Dating a girl and all she wants to do is hang out, which I don’t necessarily want to do. Think about ending it so I can be free to do as I please.
Imagine her dating someone else, and him cuddling up to her.
Instantly want to hang out with her.
Fuck me man. This must be an evolutionary thing pulling me to her to procreate, but why can’t I just be ok with being alone?
yeah
Bro legit r u me?
I want to break up with my GF, until I imagine this
the fuck does this mean
No you’re just a loser who is scared of not being able to find replacement pussy
>imagine her dating someone else, and him cuddling up to her
and then they'll continue to just hang out until something changes for her. Cycle continues and he posts on Yas Forums about the same thing
What do you truly want user?
Not true. I won’t elaborate but this is not the problem in this case.
It’s fucked up
I have been asking myself that same question, and so has she. I really don’t know. I wish I knew.
She has everything I want in a girl but smothers me a bit. God this is mental torture
you will feel this for a month and then never again. it sucks super hard but use it for gains and personal betterment. learn why this relationship failed and move on.
also learning how to be together is a skill learned through trial and error. if you're young, its no wonder. don't beat yourself up ho.
Stop making these shitty relationship blog threads on Yas Forums, you retarded faggot. Kill yourself.
I'm a young lad and my oneitis broke my heart about a month ago, I told her to fuck off and didnt contact her for only 6 days and she texted asking to get dinner. Why do women do this
Why don't you just ask her to not smother you?
She has everything you want in a girl? And you aren't going for it? What are you thinking?
If she still smothers you and only wants to hang out then it's best to let go dude. Don't waste your time, you will feel like poopoo for a bit and it will go away. You'll find that both of you have to work towards staying together, it's usually never one sided if it is long term
or you can just pump and dump, like most of fit will tell you
Somebody enjoys your company so much they want to spend as much time as they can with you.
You're advice to that situation is to dump that person out of your life? What the fuck is the matter with you. If your partner is dragging your attention away from things that you find important then tell her that. There's nothing wrong with being wanted around by your partner
Truth
>Dating a girl
>She likes me
>Thinking about dumping her for this reason
What's going through your head, are you sure you're even male? This is some weird stupid logic you have going on here.
become a christian man (baptist KJV only) and then get a virgin girl to marry
I’m about to be 30 and I’m concerned that I’m not “mature” enough to handle a relationship.
I’d rather spend my days working out, playing Videogames with my brother and getting occasional pussy. Actually sounds really pathetic when I’m forced to type it out like I just did.
But at the same time is it pathetic? What if it’s just what I like?
Am I misreading what he's saying then? He clearly wants to take things more seriously with her but all she wants is to just hang around. If he's told her and the answer is the same then why waste time? He's almost halfway out the door with "free to do as I please on his mind"
You're right, it's fucking pathetic.
You're 30, you should be able to handle a relationship, if you can't, there's something wrong with you.
I mean seriously, you are literally upset that somebody actually enjoys being around you? Maybe you're just so used to having people hate you that you think something is up.
If she's taking too much of your time, just say no and spend time with her when you would prefer, don't just be a simp and "yes honey I'll skip the gym for you"
I'm about to get shitted on for telling you this, but why don't you tell her exactly what you typed out, if that's how you feel, and then talk about it with her. Worst case scenario she gets offended and ends it, maybe insults you. Best case scenario you get this out of your chest, in real words, and you two gain something from dealing with your real feelings head on. Just what I think.
You're going to go through with this and wonder to yourself one day why you didn't take this chance. But do u.
It's ABSOLUTELY pathetic man!
There is a whole huge life out there waiting for you to tackle it! And if you dont tackle it it's going to come for you!
What's your meaning for being? Hedonism? Or do you want to strive to improve your life and in doing so the lives of those around you?
I read it as she constantly wants him around to "hang out" when he wants to be doing other things.
If it's an issue of him not having enough alone time to decompress then that's what he should talk to her about.
I don't think you should encourage people to let themselves be satisfied with video games and cheap relationships.
or maybe he wants something more than JUST a relationship
not everyone wants a traditional gf like you boomer
i miss my ex gf who always wanted to spend time with me. When just your presence and company makes someone happy, it makes you feel very fulfilled.
understanding theyre seeing other people, or witnessing it first hand, is very upsetting and difficult to get over.
Just my experience.
hey bro, i've had the same problem for a while now and just came to the realization "hanging out" with my girlfriend is boring because she doesn't want to do anything. It may be hard but if we can find girls that like the same things we do, we probably won't hate hanging out with them as much.
I have a good job, and am in pretty good shape (op pic is me). What’s wrong with a time wasting hobby like video games?
For the record I ageee with you, but that’s what the devil on my shoulder tells me
Just because society says I need a wife, does that mean it’s what I must do? Everyone I know who is married is unhappy, and I’m not even memeing
Realize that everyone has a natural inclination to project their own values onto you when you ask a subjective question like that. Do what makes you happy user.
this
you do you senpai
this is true, most girls just want to lay around and eat. makes you realize how pathetic and weak they are.
I am not at all. I am encouraging him to speak out his feelings. Even as he typed it out he admits it feels pathetic. How come he didn't think that before? Because he didn't type it out, he just thought that's what he wants. Now imagine if he has to say it out loud to the girl in question? It will have a more powerful effect. OP might make new realizations. It doesn't even have to be his gf, though that would certainly be a good choice. It could be his brother. He needs to think this out loud. I am in no way encouraging that he do anything besides have the fortitude to say how he feels out loud, to a real person. You think he will feel fine telling his girlfriend that he really just wants to play videogames and get cheap pussy? I don't think so. And I'm not trying to argue, I actually think it's great that there's people like you making sure retards like me are not bringing down guys on here and encouraging bad behavior. I just want to make it clear that I want OP to make good choices.
what games u play user
Look.
