Untitled

My Dad died about 3 years ago now 6 feet from where I'm sitting. He was an alcoholic who retired early and never did anything with his life.

One day he asked my Mom who worked a really hard job to make shit money to stay home because he didn't feel well. It was the first time in years he had ever reached out for help, and he died the same day. Collapsed and fell in the hallway.

Going through his old stuff now, he had PSA cards graded and baseball cards..Man I collect cards too..Why were you just so emotionally not there for me man, what the fuck. We loved the same things.

Don't need them because I exercise.

My dad always bought us everything ,and he didnt really shout in fact he barely talked, he didnt wanna listen to us , he would ignore us if we told him something,it was great...

dont live with my parents like a lowlife piece of shit

It's very hard to learn to connect emotionally with people. I've made a lot of progress by talking to strangers and asking them questions, etc., but this is extremely hard to do if you're naturally introverted and currently suffering from depression. And even when you feel more comfortable connecting to strangers, where it's ultimately harmless if they reject or ignore you, it's even harder to transfer that to connecting with loved ones.

I don't blame your dad, though it is very sad that he didn't overcome these barriers. But you can. It's not an automatic or inevitable thing. Even recognizing that it's possible to emotionally connect with people is a big step.

your pic is hilariously accurate. But if you're on the receiving end of that, be grateful. He's putting in effort, which is more than many fathers do. Also keep in mind how he was raised. He's had very little to model his efforts after.

Dont beat yourself up for his mistake

Thank you anons.

What is your dad supposed to do, or what do you wish he did, when you're depressed anons?

you are all weak men
"whaaaaaaaa daddy im so sad whaaaaa pay attention to me, im such an attention whore i need to go into my room and cry whaaaaaa"

Attached: tuxpepe.jpg (10x10, 689)

When I was little my parents would always yell at me for being sad or low energy. If I ever tried telling them I have problems they'd tell me I'm a stupid kid and can't have problems, they're the ones with real problems, which I guess was true. I couldn't even fathom the concept that some kids out there actually turn to their parents for support rather than try their damnest to hide away from them, when I saw that as an adult.
Now I'm an 'adult' and just pretend I'm doing university work so I can shut myself in the room, I can't wait to be out of this damn house.

haha dad that hide and seek game was a long time ago, you can come out now!

Ok maybe nows the time to ask: What the fuck happened to the /sig/ wiki + threads? I haven't been to Yas Forums in months and it's suddenly gone?

Hits close to home, my dad would do exactly these things when I was depressed in my teenage years and early 20's.

>men need to open up and talk about their feelings
>father clumsily tries to talk to kid during a depressed episode. Tries anyway because he cares
>make fun of him for it
I hate reddit

My dad was the same way for many years. Great guy, always heard his voice when I told myself to do better but that wasn't what I needed to get out of my miserable NEET lifestyle. Although recently, he's changed to be more supportive of making small daily progress over "just tough it out". His best friend, the one he visited every day for 20 years, committed suicide so I believe that shook up his entire view on life.

Attached: 1582719995484.png (911x911, 953.07K)

My dad wasnt really around. Divorced my mom, but he would still make the effort to call me and visit (lived in another country). Every time he visited, about once a year, he would stress the importance of working hard and doing well in school.

I've never really been depressed, but there were a few times I didnt work as hard as I should have and it disappointed him. After graduating college, and establishing a high profile career, the way he bragged to his brothers and friends was priceless.

I really have to thank him for putting the extra effort to be in my life.

>literally can't be depressed because my father will force me out of bed to eat breakfast every morning
shit

Jesus, bros, I posted the meme because I thought it was le funny and to piss "go back"ers off, but now you are telling me that you relate and now I feel bad.

Attached: thumb_sad-apu-36099617.png (200x232, 13.94K)

>dad

Attached: 1578961286951.jpg (900x600, 87.75K)

>tfw didn't grew up with a father
Fuck you user

Attached: 1577735330540.jpg (890x1024, 129.15K)

>and early 20's.
How and when did you stop being a manchild?

Kinda related
>emotionally and socially student by fucky childhood
>kinda making it, almost done with uni, have a qt gf, a good internship, but I have to try hard to do normal things that I feel like other people do naturally
>gf literally has to coach me on how to behave in professional environment and social situations
>detached from everything and constantly emotional
I think it's all gonna be okay though

Attached: 1582232888925.jpg (582x329, 19.83K)

fuck, stunted*

>>gf literally has to coach me on how to behave in professional environment and social situations
>>detached from everything and constantly emotional
How the fuck did you get a girlfriend who wanted to be with an overemotional man whose behaviour she has to coach?

nigger?

based and no-dad-pilled
me too :(

Don't user he's just at the grocery store he'll be back :'(

is this some >immisunderstood lereddit meme?

She doesn't see the overemotional part. I can't speak for why she coaches me, it's actually pretty frustrating because these gaps in my social behavior make me feel like she sees me as a child sometimes. At least I can shake hands and make eye contact.

That's in the movies. Irl they don't give a shit.

