Cuck-Lyfe, BPD Fiancée

The mods aren't faggots about this, this thread doesn't belong here. Has nothing to do with politics whatsoever.

You’re not exclusively responsible for her happiness, she needs to play a part in her own development. And you really need a better reason to be with her than ‘she’ll self harm if I leave’.
Get rid of her. You’re not happy and you can’t be. She’s not happy and she never will be.

Leave her, if you keep staying with her you will just lose time. If you keep doing it your "RELATION" will just get worse and you will become unhappy, tell her to fuck, and if she kill herself, why you should give a fuck? Why you should prefer her happyness over yours?

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OP if I was in your position I would leave her and pray that she kills herself. In fact I'd probably say to her face

"You are a terrible human being, I am breaking up with you, please do your friends and I a favour and kill yourself."

It's not your responsibility

There's no such thing as BPD. All she needs is a good hard slap to the face and a child.

Ok, let's rephrase it: you aren't obliged to throw away your life to deal with someone else's mental illness. They do not have the right to hold you hostage in an unhappy relationship because "you're the only thing keeping me from killing myself"; that's their problem, not yours, and while you might CHOOSE to offer your help and dedicate yourself to them, you are not OBLIGED to do so. You are allowing yourself to be taken advantage of.

>German
>audacity to call a self described cuck a cuck
Look Ferdinand, I’m living the cuck-lyfe against my own accord, but I’m not going to take a German of all things seriously.
So in the meantime why don’t you go back to posting-
>muh third reich
As to-
>polluting this board
Forgive my degenerate post kamerad.
I’m not looking for advice.
I want to hear it from other men and how it’s affected their lives.

When did Yas Forums become saturated with fucking teenagers.

My gf cheated on me and blamed me for it after being together for 5 years
I punched her in the face and called her a whore
Don't be a cuck you fucking retard
If I had known she was cheating I would have left her earlier
I kicked her out of the house and broke up with her then she got beaten and raped in a cab that night
I called her after finding out and said that she got what she wanted, which was to be used by men, and she cried about how I'm so mean and abloobloobloo
Oh no a whore couldn't use her body for her wants and desires
Who gives a shit
Who cares about the feelings of a manipulative whore, because she sure as fuck doesn't care about you and that is a fact
Dump her retard and hope that she ropes so she doesn't ruin your life
Protip she won't rope because she doesn't care either

Just tell her you became gay. She’ll understand and not kill herself. And you can get her to set you up with her bull you little cuck.

applause but you should know the rape was connived just to fish for sympathy. she probably just fucked around for fun

It's really really simple, you break up with her after telling a mutual friend ahead of time and making sure she's not alone. My friend did this to an ex who was threatening suicide if she left him, and he never even attempted.
Has she attempted before in her life?

If you aren't trolling OP, this is your best bet. You also need to document your interactions with her now, so when she inevitably tries to pull the domestic abuse and rape cards on you after she doesn't get her way, you can hopefully have a chance at saving yourself.

Let her kill herself, a girl I was dating cheated on me and I left her. Came back to collect my stuff and she’d slit her wrists I just walked out.

She must have realized that I really really did not care so she never tried it again. It’s for attention and it’s not your responsibility

>I know a lot of you are teenagers, so please let the adults talk

Fuck off back to online class kiddo. You shouldn’t have proposed to a psycho. Kys before she commits first

Uh just have proof she is cheating and leave here. if she is going to commit suicide she just want attention. Flip the tables on her....

The mod are faggots.
It’s essential Gray theory, I just have to wait for her to leave out of boredom by being reserved and non-reactionary. Eventually the push-pull dynamic will be broken and she’ll leave in order to satiate her psychic-vampirism.
I don’t prefer her happiness.
I just don’t want to be arrested for false claims of abuse, be it assault, rape, etc.
I have, and fear god the level of hell I paid for that meltdown was so incredible I’ll never do it again.
If I had a kid with her I’d be tempted to kill myself, the only thing stopping me would be for the kid’s sake.
Violence doesn’t work. It’s the reaction they want.
It’s not a matter of me wanting to help, it’s a matter if not wanting to deal with prison on made up accounts.
I’ve had law enforcement over about twelve times now to place her in mental treatment facilities. Thankfully she’s so crazy that they are through her shit and take her to treatment, but as time goes on the adult-tantrums become more conniving and mature due to trial and error.