Straight up.
I don't know.
I can tell you that I think you're way of thinking right now is EXACTLY how you described it. "The devil on my shoulder". Do you want to listen to the devil? You're in a good situation right now, thats fantastic! Do you want it to get better, or worse?
If you aren't moving forward you are definetly moving backwards.
Also
>What's wrong with a time wasting hobby like video games?
>time wasting.
You described it yourself! Recently when I write a schedule for my day the first words I write are "I am going to die."
You're a dead man walking user. Your time is coming. Could be tomorrow, could be a year. It IS coming. What do you want to do with the time you have left?
Play games? Sounds sad when laid out like that, right?
Why don't you think of some things you would find fun to do then invite her to come with you?
If she doesn't come, still go! Go with a friend or two or alone.
You'll have a great time and she'll realize she missed out.
>date a girl for 2 years
>she dumps me
>have no motivation to get another girl
>all i want to do is fuck sluts and get my kill count high
am I an evolutionary failure? will fucking sluts ruin my gains?
Hey man, I am a retard too. I'm 100% on board your train of thought in terms of making him, or any of us for that matter, scour their minds to find out what they REALLY want.
You havent been hurt enough times to see the true nature of not caring. Your relationship is over in your head its already done. She will fuck other dudes. Your insecurity and protective natures kicking in an jealousy. This is why you dont date.
Is that REALLY all you want to do?
Been playing cod with friends from my old job, wow classic with my little brother, and cs go and PSO2 on my own. Also fucking around with runescape because I’m a massive jackass.
I appreciate you a lot brother. You’re helping me out a lot
Incredibly insightful
She’s actually really cool and played wow with me the other night after smoking some weed over FaceTime (cause coronavirus). Maybe I should just go for it with her and stop being a child
Thanks guys. I do appreciate all the advice
>Play games? Sounds sad when laid out like that, right?
Not OP but what's sad about that? I only play vidya occasionally but if that's what someone finds enjoyment in who are you or I to say it's not a worthwhile way to spend time. I mean seriously how do you want to spend your time? I can guarantee there is someone who thinks it would be a waste of time. All is perspective my friend.
>why do people change their minds
whatever happens you've got a lot of life ahead of you, God willing, just think of yourself 10 years from now thinking back to this very night and you will probably laugh. I wish you the best bro.
how old are you? this is pretty normal if youre 25 or younger
I wouldn't say "All is perspective".
It depends entirely on the motivation behind why you are doing something. Regarding OP he has already described it as pathetic which implies he has, deep down, felt that way for at least a little while.
If you are doing something you regard as pathetic, wouldn't you want to stop?
I know when I play vidya with a friend it's much more meaningful then when I play alone.
Same, but she told me she is gonna move in 3 months, so I told her I'm gonna see other women eventually. She looked like I fucking slapped her. Like bitch half the fucking time you just drive me around and I'll maybe get a few kisses at the end. I have fucking needs. But she said she fully supports whatever I do, will probably still just be friends with her for a bit longer to see if she changes- but I already have 2 numbers and two other chicks talking to me so I'm not too worried.
are you me as well? this shit got me thinking.
>girl texts me every day
>I respond only every now and then
>ignore her too long and she stops texting
>suddenly interested in her again
I'm sick of myself
It means you should break up with her. If that's the thing to keep you in, get the fuck out. Just rip the band aid of and free yourself, my nigga
>tfw I miss my fat gf again
she looked like pic related
Fuck this shit man. Been going through it for awhile now. Ideally id be able to break it off but i think ill stay with her and try to make it work, but if someone else comes along that feels like an upgrade ill go for it.
based. fuck relationships.
>missing unhealthy people without self discipline that look like cows
Use your neocortex, you fucking animal.
brehhhh her tits were juicy as fuck what can I say
I have the opposite problem and I think I'm too needy. What do I do Yas Forums?
Stop being a beta
Be someone who is worth putting up with.
Find ways to turn your neediness in to something healthy. Talk to your partner about it. Maybe all you need is a tight hug and a long kiss when you get home.
Elaborate, nigger.
Christ dude. Those MMOs are designed to waste your time. They are worthless. Yeah I enjoy playing video games with my buddies but spending so much time on them you can't host a relationship? Video games aren't real life. They are manufactured fake toys for mass consumption. Fix yourself, user.
I know I need to, but I have no idea how to.
I think I am someone worth putting up with. I don't have a body Yas Forums would be impressed by but I have the body of the young 20's mildly active gym going guy. Lots of people say I'm funny and I think I'm decently charismatic, and I think I have a pretty good personality, though I'm pretty neurotic. Dead average looking. 5'10" with solidly above average cock, but nothing pornstar sized. Girlfriend says I fuck her like her own persona pornstar, but I'm sure she's just flattering me. I'm very ambitious with a great career making lots of money. No real hobbies outside of exercising and video games though, but I'm trying to learn new things.
Still...I'm needy as fuck despite all this.
Nothing wrong with liking a cuddle man. Maybe you're insecure?
Its a natural response to fight off male competition.
Remember, we are like 99% chimp.