R9k, why do guys save nudes?

Every guy I have ever asked about this (around 7 or 8) says that yes, they do save nudes of either past girlfriends, flings, crushes, etc, even after it's ended and they aren't interested in the girl at all anymore. Why is that?

>is it like some sort of weird conquest collection, even if you never had sex?
>is it really for fap material?
>does it boost your ego?

So anons:
>do you keep nudes that you have gotten? (either from e-thots, as a catfish, from past gf's, etc)
>if so, why do you keep them?
>what would you do if someone close to you found out you keep them all?

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never had a gf or anything like that and i save hentai not 3DPDs
the occasional 3D i save is either funny for some reason or cute
hentai goes to the folder because it either looks amazing, is drawn very good or is cute
i dont even fap to the stuff i save, i just save it because i liked the picture/gif/webm

is this enough for your survey pajeet?

I don't keep them intentionally. Sometimes I forget they're still on my phone but I don't bother looking at them. Mainly because I don't give a shit about women I've already fucked and could just watch porn if I wanted to see naked whores

Do you look at that suff later on?

I found that I actually never look at it again, then I delete it, regrett deleting it and it starts a new.

My current boyfriend has kept every nude that every girlfriend has ever sent him. He says he doesn't look at them, that he just keeps them to remind him that those girls fucked him over, and that he would delete them "for me" if I asked him to, but I'm not about to be a controlling bitch and make him delete them, and he knows that. Is he playing me?

If I really loved them then I delete them because I can't bear to look at them anymore or I delete it if I respect them and feel bad. Also I don't like having shit saved for a long time it's messy and I'm not a coomer

>is it like some sort of weird conquest collection, even if you never had sex?
In a way, yeah. It's hot as fuck that a woman degraded herself for your pleasure. The nudes are a trophy of that fact.
>is it really for fap material?
Absolutely. Because of the mental aspect mentioned above, it's so much hotter than fapping to random women I don't know on the internet.
> Does it boost your ego
Somewhat. It's less important than the above points though. In general you've seemed to have hit the nail on the head with these assumptions.

> my bf has his exes photos too
theyre on imgur somewhere.
i think it would be good to delete if they were in a folder or somewhere accessible because that's quite gross.
but i know he doesnt look at them and theyre not in the way or anything.

what bothers me the most is not nudes but he has some photos of him and his ex in decorated pages under his bed. they were gonna make a photo book.
i asked him why he doesnt throw them away and he said it was a part of life and he doesnt want to edit it out for my comfort. he says he has a bad memory and that he would be glad to have them someday.

i believe him when he says he doesnt care about his ex and doesnt look at the photos
but it bothers me that her face is still physically in his room somewhere

It's definitely just fap material.

My current gf saw some of the old nudes I had of girls (not necessarily gitlfriends, mostly just girls I've sexted with). She's weird though she thought it was cool af.

This whole issue just makes me really uncomfortable in general. I hate the fact that my boyfriend still has many nudes if a past girlfriend that he dated seriously right before me (a girl who is considerably more attractive than me, to be honest) and I also hate that any photos I have sent a serious boyfriend that I loved and trusted at the time might still be out there, and others on the internet or his future girlfriends might have seen them. I'm literally disgusted, why the fuck are some guys like this. Mutual respect doesn't exist.

>do you keep nudes that you have gotten? (either from e-thots, as a catfish, from past gf's, etc)
Yeah.
>if so, why do you keep them?
They were sent with the explicit purpose of turning me on. I suppose it's an ego thing.
>what would you do if someone close to you found out you keep them all?
Pretty sure everyone who's sent them to me knows I kept them.

Deal with it bitch. Men aren't changing because it makes you uncomfortable. Think about how robots bitch about women in the same manner and do some introspection.