Has anybody here actually been in a relationship dynamic like this?
I’m really just wanting to talk to other men who’ve gone through this ordeal.
I posted on Yas Forums to talk about some of the political issues brought on from women with mental disorder, examples being #MeToo, etc.

OP, is your fiancé named Sara by any chance?

>she threatens suicide and I know she’ll follow through
lol, then let her.
Sounds like a problem that solves itself. Ditch the bitch. You're wasting your life.

The trick is to slowly make her grow tired of you, slowly stop validating her, slowly stop supporting her, she'll eventually leave you on her own

OP, I had this exact situation you’re describing some 10 years ago. I can talk to you about it in great depth and how to escape, and what you need to do to protect yourself. Do you have a form of contact?

Can we start doing it to the orthodoxes and make it 110?

You need to stand up for yourself and stop giving a shit about what she says because you are leaving her anyway. You need to assert yourself as alpha by arguing back, not letting her get her way, and above all, make her think you dont care. This will drive her to leave you or get the hots for you. A man who will stand up for himself and has confidence and doesnt care is the hottest thing to a girl like her. She sounds like she might be crazy enough to be pushing you because secretly she wants you to step up and be in charge. Especially if she is regressing and being childish. A child should not be in charge and with both children and dogs, is when they start acting irrational and confrontational it means they want you to be in charge and set boundaries. She will either calm down, or leave you which is what you want, so stop giving a shit and start being the man she is trying to harass you to be.

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start reading user. Start reading. the internet is a wealth of knowledge on intersexual dynamics. No fucking excuses. Start with "There is no One" read some articles about BPD. Dump that bitch. no excuses.

>>Tried leaving her multiple times, but each time she threatens suicide and I know she’ll follow through
why do you care?

My wifey of 10 years has BPD, I know where you are coming from on the suicide front and the weird behaviour (not so weird anymore ofc lol)

You need to sit her down and talk to her and explain what you have told on a chinese bat soup cooking board. If she cares then it will be obvious, if not walk out, call some professional facility to watch her, its not your problem at that point.

Based kwassie

I went through this myself. Bro, it's actually not your responsibility. I left my bpd gf who was threatening suicide and guess what? She's still alive after a couple of years. Don't marry this crazy bitch. You're giving her a fully loaded gun and expecting her not to shoot you. I repeat
DO
NOT
MARRY
HER

Because I don’t want to be arrested for trumped up charges and be sentenced by a system that grossly favors women over men.
She has tried killing her self, and as of now her body is riddled with Tiger striping. I’ve had to save her from OD’ing, I’ve had to bandage her, clean her wounds, etc.
I don’t want her to hurt herself, nor do I want her to die. It’s wrong.
I’ve documented it and have witnesses. The issue is just waiting for her to leave on decent to mediocre terms.
Funny enough she has an incredible fear I’m gay and will leave her for a “QT Trap”.
That’s nice Johnny. Keep it up.

You're an idiot. She won't actually ki herself. It's a tactic used to make sure you don't leave and it's working.

Fucking gay, let her kill herself you stupid cuck

The threat of suicide is no reason to stay. You are not a prisoner and I suspect the reason you cling to the notion is because it excuses you from taking responsibility for the CHOICE youre making by staying with her.

Prediction: you know you need to leave but you won't. And by the time she's finished with you, you'll either be an emotional wreck or in gaol.

You have to get out. man. You know intellectually how this will end but emotionally you believe you'll be the exception because you confuse her mania with intense love.

I get it, I used to be attracted to the same kind of women.

And don't think letting her be the bad guy in the break up will save you from negative repercussions. That's a trap a lot of people fall into when dealing with BPD girls. If she's the bad guy, she'll work doubly hard to make you look like the bad guy to others and even herself. Thats how you start getting crazy accusations thrown at you.

is BPD bipolar or borderline? I guess sometimes it's both bc my understanding is borderline is a fun tagalong to bipolar

>Tried leaving her multiple times, but each time she threatens suicide and I know she’ll follow through

So what, faggot.
You deserve you're suffering.

Borderline personality disorder

Had a psycho bipolar wife. Leaving her was the best thing that I ever did for myself.

She stole money and drugs from everyone. Didn't pay bills. Wrote checks to herself. Hell I couldn't open a checking account for seven years because of her.

