Just the post said, do you have a good relationship with your wife? (Not regularly fighting, regular sex, no resentment)
How do you do it?
Do you have kids?
How long married?
What routines do you have in your relationship?
I’m sure other anons wanna hear too. Sometimes, I have no idea what the fuck I am doing.
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>not regularly fighting
Wives will insist on arguing even if you're deployed overseas.
Yes even in everything is going fine they invite drama. Why? Are they bored? How as the man do you deal with this?
She got her legal pot card and my life has been much better since.
Well, to be fair, I've been with my gf for a decade. Thats common law marriage in some parts of the world. Anyways, we have had a great time thus far!
I put headphones on. Then she calls her sisters to bitch. Then eventually they get mad at her and reject her. Then she closes herself off in our room to cry and watch fat people lose weight on tv. Give her time she'll come apologize when she wants something from you.
First, find the right one. Must have common goals, must both really, really want things to work. You both need to be at a point in life where you have agency. If you are insecure or beholden to your parents or whatever regarding your life plans, you're going to have problems. Best if you are both redpilled and traditional, so you both see the truths of how life works and are focused on a life-long partnership. Must both believe that the family unit (the one you make with her) comes first. You've got to be patient and understanding. If someone gets bent out of shape, remain calm. If there is a disagreement, state your position calmly, listen to the other person. You've got to back each other up no matter what, right or wrong. if you're still at the stage in life where you'd rather hang out with friends, or think vidya is more important, you're going to have problems. I'm on my second marriage. I had a lot of those things I mentioned going for me in the first one, too, but I made mistakes. There were things about life I didn't understand yet. In between marriages I met a woman or too I was crazy about, but she just wasn't "the one". The One came along, only when I was relaxed, calm, felt I had agency. She chased me, wanted me, always wanted to be with me. She had her own life at first, her own agency, then we merged our lives together, merged our independent agency into one. We both work towards one goal, maintaining a rood over our heads, food on the table, a happy home life, and preparing for kids (admittedly quite late in life for me to have kids but I still want them). Stuff happens sometimes, but we just maintain perspective, admit our own issues, she admits she goes overboards, tells me she knows she is wrong but she can't help herself when she is angry. It blows over, she apologizes later.
We’re best friends in all aspects of life, the trick is to put her needs first every time, a mans job is to provide for his wife, whether that’s emotionally/financially/sexually doesn’t matter, as long as her needs are always before yours and you put what she wants as your first priority
Do you think they are just looking for the dopamine hit of attention? Deprive them of that and they shut up?
So what is your common goal, if I may ask? Electric Boogaloo?
What mistakes did you make in marriage 1? Mine just storms off and won’t engage in fights, then she stays angry until whenever. What do you do if they are stewing? Do you ignore it or do something else?
Oh, to answer one of your questions I forgot, we have been together for 6 1/2 years, married for 1 1/2 of those. I am 51, she is 31. I didn't seek that out, in fact she was outside my age range and she had to convince me it was ok. She is my best friend and I trust her 100% in all things. That is important. If you don't have that trust and don't want to be together more than anything, you're going to have problems.
Thanks for this post. How old are the two of you?
Yes. I'm convinced if they had real hobbies things would be better. But for a lot of women being a chatty cunt seems to be their only hobby.
Sexually dominate her and she will sit at your feet like a puppy dog.
>Wife
>Regular sex
Ha! Our common goal is to maintain a happy home together, take care of each other, and to eventually make a few white children.
This is how I would describe my relationship with wifey
We have kids, which is the hobby of a lot of mothers. Problem is that kids will take every second you’ve got to give them and she martyrs herself and wonder why she’s so exhausted. She also doesn’t set firm boundaries so they run all over her
Less than 30% chance you’re normal and successful as you are posting here asking for marital advice. Therefore, you probably married someone not normal or successful.
