>30 years old, never had a gf, never been validated
>99% people have no idea how bad this is
>you're too depressed to get anything done
>people tell you to enjoy hobbies and work
>they don't understand that the only worthwhile thing in life is validation and companionship - because they themselves have that
The only thing that makes me feel any better is knowing at least you guys will never know how bad this feels. I'm taking the bullet for you.
If you find a bee that can't fly, you kill it as an act of mercy. This is because you know that a bee will never have a meaningful bee life without being able to fly and work for its community. It would only suffer meaninglessly.
So why is it that when a man is 30, a virgin, without a fulfilling job and relationships, we just tell him to keep going at it and refuse to let him die?
>the only worthwhile thing in life is validation and companionship
This is absolutely true, but ask yourself: Validation for what? Companionship over what? You'll find that the answer, in both cases, is "activities, passions, and hobbies other than seeking validation and companionship." It's a harsh truth, but people don't want jack shit to do with you if you don't have some level of independence, some basic ability to enjoy life alone. It has to be this way; If our species evolved to just lust over each other constantly for its own sake, well, we would obviusly be extinct.
If you're implying that you have to have an interesting life before attempting to mate, you should realize that most women have no interests beyond eating and netflix.
I have my own company and life is still miserable because I can't get friends or a gf.
Yes, I have my own company and it does not get me laid.
If you're implying that men and women are held to the same standards, you should realize that they aren't. Again, evolution explains this. Women construct the babies inside of them for 9 fragile months at a time. Men provide food and safety. Therefore, men must demonstrate drive and abilities. Women must demonstrate tits and ass and other fertility signals. Unfair, yes, especially now that we no longer live in jungles. But evolution has progressed slower than technology.
What does your company do? How many employees do you have, how much revenue, located urban / suburban / rural or what?
>men must demonstrate drive and abilities
I've had a million hobbies from theoretical physics to boxing and I've still witnessed females go for some low IQ guy who prefers watching football and drinking beer.
My theory is that people mate with someone from their IQ range, and that's all that there is to it. Drive has nothing to do with it, if the other person feels alien to you.
The happy couple thing is a meme, you have to realize that. Most couples are happy together the first few month and then they stay together out of habit.
You can be happy alone, it's not easy to do but for example Buddhist monks have been found to be the happiest people on earth, and they don't have girlfriends
What I want most in life is to click and connect with another sentient being.
It's never happened and most likely never will. My parents are senile and I can't really share any real thoughts with them. They just ask me how I'm doing and I'm supposed to say fine.
I have nobody in my life to listen to me and really care. That's probably why I've stopped trying to succeed in life. Why would I work towards something stupid like a career if there's nobody to care? I don't care whether I'm rich or not. It's not like I have to impress myself.
>Most couples are happy together the first few month and then they stay together out of habit.
This is true, but you normal guys also can't understand the meaning of getting validated at least once in your life.
It's something like graduating high school: it stays and nobody can take that away. If nobody has ever thought you're good enough, it can eat you away.
30yo virgins don't kill themselves because they don't have interesting hobbies, it's because they feel their own species doesn't want them. It's a very deep, innate, instinctive feeling. Even animals sometimes commit suicide if they fail at mating.