Left her, went to community college, finished degree at a research university, and ended up with a PhD from Harvard.

If I had stayed with her because of her emotional manipulations, I would still be a dirty townie, using drugs, and probably poor as shit.

Nut up and leave her, her life isnt your responsibility

She wont do it anyway, its just emotional manipulation

yes, you are in great danger. BPD and HPD are actually euphemisms for female psychopathy. I was attacked by a female psychopath in a males body about 2 years ago and it warped my mind. these are murderous women/whores. good luck.

You have what in italian is known as "Crocerossina" syndrome,you feel like you have a moral duty towards your partner,so instead of leaving them you rationalise whatever they do to you.
>He beat me after lunch
>Well,he probably had a bad day and maybe he didn't like the meal,next time I'll do better.
Go to a psychologist and talk about your situation,tell him she is making you feel suicidal,then leave her a message where you write that you cannot take it anymore and that's it has been weeks you have been thinking about ending yourselves because of her.
Or maybe you like this situation because you feel validated by caring for another human?
Who am I to judge?
Is she good looking?

Ending yourself*
As in killing your life

This.
user, you need to leave that bitch. If you feel like you're about to be kicked in the balls, you're probably about to be kicked in the nuts.

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No, sorry bud.
I’m an adult, my morality isn’t high school tier anymore bud.
That’s what I’ve been doing.
I don’t, I appreciate the gesture though.
It’s mind numbing. It frustrates me how society refuses the psychiatric treatment this women need yet are immediate to side with them.
It just doesn’t work like that bud.
Will give it a read, thanks.
Because I’m not a teenage and have an adult sense of right and wrong.
Thanks bud.
I’ve sat her down and slowly it has gotten better, the issue is how much of it is genuine vs her being better at various manipulations, etc.
I’m an idiot for posting on Yas Forums btw.
I haven’t been on here in a while but it’s gone to incredible shit.
Trust me, I won’t.
I’m just waiting for her to leave.
What sucks is she has the intention of self destruction if I do.

Was in your situation for years. GF cheated. Took the opportunity to leave and never look back. She's probably happier without me. Fuck if I care.

>What sucks is she has the intention of self destruction if I do.
She wont. And if she does, it's not your problem. I went through the the same that you did, only I wasn't engaged

You're a homosexual right? when/how were you diagnosed? my home was attacked by a bpd male and then he overdosed on heroin.

I'm 30 and I've heard the same bullshit from several bitches in my life.
They aren't worth it faggot. Move on and quit empowering the cunt.

>This
And don't just leave the bitch. Block all communication. Call the cops if she won't shut the fuck up or threatens you. You should start accepting that you don't give a fuck if she lives or dies. If you can't then you're fucked to be a beta cuck forever. Now get the fuck off of Yas Forums with this garbage

I know your pain OP, I dated a BPD chick my freshman year back in 2013 and holy hell the scars she left still haven't faded.
I have to give her credit is where credit is due, her sheer insanity is what eventually led me to become completely redpilled on women in general.
This girl was so tapped that she essentially felt no shame in admitting all the things most women wouldn't dare say out loud at the time that is. Saying shit like 7/10 women fantasize about rape on a regular basis. I swear she was trying to piss me off in hopes I would out of anger, which really fucked with my head for a long ass time.
The irony is that even after I broke up with her SHE REFUSED TO LET ME GO. I wasn't ALLOWED to leave her life so to speak. Even after the two dozen dicks shoved down her throat she couldn't stand to see me gone.
I could never fully grasp why some women can just do all the most horrible things possible and still cry like children when they start to lose friends.
Anyway that ends my story, just wanted to share it with you OP.

Oh I almost forgot, she was fucking loaded.
Fucken rich girls man, its all about them.

I’m actually a QT trap on Yas Forums OP suck my benis and leave your degenerate gf

Op here.
This thread is going to shit and I won’t be posting anymore.

To everyone who’s given support-
Thank you.

To everyone shitposting-
Like my “fiancée” get psychiatric help.

Peace.

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You should do the right thing, and I'm not suggesting it's easy. But it's right.

It's time to break up. That is clear, you have no doubt, so it's time.

So do it, then the moment she threatens suicide, drive her to the hospital and drop her off. They'll admit here and take care of her until she gets better. Make clear to her that you will *not* be waiting for her after she gets out, that it's over. Yes she may over-react, but she'll be in the right place to let those emotions out and get help.