Operating under that assumption, you are going down two roads. Either you are good friends and compatible where you embrace your shitty life, or one of you becomes dissatisfied with their choice and falsely believes they deserve more.
Good luck with that!
this. it's what mistresses are for (note the present tense)
>doll baby in pram-thing.
looks a bit like hell desu
POO
Are you familiar with the Reborn Community?
What does she think of your CP-dolls?
If she is stewing, let her stew. If she wants to storm off, let her storm off. Keep cool. Speak calmly. "it's late baby, let's get something to eat and get some sleep" But be honest. "You know it hurts me when you storm off like that, I worry about you driving around angry so late" If she has an easy trigger, be calm first, let her cool off, and be honest a little later.
As for marriage number one, I didn't know that stuff, we argued, and we both lacked some agency and security. When you don't know how to handle life that well yet and you feel insecure, sometimes you end uop having stupid arguments over stupid things and getting all bent out of shape. But what really screwed us up was a combo of she had some serious depression issues, that she refused to acknowlege, and I was dealing with life changes (I was recovering from a long illness, and as I improved I needed her less in a nurse role and more in a let's be a couple role). And I ended up looking elsewhere for that sort of attention. Maybe I could have saved it later, when she tried to forgive, maybe not, maybe it's for the best, who knows. Another lesson: If you fuck up, acknowledge it. Own your mistakes. Don't lie to yourself or your partner. The past is the past now and I consider myself incredibly lucky to have a second chance to have an incredibly good marriage.
I think it’s down to a thing called “love”, OP. Unfortunately newfag millennial anons are unable to comprehend such things.
I’ve been married for 11 years in June. I’m 32 my wife is 32. We have two kids and we’ve been together since college, literally the second day. She chased me she wasn’t even my type. She was a virgin so I’m the only guy who’s gotten past second base with her. I think this helps me, I’ve been around other male friends when they find out another guy they know fucked their wife in college. It’s very awkward I wouldn’t deal well. Our relationship almost ended after our first baby I wasn’t a very good father and didn’t help with chores. I’m a dairy farmer on a family farm and the stress of working with family often gets taken out on my wife. She’s been a trooper. Recently I gave up smoking pot and got my CDL I got a part time job hauling milk. I almost doubled my income. This has really helped because it opened up new avenues of life opportunities for us, like paying off debt and saving for a house. Also make sure your wife has a hobby staying at home with the kids is better then daycare but your wife’s mental health will suffer. She and another women started going to the gym in the morning and it changed her life. But in short
Shared goals, independence, backing each other up, siding with her before parents, hobbies.
They're just regular dolls of which I would have rather bought PC parts, but my gf spends her money on what she wants.
Nah son
How do you do it? - We both go to the Orthodox Christian Church and practice it's marriage advice/pray together. We also agree to not yell or argue but to instead take breaks from each other when passions flare and then to talk about it gently. Also sometimes it's just better to take an L then to fight over seriously meaningless things.
Do you have kids? - Not yet but plan to.
How long married? - 6 years
What routines do you have in your relationship? - She works from home and I work 5 days outside. When I get home we meet at the door and hug eachother tight and she starts to cook dinner while I shower. Then we eat and talk for a bit before doing our own things for a few hours.
Every night we lay in bed for about an hour and either talk, watch youtube vids or stream a show and cuddle. We also take turns playing different games and either playing together or watching the other. Just seems like a nice way to share some good vibes.
Biggest thing OP is you both need to be open to realizing your own weaknesses. Mine was wrath (I'd get frustrated and hate to lose an argument) and hers was running away from problems without dealing with them. So we'd constantly have a cycle of I'd get mad at something and she'd lock herself away in a different room.
Fixed this by seriously working on controlling my snap reactions (gaining self control) and she worked on sitting down and working things out instead of being avoidant.
Lifes a struggle, work together and reap the rewards.
>speaks of love
>posts disgusting whore with pierced nips
Yup, it's a paki.