do is be direct and assertive with saying no. But you're fucking incapable of doing that because you love the attention, you feed off it, you need to keep it ambiguous because it gives you self worth. Don't be fucking surprised when men fucking hate you.
>Men always mistake "kindness" for interest
I wonder what was your kind behaviour that was mistook for flirt
>We act kind to everyone
Delusional
>You are not special
Are you suggesting that most people here DONT have autism?
>Why do men always mistake kindness for interest? We act nice to everyone, you're not special.
Most people are never kind to ugly men. So they get excited when someone is kind to them.
Well maybe we should feel more interest? Like, lower our standards and consciously repress our instincts towards hypergamy? Like really, at the end of the day, how much difference is three between Chad and the average robot, 3" of height? At the end of the day, both an alpha male and a beta male are going to be pretty much the same. They're gonna be bigger and stronger than you, they're going to be warm to snuggle against beneath a blanket, they're going to have a penis that probably doesn't hurt you when it's inserted, and they're both going to be able to give you a baby to raise and nurture so your bloodline doesn't die. Good. Enough.
I don't want to die alone at the age of 67 with a glass of wine in my hand, and then my cat eats me. I'm getting my shit together. I'm currently messaging three guys I wouldn't have given the time of day to last month, and yeah, I'm still assessing which one is the best prospect to be with to assure my comfort and safety, hypergamy is fucking compulsive, but I'm going to get me a man. Nothing like a fucking global pandemic to make me recess my place in life, and realize that I need a man for protection and provant. One of these boys is going to put a ring on my finger, preferably stainless steel or tungsten, and I'm going to move into his house and live with him because two can live as cheaply as one, and that's important to know when the fucking economy collapses.
If you had 2-3/10 women constantly approaching you everyday, you'd get annoyed pretty quickly.
>Why do men always mistake kindness for interest
When showing interest had an illegal undertone added to it.
>Why do men always mistake kindness for interest?
But I don't? Why do you feel I think you're interested in me anyway? Are you even fit and intelligent? Are you even flirting?
K. But what if I want this?
No I absolutely would not
This, I stopped talking to women entirely since I don't want to give them the wrong idea.
At least I would feel wanted.
Right now it feels like no one wants me and I have to reason to exist.
Because women should not be acting kind to strange men, unless interest was involved.
Femanons: I got drunk with a girl and she told me that she gets very touchy when she's drunk and needs someone to cuddle with while putting her head on my shoulder
Is she friendly or interested?
I think you are missing something OP. Men mistake their own sexual arousal as proof I am interested in them. They see me, their peepee twitches, so I must be interested in them.
Same goes for girls, too.
the problem is when you like a guy you also act nice and then wonder why he hasn't "caught on" when all you were doing is being kind and nice
Why do women always treat me like I've got a contagious disease keeping a safe distance away from me avoiding eye contact and not making basic pleasantries.
It's not kind to say hello how are you it's common courtesy to acknowledge somebody if you see them standing there.
I know I'm ugly and you don't want to fuck me but you don't pretend like I don't exist.
I have a theory but I don't know if I would've able to put it on words (at least english words):
As males we tend to not care so much about feelings, or at least that's how we want to been seen. Because of this we communicate with one another base on info and facts, we react in a rudimentary way among other males, yet we are in need of attention and feeling expression, it is when woman start to be kind with us that we unconsciously trigger to think "she endorse my feelings and she is nice to me, it has to be because I like her" yes, this is a very childish way to put it and still that's how we react. Those of use who get more easily driven by this idea are "the weakest" (meaning by that less emotionally balance), and those who can get woman more easily are those who know how to address their emotions and hers, it all sums it up to a gamble game of trust and reactions
You put it on simpler words
Because girls showing interest is something we still dont understand
Girls are at least half to blame for this when they flirt with guys just for fun when they're not into them. At a certain point you just have to go one of two ways: Assume any femoid that looks at you is into you, or assume that all femoids are not into you regardless of how "clear" they express interest
If that's really you, you are a fucking studmuffin. If that's some e-celeb I don't know about but you IRL look anything close to that, you are a fucking studmuffin. Don't let anyone tell you you aren't hawt, go out there, put yourself out, hit on the shy cashier at the grocery store and the shy bank teller, you *will* get the girl, eventually. You're a king, go and claim your queen.
I'm going to masturbate to that picture tonight, before I finally go to sleep. It's going to be good...
Ive honestly never misconstrued kindness for interest, the difference seems obvious. Do many men really do this or are you exaggerating?
>If you had 2-3/10 women constantly approaching you everyday
Are you admitting women only view 20% of men fuckable?
>not being eternally paranoid of women
Don't be a fucking idiot. Every single conscious being in this universe is out for themselves, bar none. There is no such thing as love, nor a friend. Don't get memed. Secure the fucking bag and stay blasted 24/7. Keep your head on a fucking swivel.
Look at the average man, my dude. Literally how are they attractive?
>thinking the girl that said hi to you at school would be your gf one day
>getting a crush on the waitress who was nice to you, seeing her name on the receipt, and stalking her social media
Imagine that most other animals of the same gender as you easily see 2 unique cocks every week. Just understand how easy it is to get some attention from men if this is the state of the world. Now imagine that one of those animals is here instead of sucking cock right now. Either those are trolls or 10 times the failures any incel is. Imagine being here instead of going out with a dude when the game is stacked so incredibly in your favor.
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Do not be kind. Better yet, stay the hell away from me unless you are willing to fuck.
the same way the average woman is attractive; small features and qualities that you may find personally endearing
>sometimes chuck laundry in washing machine and forget about it due to being away from room for several days
>return and lady has chucked it in the dryer and folded it up for me
>has happened several times now
low key hoping it's a secret admirer, but totally okay with her just being nice also.
Because "NICE GUYS" think that their kindness is all it takes to get into your pants. They can't imagine genuinely being nice to someone without the ulterior motive of sex so they project that onto you.
Because most guys don't receive kindness at all (specially from girls), they are treated like expendable drones by society.
Women should marry a man. A married woman should be escorted by her husband or other relative when she travels outside. Islam is right about women.
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because nobody is nice to me
>t. thinks the waitress is into you because she smiled when she spoke to you
>why do people who are usually outright ignored by all women at best assume that when women act nicely towards them that it signals interest?
Hang yourself you fucking roast beef whore.
It's not kindness that causes this, it's lying. Women lie all the fucking time if the lie is nicer to someone's feelings, which sends mixed signals that indicates interest.
Men should be separate from woman as much as possible
Since men commit a vast majority of violence and crime they should be the ones left to suffer more from this arrangement.
I purpose underground tunnels that link buildings that men must travel through. They would work on different floors or in male exclusive offices and buildings. If a man needs to shop he must do so online or schedule pick ups from brick and mortar handed off by another male employee only.
If a man is in a restaurant for example and a female entered he should be requested by staff to leave or possibly offered a smaller seating area in a male only section of the restaurant.
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>We act nice to everyone
But why do women always think I want something from them if I treat them with kindness? I treat everyone the same way.
It's because most guys have very little interaction with girls and receive next to no compliments. So if a girl gives the slightest compliment, a guy will remember it for a long time. It's not the girls fault, it's just that guys tend to be scared of approaching girls and girls don't approach them by nature. So when any girl shows them attention they immediately think it must be some sort of interest.
I never confuse interest because i never expect it. Now fuck off this board f*moid.
Hey man I agree that the post is worded a bit sarcastically but no need to insult them jeez.
don't trust the woman user! She could get you into all kinds of tricks and tie ups!