>At least I can shake hands and make eye contact.
You should really only start to genuinely worry when other adults think you're actually autistic/aspergers and start running circles around you

> fucky childhood
Yas Forums users in a nutshell. At least you're trying to improve though user.

>he doesn't have 3 dads
ngmi
t. 3 dads master race

why you gotta make me feel emotions and shit man fuck you and your bullshit

sorry long post anons

> my mom married a dead end with no education
> literally dropped her bioscience job in a hospital to move across the country to a poor as fuck jobless area and settle with him there
> doesn't work anymore, he works a dead end factory job
> they have me and my brother there in an impoverished part of country with pretty much no peers to grow up with
> parents far too laissez faire borderline neglectful
> no skills taught by parents, mom went away to work in a different country as a carer to provide for us while dad works dead end job
> often spend days alone with brother, he ends up becoming abusive, denies me food, sometimes beats me up
> my dad also starts being abusive towards my brother which may spur him on more to me
> at some point mother comes back to live with us but the family is terrible
> we move across to a different country to escape poverty
> dad continues to work dead end jobs while mom is a carer
> my brother continues being a piece of shit, starts stealing my things
> I'm now 13 and become a massive shut in due to lack of childhood peers and my brother's abuse, spend days playing vidya and get bullied at school
> parents know how bad my brother is for me but don't do anything
> mom starts getting abused by brother as well, dad won't even protect her,
> punch my brother once when he threatened to steal my bicycle
> bloody his nose but he's 4 years older so when he hits me back I'm down
> parents don't do anything, my dad and brother hate each other with passion but my dad is too much of a worthless boomer to do anything about it
> get accepted into a physical therapy degree
> taunt my brother into attacking me with scissors to get him arrested and he gets deported
> finally can't come back home and I can go off to uni knowing at my least my mother is safe
> fast forward to now, graduating this year
> feel bitter resentment to my parents for the shit childhood they gave me and how they let my brother abuse me

Attached: vivec.jpg (960x960, 83.91K)

didnt read lol

>He was an alcoholic who retired early and never did anything with his life.
Sounds based to me

My dad:
> spends his entire career hoarding money and giving conflicting signals of financial security and scarcity
> barely know the fucker, even now
> chokes me when i "waste his time and money"
> tells me i need to work hard so i can fuck off
> but i'm also financially dependent on him
> repeatedly discouraged by him and my mom to work, because i need to prioritize studying, yet i can't get a job without work experience to begin with, so i'm still financially dependent on him
> sometimes tries to be too involved in my life, sometimes ghosts entire sections of it
> *confused screaming*
What's it like having a dad who gives a shit?
Once I become financially independent I will kill him in his sleep, try and convince me not to.

Attached: practice.jpg (700x420, 45.61K)

That's funny, because you sound bluepilled to me

> I've been lifting weights since 18, at this point bench 3 plate and squat 5
> start seeing a therapist for my depression
> really starts investigating my childhood and says if this happened in this country then I would have been taken away from my parents
> I decide to forgive me mother because she didn't mean badly, she is just an incompetent and a weak/passive person
> still feel disgusted with my father because he's a useless person and likely made my brother into the piece of shit he is
> never apologizes for anything or reflects on his behaviour, also cheated on my mother

I'm trying to pick up the pieces of my shitty broken family but I don't know what to do with it. I barely keep in touch with my old man and I quite strongly dislike him. I don't think I'd feel sad if he died. I don't think he even realizes what a worthless piece of shit he is

thanks

Attached: caius.png (600x1000, 1.13M)

who /chaddad/ here
>ask your mother
>*shadow boxes you in the hallway*
>"finish your homework and we'll toss the football"
>never mad unless you really deserve it
>always down for camping and fishing
>always building something
>always manages a great vacation/xmas/bday even when money is tight
>supports your interests

"door open or closed?"
I almost made it through without really laughing. Almost.

Piss off. You feel better now?

>dad tries his hardest but is overcome with his own crippling manic depression
At least you tried, pops

Attached: 1585575481490.jpg (500x375, 35.58K)

Not going to say it was all green grass and butterflies, but as a I grew up and understood more of my parents relationship, it got easier to understand his physical absence.

Definitely wouldnt recommend having ill feelings towards your father after you make it. If it's really that bad just cut communication, but once you're financially free from him its wasted brain activity being furious with him

all that would do is land you in prison. And since you have clearly premeditated this you're gonna go in for a very long time. If you have been killing animals and are a worthless psycho then i don't really care about your life, but if you kill him and go to jail then you've allowed your dad to ruin your life twice. Defeat him by being better than him.

The nuclear family is a scam to sell fewer people more things. Multigenerational households are where it's at.

Guys,,,, is /nodad/.... dare I say.... legit? I’m at around day 4000 of nodad and I’m feeling energized, I feel like being productive... I think it’s the emotion retention

> its wasted brain activity being furious with him
good point.

> Defeat him by being better than him.
faggiest phrasing but i get what you're saying.

>qt gf coaching and put up with you
You must be a good enough catch if she cares that much.