That's all you have to do. You'll be a good person, and you'll be free.

you might not be bpd and instead a male psychopath/narcissist.

let her an hero. problem solved

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I'm same boat except longer relationship, and I pray every day she will cheat so I can leave. Never happens though.

bpd women actually are suicidal. a lot of them commit suicide from emptiness/low impulse control.

they can be homicidal too

>I’m not looking for advice.
>To everyone shitposting-
>Like my “fiancée” get psychiatric help.

OP's a troll. Even if somehow he's not, the thread is in the wrong place. Just report and move on. Save your altruism for another thread.

You should leave her, killing herself is probably a bluff, and if it’s not your responsibility. She’s manipulating you.

Listen dude, you sound exactly how I did some 9-10 years ago. There is no solving BPD. There is no cure. She has shown her hand, this is going to be the rest of your life. It will NEVER improve. There are a series of simple steps you can do to escape.

1. Read up on and understand BPD fully. Several people have linked you to important articles and resources in this thread. You will have “oh my god this is totally me” moments reading them. The point is to understand the cycles so you can STOP getting caught up in them. You are becoming a viewer in the third person from this moment on. Leave emotion and vulnerability at the door

2. Begin cataloguing and creating a log of EVERY instance you have of her being abusive to you. Texts, emails, you name it. Screen cap, copy paste and put the logs in word documents. You MUST do this to protect yourself. Ensure you don’t look like you could be painted a villain in anything you document. Get the REALLY abusive exchanges and conversations she’s had with you where you are truly the victim of her behavior (including threats of suicide, other outrageous projection blaming etc)

3. Get out. Explain the situation to her and give her it straight, calmly and honestly. Do not argue with her, or get angry, or throw insults. Think of it like writing a farewell letter but you’re airing your grievances like an adult who is above and beyond her nonsense. It doesn’t matter what she says at this point. She’s going to freak out and begin her old tricks of trying to rope you back in, including threatening suicide. It’s not your responsibility.

4. Begin no contact. Stop responding to her messages, her calls. Go cold turkey. Ignore her. Alert your close friends and relatives of the situation and that they should ignore her/not have them get roped in and become a liaison/hostage in the situation. She will try to stalk you, harass you, call at all hours of the day. Document all of this. Add it to your file from step 2.

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>Have BPD Fiancée
actual retard
>Tried leaving her multiple times, but each time she threatens suicide and I know she’ll follow through
so what?
>Forced to compromise my own happiness and pass up genuine romantic prospects
you're not forced to to shit, you're just being a faggot

You are retarded and should leave her. She's lying about killing herself. My wife is bpd but most of that manifests in a eating disorder. Her parents were abusive and she has huge fear of abandonment. Not worried about her cheating or anything since she is so hyper anxious and shy she doesn't like going out on her own much or have many friends. We have issues, but she has never been as bad as some of these stories I hear.

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5. Go on with your life. You’ve done everything you can to protect yourself and continue without her. Resist responding to her, it Is all an act. She will find another lackey to become a slave to her manipulations and abuse. They always do. Do not under any circumstances ever speak to her again. You are officially dead in her world, keep it that way. You are unreachable. She will hurriedly look to fill the void with a replacement

6. You’re free. You probably have some form of PTSD from all this abuse. You will experience it over the coming months and years. Talk to friends, family. Spend time doing constructive things in your life. Find what made you happy and an individual again. You need to, it’s the only way to move on. In time, you’ll find true happiness and a woman who actually loves you, too.

Why is this a question? Leave. You can't reason with BPD and it just makes your life hell. My girlfriend's mother has it and she's fucking insane. Literally borders on sadistic psychopathy.

>bpd
>suicide

She loves her self too much to do it, unironically

Normally my advice is to not touch crazy bitches with a ten foot dick. But since you already did I have to suggest not giving a fuck and leaving her anyway. if she an hero's that's natural selection. As a man the worst position you can be in is under the thumb of some crazy female.

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>>Tried leaving her multiple times, but each time she threatens suicide and I know she’ll follow through
so? what's the problem?

You better fuckin read
I didn’t type all that for you to abandon thread and learn nothing

very aynrandian. Nice.
For all the ones who don't understand Objectivism, here's an example applied.

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