>think about how robots bitch about women in the same manner
Exactly. And yet...you don't see anyone commenting
>deal with it bitch
The seethe here is insane, I'm laughing so hard right now. Thanks user, I needed that one

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Yes he's playing you. He'll do the same thing after you break up and keep your nudes. The last guy who said something like that to me ended up being a cheater, I'd delete these contacts for you if you asked uwu, but then I said no because I didn't want to be controlling. My mistake, he should have deleted them. Your bf still looks at those pics, if he respected you he'd delete them on his own instead of placing you as his mommy telling him yes or no. If you tell him yes he'll throw it in your face later. If you tell him no then you'll know he still looks at his naked ex-gfs. Shit situation.

I fucking hate nudes.

Only two women have sent me nudes and it made me loathe both of them.
Like bitch, if I wanted to see some pixelated tits I could find ones better than yours online, fuck off.

a girl has never sent me nudes, but if that did happen i would definitely save them. it's some type of conquest "yea, i did that" thing. i would only delete them if i got a girlfriend, i wouldn't want her to stumble upon something like that and think i'm cheating on her or that i'm reminiscing about old times, that's just a shitty thing to do and i would expect her to delete shit like that too.

i can really relate to your feelings of being uncomfortable and disgusted

it's made me feel a bit horrible
> my boyfriend says my thinking isn't trustworthy because i have an irrational and crazy view of his ex. this is why he doesnt respect my wishes for him to throw away the pictures.
though i think it is a normal request from a partner.
(i have directed a lot of negative feelings towards her because she cheated on him, stole his personality, ignored him at a hard point in his life and then went on to cheat on a bunch more people from Yas Forums despite being quite fat)

unlike your issue, i have become quite insecure that she is considerably less attractive than me because i dont want to be in the same league of women.

if she was more attractive or a better person, i think i would respect his past choices more. but i still wouldnt like him keeping photos

if he got rid of the photos it would just put my mind at ease.

i dont have any pictures from any of my exes and im glad that way.

just tell him in a non-hysterical way that you are not comfortable with him saving lewds of his past gfs. just straight up tell him "would you feel comfortable if you saw all the dick pics from my ex-bfs?"
if he doesn't understand then he doesn't care about you

Exactly, I've always deleted everything, even normal photos (like selfies) with my exes, whether it ended badly or not, because that chapter of my life is over. Not that i'll never remember it, i always will because every relationship is important to me, but needing a visual reminder of that, let alone a naked picture, is so sketchy to me.

That sounds like an even worse situation than mine, I'm sorry you're going through/went through that, user. If he's truly into girls like that, or was in the past, that's obviously a big red flag, as I'm sure you already know.

I have done exactly that, said exactly the same thing haha. Me and my boyfriend have had this conversation several times throughout our 2-year relationship. And every time he says that he understands where I'm coming from, that he absolutely would hate it if I had saved nudes/dick pics in my phone. And yet, he still hits me with the "I will delete them if you want me to" even though I've told him I am obviously creeped out and uncomfortable by it, he still puts me in the shitty situation of commanding him to delete them. He still has them all to this day.

yea that's a planned answer. the end goal of that is to make you feel bad for asking him to delete them, he's kind of shifting the responsibility onto you to weasel his way out of it, because you're now worrying about how he would perceive you if you asked him to delete it.
narcissists do stuff like this.

>"I will delete them if you want me to"
This is the most blatant lie in the book. He won't actually delete them. Not a chance in hell.
This user is absolutely correct.

That actually makes a lot of sense. He has several other strong narcissistic personality traits. Fuck.

just tell him to delete it. if he gets pissed off then you know he's full of shit.
honestly, he probably has them backed up somewhere where you won't be able to find them (if he has half a brain, at least)

my dads a narcissist so i know the mind games, and honestly i have a bit of narcissistic traits myself but i'm kind of aware of them. if i wanted to i could play mind games like that, so i know how to recognize one

I only keep (or kept, seeing as my current gf didn't like it) them because it boosted my ego and I'm a narcissistic fuck
not to fap, honestly didn't even get me horny to look at them, but then again it's not like just looking at naked girls does it for me, I need much more than that

and I obviously didn't or never wanted to hide it from anyone, all the girls that have 'been' with me knew about this and all either asked me to delete them once it was over or flat out said it was fine for me to keep them because that was boosting their own self esteem

it seems to me he isn't making a commitment that he expects to last going forwards. if it's not worth it to him to lose some visual reminders.
i wouldnt want my pictures to be kept by my exes. especially the ones in a sexual context. your boyfriends actions show he'll do that with you if you ever break up.

putting the decision on you is obviously a bit manipulative. but even if you dont want to be the one to make the decision, at least you can get the outcome you want.

if i were you i'd just tell him that you have expressed what would make you more comfortable, but that you dont have control over his computer. ultimately it is his decision. and you just have to hope that he makes the right choice for the sake of your relationship.

actually, if you want to see if he's really a narcissist do this, turn the whole thing around on him. tell him "i'm not going to ask you to delete them, but if you love me you will"
if he gets mad at that, he's a narcissist.

It's an ego booster for me,
Also I still love every single women I ever dated in a nosgitia sort of way. It would be like you keeping old love letters or something. I never look at the photos though, like maybe once every 3 years for long past gfs. The guys that look a lot are coomers

It's literally just trophies in my trophycase. To remind myself, yes, I did that. I got those. At one point in time, this girl liked me enough to send me these.

lol i wont convince you but i can tell you, i have honestly moved on. it's the same feelings as for any of my old friends. i have dealt with my feelings.
why do you assume that everybody functions the same as your own experiences.

really only got nudes from one girl, like hundreds, and she ghosted me which kinda broke me for a minute, i deleted all her nudes because i was mad and hated her and i knew even if i spread em it'd be what she wanted because she sent everyone nudes anyway, so i said fuck it and now I'm the only one that will see those nudes. i regret it big time because i would like to fap to them sometimes I'm more or less over the pain she caused but not the frickin boner

>why do you assume that everybody functions the same as your own experiences.
That's how people relate to the world around them. You can't assume that the world functions according to things you don't know. That gets you nowhere. You can only base reality off of what you've experienced. It's not far-fetched to imagine that intense feelings don't suddenly disappear. You smother them so that you can move on. People intensely pair bond with each other. Love provides some of the most intense feelings a person can experience. It's realistic to assume that you don't just remove those feelings from your mind. You avoid the thoughts as best you can and let time bury them in hopes that you never find them again.

>i have dealt with my feelings.
Yes, I know. That's what I've been describing. How you've compartmentalized them in such a way that you can't feel them anymore.

>lol i wont convince you but i can tell you, i have honestly moved on.
>lol
Clearly you aren't comfortable with what you're saying. Wonder why that is?

All my past nudes are passwords zipped on my archive drive. If you are finding his nudes he is soppy and low tech iq and you should upgrade to chad nerd bf.
Just remember it has nothing to do with you.
And yes you are selfish for asking him not to have a life before he met you. Thats not narressitic. Youve only been dating two years, what if you broke up? Then he would have no memories of his life. He doesnt need to show them to you though.

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This
Unless
Is a female poster. Females dont feel love

> People intensely pair bond with each other. It's realistic to assume that you don't just remove those feelings from your mind.
It's not actually. It's human nature to be serial monogamists. It would be realistic to assume that people move on. People come and go from our lives and it's natural that feelings depart too. Do you see many married people that are still hung up on their exes from high school?

> You can't assume that the world functions according to things you don't know. That gets you nowhere.
lol, yes you do absolutely have to assume the world functions according to things you dont know.
you cant genuinely believe that you know all the reasons things function the way you do. that would be very stupid

> you've compartmentalized your feelings in such a way that you can't feel them anymore.
no i havent. when i said 'processed' i mean i've dealt with them in a healthy way. I've been heartbroken, grieved and then processed those feelings in a human way. i am not in love with exes. they have crossed the horizon.

> Clearly you aren't comfortable with what you're saying
another wrong interpretation. you're not a very good judge of character

It's clear that you embed and obsess over your broken feelings, and i think that's unhealthy and unusual.

>It's human nature to be serial monogamists.
Human nature predates the concept of monogamy. Monogamy is a construct that developed alongside society in order to aid in the construction of civilization. Human nature with respect to relationships is a lot darker than serial monogamy. It's not in your favor to argue down this vane.

>lol, yes you do absolutely have to assume the world functions according to things you dont know.
There is always an implicit assumption of general uncertainty. You base your judgements on what you know and the degree of confidence you have in what you know. I'm not going to assume people function in a way that I entirely don't understand. I'm going to assume that my own experiences approximate the general experience of others with some amount of error. I'm comfortable being partially wrong, but I also know that I'm partially correct.

>you're not a very good judge of character
It's not a character judgement. When people preface a statement with "lol" it's a clear indicator that they feel emotional about what they're about to say. It's a bizarre subversion of the words original meaning that unintentionally signals insecurity.

>It's clear that you embed and obsess over your broken feelings, and i think that's unhealthy and unusual.
I have felt terrible over broken feelings. Break ups are absolutely terrible. That's entirely besides the point though. All I've ever intended to say was that those feelings are still there and are still real. You don't remove them, you simply learn to live with them. To pretend you no longer have the feelings at all is to lie to yourself.

>I have felt terrible over broken feelings. Break ups are absolutely terrible. That's entirely besides the point though. All I've ever intended to say was that those feelings are still there and are still real. You don't remove them, you simply learn to live with them.
You wouldnt learn to live with all bleeding wounds you've ever received. Things heal over and so do emotional bonds once they're broken.
This isn't pretending that the feelings never existed, things are stitched back together and the hole closes.
> this is what healthy emotional processing is.

i dont save nudes
i dont ask for nudes
if i was randomly sent nudes by a chick i was dating i'd probably bail
i know what you look like we fucked yesterday, curb your damn libido

I have never received a nude so I wouldn't know.

No I'm not bitter about it, why do you ask?

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>every time I hear "my girlfriend/wife is totally OK with [degenerate act]" so many alarm bells go off in my head

>You wouldnt learn to live with all bleeding wounds you've ever received. Things heal over and so do emotional bonds once they're broken.
And during this healing process a person can face the blunt reality of what just happened or they can lie to themselves and make excuses. Emotional processing requires facing hard feelings and not running away. It's very easy to convince yourself of a lie and skip over this process. The people who immediately jump into a relationship right after one ends are doing exactly this.

>i dont love any of my exes at all
After everything you've said, this is still just as much a lie as it was when you first said it. A healthy person who reflects on past relationships will see why they loved a person that they've loved in the past. That fond memory is a form of love for that person. The aspects you loved are inseparable from that person, even after the damage. And the aspects of yourself that loved them are inseparable from you, no matter how deep you bury them inside your mind.

Lmao nice bait, original fish dish

>A a person can face the blunt reality of what just happened
>you lie to yourself and make excuses
that's what has been done, your insistence on my 'lying' makes no sense. You have only your sparsely informed assumptions to inform this

>Emotional processing requires facing hard feelings and not running away.
it seems from what you say like you've been cycling over and over your own feelings which is essentially running away, though within a hamster wheel.

>i dont love any of my exes at all
>After everything you've said, this is still just as much a lie as it was when you first said it.
so it's still not a lie then

>A healthy person who reflects on past relationships will see why they loved a person that they've loved in the past.
it is possible to 'see why' you would have fallen in love with a person in the past, whilst recognizing that those feelings don't exist anymore.
>That fond memory is a form of love for that person.
with this, your basic definition of love is proven to be very weak. those feelings you describe are called nostalgia, not 'love'

>The aspects you loved are inseparable from that person
they absolutely are separate from that person.
you can say 'i like this aspect' without liking the person.

> And the aspects of yourself that loved them are inseparable from you
the aspects of yourself that 'love' can be removed from a particular person or object. no matter how deep you bury them inside your mind.
they wither away and they grow somewhere else. time moves and feelings shift, how can you still deny this?

It's like you're trying to convince yourself that people behave the same way as you to validate the persisting feelings you have when the truth is you are unable to move on like a healthy person.

>the aspects of yourself that 'love' can be removed from a particular person or object. no matter how deep you bury them inside your mind.
>they wither away and they grow somewhere else.
Nah. I'm with on this one

What type of alarm bells?

They're a trophy of your conquest.

why is this hard to understand? You had a thing with a girl so you like her body. Breaking up doesnt change that.

on what exatctly

"Hung up on" is different than nostalgic for kid.
Most women dont feel love, what they feel is attachment, so when they lose the attachment they lose the feeling. That is very far from loving someone for who they are. Women can feel abandonment when still attached but the person is gone, which is very different. Explains your thinking of love as "hung up on" for women it's about the relationship, you dont really care about the man as a person and if they are doing well or badly. This is even true with your current boyfriend, you care about the relationship, not the person, and not how they are doing unless their material or spiritual betterment improves the relationship somehow.

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Nice, keep those nudes coming, user

I have low quality photos from a fucking flipphone from 2008 and half of them shes not even naked
Its because we liked you once, I have a school photo from my first gf who wrote a message on the back, you want me to go through your fucking shit and bring up questions about odd numbered pairs of hairclips and shit you left at guys houses and shit!? hmm?

please post more, shes amazing, dump what you got

On what exactly you were replying to.
> That fond memory is a form of love for that person. The aspects you loved are inseparable from that person, even after the damage. And the aspects of yourself that loved them are inseparable from you, no matter how deep you bury them inside your mind.

May as well share the nudes.

Yes. Some libcuck I know actually deletes them after the relationship is over. kek he always regrets it.

>why do guys save nudes?

So I can look at a girl I like naked and jack off to her.

>what would you do if someone close to you found out you keep them all?

I keep real nudes girls send me backed up on lots of throwaway email addresses and external harddrives so no woman can ever force me to get rid of them. I would only delete them if I truly believed I was in a relationship that would last forever, but I know better women are too flaky and whorey to stay put.

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Yeah I keep them all, usually in pw archives. No way I am ever going to erase any of that, good to remember how much they once claimed to love me and wanting to be only mine at that time and what little that sort of promises turned out to be worth a few months or years later.
Very good reminder to keep it real when they next girl claims she loves you and talks of marriage and kids.
Also going to be a good fap in the retirement home.

lol get off this board you whore. Go suck his dick.

>it seems from what you say like you've been cycling over and over your own feelings which is essentially running away, though within a hamster wheel.
>You have only your sparsely informed assumptions to inform this
I'll just use your own quotes to respond to you. Not that this is relevant to our discussion, this is just amusing to me. The only time I've claimed you were a liar was when you said "I don't love my exs at all". The rest of it is all general explanation and not commentary aimed specifically at you. It's interesting that you're so defensive about it though.

>with this, your basic definition of love is proven to be very weak.
Not at all. Love is more complex than your emotional investment in your current relationship. You've loved this person in the past. In reliving those memories and empathizing with your past self, you can still feel some of that love. No one else but you can feel that. It is a unique bond between you and that person that embeds itself in both of your conscious lives. That's what I mean when I say the aspects you loved still exist in that person. You have so much tunnel vision for the present moment. Your memories fundamentally define you as a person; your past still lives on indirectly through them. Feelings don't "wither away", they coalesce into a simpler form. That is unless you legitimately lose your memory, but that's clearly not what we're talking about.

For a morbid thought experiment, consider that your current partner just died and you take a vow to remain a widow (I realize you aren't married). There is no present person for you to love anymore. How do you reconcile your view of love with this? You still love them through the memories you've shared. Through what defined them as a person and the moments you've shared. I argue that through this same mechanism you still love all of the people that you've loved in the past.